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"People who don't love themselves, it's hard to get the love of others." This sentence is familiar to many people and is regarded as a golden sentence.
However, not many people really know how to love themselves, and even fewer people really choose the right method and insist on doing it.
As the pace of life gets faster and faster, people continue to face more uncertainty, more stress and anxiety.
In addition to these, high workloads, emotional repression, inner loneliness, and spiritual emptiness.
It was as if caught in a vicious circle, and everything made people feel unhappy.
People understand that loving themselves is very important, but overtime can not stop, socializing can not escape, so there is cola boiled ginger, with thermos cup to soak goji berries.
What exactly is a good way to love yourself?
Different interests and hobbies, everyone's answer is different.
Some people go on a shopping spree when they are depressed, or eat a big meal, and as a result, the more they buy, the poorer they buy, the fatter they eat, and they are worried about their figure and the balance of The card.
Some people learn the method of psychological suggestion to constantly praise themselves and try to maintain a high mental state, but when they encounter accusations from superiors and revision requests from customers, this good mood disappears.
Some people choose to be a monk one day to hit the clock, everything is arranged according to their own preferences, first of all to meet their own ideas, resulting in more and more people away from themselves...
Maybe everyone has a different way of releasing stress, but how to love yourself, there are several standard answers that can never be wrong.
1. Take care of your body
The body is not only related to people's appearance, but also affects people's mental state.
Modern people's constant fatigue, emotional depression or irritability are actually related to the body.
Caring for the body seems to be a truth that everyone understands, but as the pressure of life becomes more and more intense, many people cannot even complete this most basic matter.
I want to take care of my own food, clothing, and living, but I don't have time to cook, I want to rest well, but the work in my hand is not finished.
Putting the body in a comfortable and healthy state is extremely challenging for modern people.
If you want to truly cherish the body, not only in action, but also in the consciousness to clarify this:
The prioritization of everything is "body first".
This "first" is reflected in many ways.
For example, put down the work in hand during meal time, and eat seriously on time;
Stop forcing yourself to stay up late when you're tired;
Don't lie in bed on your day off, plan some outdoor activities for yourself, exercise seriously...
In addition, it also includes more detailed aspects, such as cleaning up the room, making the living environment more comfortable, and giving the body a more relaxed living space.
Only when the body feels comfortable, people are more likely to feel happy, and they are more powerful to resist external pressures and enter a virtuous circle.
2. Pay attention to feelings
Simply put, valuing feelings is not to be too aggrieved.
When the people or things around you make you feel pain, you can recognize the harmful relationships and understand these relationships, just like cutting off the tumor of emotions.
Everyone wants to be popular, but there are people in the world, and we can't be loved by everyone.
Whether it's because of fear of conflict or the desire for popularity, people often go against their will and do things they don't want to do.
On the surface, doing so can maintain a friendly image and maintain the harmony of the relationship, but this is an unhealthy state, just avoiding problems, suppressing their feelings, and consuming their own spirit.
To know how to love yourself is to understand what you don't want and say "no" to them.
Not just relationships, but even work.
Some people don't like their jobs, but for a variety of reasons they stay the same.
This makes people feel very painful, very stressed, if you can not adjust your own thoughts and cognition, from a positive point of view to re-examine the work, you can only adjust the action, that is, to change jobs.
After all, maintaining the harmony and comfort of your own spirit can make your emotions more stable and relaxed.
3. Be less demanding
Many people have embraced the idea of being better than themselves since childhood; and constantly improving to become a better version of themselves.
But there is a heaven outside the sky, and there are always people who are better than us.
Whenever we become a "better version of ourselves," there is a "better version of ourselves" ahead.
In fact, when many people run forward, they don't even recognize what they look like now, and they go after the "better self".
In the end, Handan was confused, and I didn't understand whether I was really getting better and what the meaning of getting better was.
People who love themselves always learn to "be better themselves" first.
People who don't know themselves, no matter what choices they make, the results are difficult to benefit themselves.
Reflect well, feel well, and recognize yourself well, in order to find a kind of inner peace in a real and sincere state.
Everyone has flaws and deficiencies, and in order to be a "better version of themselves," people often ignore or even reject them.
However, only by recognizing these can you make the choice that suits you best.
Understand what you like, what you hate, what you are good at, and what you don't fit into, in order to know what to be a "better version of yourself."
Know yourself and know the other, win every battle.
Only by seeing yourself clearly can you truly love yourself.
The so-called love of oneself is not to put oneself first in everything, nor is everything based on one's own interests.
That would only satisfy one's own self-interest.
Loving yourself is an ability, to take the initiative to learn and improve, and to find a better way in constant revision.
Take care of food, clothing, and living, establish and maintain healthy relationships, accept shortcomings and emotions, and firmly protect yourself.
People who know how to love themselves are very determined.
No matter what the people around you say, no matter what interference you are subjected to, such as whether the work is decent, whether the salary is high or low, whether you have married and had children at the "right" age, etc., people who know how to love themselves can clearly face themselves and face their hearts.
I will not be confused, and I will not easily deny myself.
Such firmness will form a kind of protection in interpersonal relationships, and it will also become a force for pursuing happiness.
Wilde once said: "Loving yourself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." ”
The only people in this world who can accompany us all the time are ourselves.
If we don't love ourselves, who will love us?