Holidays let children put down their mobile phones parents try to do this

With the arrival of the winter vacation, some children have fallen into a fascination with mobile phones, playing games, watching videos, playing social software, and even eating and walking, they will look at the mobile phone screen from time to time. This situation has made many mothers fall into anxiety. How to make the "divine beasts" put down their mobile phones? Zhang Yahan, an intermediate psychotherapist at the Eighth Hospital of Shijiazhuang City, gave support to the mothers.

9-year-olds are addicted to mobile phones and can't help themselves

Shijiazhuang 9-year-old Xuanxuan since the winter vacation, the mobile phone does not leave the hand every day, and recently there is a trend of addiction, eating also needs his mother to call half a day to come, from time to time still staring at the mobile phone, even homework is too lazy to write. He also secretly used his grandmother's mobile phone to charge his account. After Xuan Xuan's mother found out, she repeatedly communicated with Xuan Xuan, not only did not improve, but also made a fuss about running away from home. In desperation, Xuanxuan's mother came to the psychotherapist for consultation, "The child always plays games, I say he does not listen" "I have to go to work every day, I can't always look at him, he can't control his mobile phone, what to do?" ”

Zhang Yahan said that recently many mothers are like this mother, the child began to be anxious after the holiday, worried that the child played with mobile phones every day and abandoned school, infected with bad habits. And children play mobile phones and tablets for a long time is indeed very harmful, such as damage to vision, resulting in vision loss, and even leading to glaucoma; injury to the spine, leading to cervical spondylosis, lumbar spondylosis; destruction of children's original learning habits and living habits; the current telecommunications fraud methods are constantly changing, and students are also one of the main victim groups.

Parents should do the same

How to avoid the "mythical beasts" from playing electronic products for a long time during the holidays?

First of all, parents should not be too anxious. Anxious emotions are contagious, and communication is often ineffective under overly anxious emotions, which is not conducive to the maintenance of parent-child relationships. Parents should reasonably vent their anxiety, and they can also digest each other with their spouses. Moreover, parents should realize that playing electronic products appropriately and moderately is beneficial to the growth of children, such as young children can obtain a lot of knowledge in electronic products; many older children will say that playing games will reduce stress, and will also make them feel accomplished.

Second, see the needs behind the child. Many children think of electronic products when they are bored and don't know what to do to solve it. Parents want to see the needs behind their children: "I want to be accompanied, I need to be paid attention to. "For young children, parents should spend more time with their children, and can do some parent-child games according to their children's interests and hobbies, such as handicrafts, drawing, etc.; older children, parents can communicate frankly with their children, make holiday plans with him/her, and also stipulate the time to play electronic products." Don't often play with your phone when your child is crying and bored, and don't use your phone as an artifact to coax your child.

Finally, help children develop a sense of rules. Stipulate the time to play electronic products, the time is up to the requirements, children over 3 years old should have a sense of rules. At the same time, as a parent, you must also be able to withstand the emotional reactions of your children as a result, such as smaller children will cry, older children will be angry, etc., as a parent, you must give companionship and comfort. It is recommended that parents also control the time of playing mobile phones and set an example for their children. If the child's mobile phone game is addicted, parents should not blindly accuse or even scold the child, you can find a professional psychologist to help.

Text/Heqing News Network reporter Wang Shan

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