Go to a friend's house to play, it was summer, the weather was quite hot. Her four-year-old daughter had to wear a pair of shiny thick boots, and her friends repeatedly persuaded her not to take them off. The little girl also proudly showed off to me: "Auntie, do you see my boots, like they don't look like the princess wears?" Does it match my skirt? ”
After getting my affirmative answer, the little girl almost jumped up in excitement.
My friend shook his head helplessly and asked me: "Is it normal for a child to start stinking and beautiful at such a young age?" ”
Of course it's normal!
Children love stinky beauty and pay attention to dressing up, not because of vanity, but because of aesthetic sensitivity!
Aesthetic sensitivity refers to the aesthetic behavior of children between the ages of 2.5 and 5. In general, it has the following spiral of development.
When the aesthetic sensitivity period comes, the earliest is to start from eating. For example, if a child wants a cookie, you must not break it open and give him half of it, he must be complete, otherwise he may fall into a breakdown.
After this period, their attention quickly shifted to the pursuit of perfection in other objects. For example, the paper cannot have a gap, and when drawing a wrong stroke, the whole painting will be torn off.
Then he began to focus his attention on himself, and suddenly had a strong desire for his own pursuit of beauty. For example, girls are interested in cosmetics and always secretly take their mother's cosmetics to make up.
Huang Lei's little daughter sister likes to take her mother's lipstick to give herself a "flaming red lip", Xiaobian thinks it is still very beautiful!
As the child continues to develop during this sensitive period, he will be particularly interested in what he wears, like my friend's daughter, who wears thick boots in the summer, and is too hot to take off...
In addition to makeup and clothing selection, aesthetic sensitivity periods are also manifested in various aspects. Slowly, he began to choose the environment, and then the quality, the work of art. From this period onwards, he can keenly perceive the changes in the environment and atmosphere, and will choose a beautiful environmental life and beautiful works of art to appreciate.
Sun Ruixue said in "Capturing Children's Sensitive Period": "In fact, the temperament of adults is caused by the aesthetics of childhood, and the aesthetics of childhood lay the aesthetic tendency and quality of life of people throughout their lives. ”
We often say that a person is very temperamental, looks elegant and generous, which in addition to his experience, knowledge, but also has a lot to do with his makeup, clothing, hairstyle, etc., so aesthetics can help children form their own temperament, which has a great impact on the child's future temperament and charm.
When a child has the ability to perceive beauty and has a certain aesthetic quality, then when he grows up, under the same economic conditions and social status, his quality of life will be higher than others, and it is easier to feel happiness, which is the important significance of aesthetic education for children's growth.
Some parents sneer at their children's stinky behavior, believing that their children are immodest, vain, and a waste of time... This will only make children more and more inferior, and even produce a sense of shame in beauty.
The famous host Dong Qing once talked about his father's education of blowing himself. When Dong Qing was young, her father did not let her look in the mirror more, did not allow her mother to make new clothes for her, and thought that girls could not put too much thought into dressing.
According to Dong Qing, "My father has a famous saying that potatoes are also potatoes when they are dressed up. He said that the time you spend every day looking in the mirror is not as good as reading more books. ”
This strict way of education of his father once made Dong Qing feel very inferior: "I have no sense of security and no self-confidence, so I can only use my life to do a lot of things and do things well." ”
William James said, "Deep in the heart of man there is a desire to be appreciated." A "star" like Dong Qing, who shines brightly on the stage, is still difficult to let go of when talking about his father's education method.
So, for children who have entered the aesthetic sensitive period, how should parents correctly guide them? The following points can be referred to.
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Do not exclude the child's beauty behavior, allowing appropriate exploration
"The heart of loving beauty, everyone has it", we must understand that the child is in this special period of life, look at it with a normal heart, do not suppress and ridicule, and allow the child to explore freely within the appropriate range.
For example, you can let the child choose and match clothes and decide their own hairstyle, maybe at the beginning the child's aesthetic is difficult to say, but slowly will explore their own style.
You can also let the child participate in the decoration of the family, give the child a certain freedom, let him decorate his room, and encourage the child to create a beautiful living environment by himself.
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Guide children to pay attention to the inside and instill aesthetic dialectics
First of all, don't always praise your child for "you are so beautiful", "you are really handsome", etc., let the child realize that both inside and outside is the real beauty.
Praise should be guided to the inner quality, such as "you helped your mother sweep the floor today, really capable", "you help others, really enthusiastic people"...
Second, let the child understand the dialectic of aesthetics. For example, although Hawking is physically disabled, he has become the greatest physicist of modern times. There are many people who are very simple and ordinary, but very kind and righteous, and they are also beautiful.
Finally, resist vulgarity with your children. Imitation is the nature of children, when it is found that children are imitating some eyeball-catching network videos, thick makeup, twisting posture, parents must give the right guidance, let him realize what is the real beauty.
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Encourage children to discover and feel the beauty around them
Regarding aesthetics, Mr. Mu Xin, a contemporary Chinese writer and painter, once said a very sharp sentence: Without aesthetic power, it is a terminal illness, and knowledge cannot be saved. The aesthetic sensitivity period is also an important period for cultivating children's aesthetics. If our children are fortunate enough to be exposed to all kinds of beautiful things in childhood, such as beautiful landscapes, beautiful architecture, elegant works of art, a beautiful atmosphere of life... Then no matter where he goes and what he experiences in the future, this perception and enjoyment of beauty will infiltrate his heart and accompany him for life.
You can also do this:
Go to the mountains, rivers, lakes and seas with your children to experience the beauty of nature.
Take your children to concerts and art exhibitions to feel the beauty of art.
Cultivate hobbies that are related to beauty and have nothing to do with interests.
Improve aesthetic appreciation by appreciating famous paintings and listening to famous songs.
Beauty is one of the ways to make life more interesting and happier. Mr. Zhu Guangqian pointed out in the article "On Aesthetic Education": "The function of education is to conform to the nature of human beings to seek knowledge, think well, and love beauty, so that a person can get the maximum harmony and development in these three aspects to achieve a perfect life." "Encourage children to love beauty, teach children to discover beauty, create beauty, is a lesson that many parents will ignore but is very important for children, from now on, let "beauty education" integrate into children's daily life, he will love himself more, love the world!
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