In daily life, the more powerful women are in their hearts, the more "indifferent" they are, because they know how to "cultivate their hearts".
The so-called cultivation of the mind, that is, to cultivate one's own heart, to make oneself strong, not to be insulted, to watch the flowers bloom and fall before the court, to stay unintentional, and to follow the clouds outside the sky.
When we become strong inside, we become "indifferent" to the world, because nothing can easily stir up our emotions. So, how do we practice our minds?
The heart wants to be empty, so Goku
The so-called Goku lies in two aspects, one is to be empty of material desires, and the other is to be empty when dealing with interpersonal relationships.
Sometimes people feel confused and anxious about the future, a large part of the reason is because they want too much, but their ability cannot keep up with their ideals.
Socrates once said, "Contentment is a natural wealth, and desire is man-made poverty." ”
Only when a person returns to his original heart and goes to complexity and simplicity can he truly understand what he wants, and the more he gets, the more he loses, and when we only pursue the simplest material desires, we will not suffer from loss because of fear of loss.
In addition, we also have to cut off social interactions, wine and meat friends, friends who only know how to emit negative energy, friends who have nothing to do but can't see others have a good life, these do not need us to spend time to maintain.
People always say that the more friends the better, people always say that it is better to be a group, but there is nothing more terrible in this world than being in a crowd and having to live alone.
Therefore, Goku, empty of matter, empty of ineffective social, so that he can make his heart strong.
The heart must be fixed, so the Five Elements Mountain is fixed on the ape
01) Concentration is to cultivate one's own heart that is not insulted and inviolable, and to understand that not all people in this world have a relationship with themselves, and most people are just passers-by who meet in Pingshui.
What happens to us has nothing to do with others, and what happens to others has nothing to do with ourselves, don't overestimate our position in other people's hearts, and don't overestimate the status of others in their hearts.
Concentration, that is, to cultivate your ability to control emotions, not to drill the horns, not to expand a trivial thing, and not to be too "smart".
Because life is rarely confused, sometimes smart is mistaken by smart, look down on a little, confused, life will have a rare happiness.
02), concentration, that is, to look down on some things, to learn to "turn a blind eye", to learn to be lazy, to learn to be selfish, because not all people in this world can uphold the nature of goodness.
Sometimes, the sinister nature of human nature is unimaginable, if innocent, selfless and blindly kind, then a sincere effort may be exchanged for being disappointed.
Therefore, in order to avoid being hurt by human nature, many times, we need to reduce our expectations of human nature at the beginning, you take your Yangguan Road, I cross my canoe bridge, if you want, you can help, if you don't want to, don't worry about it.
Take your own heart as the main principle, and without harming others, everything is considered for yourself.
In this way, we lower our expectations so that we don't let our emotions fluctuate.
The heart must be done, so take the true scriptures step by step
01), ok, that is, to pay practical action, that is, self-growth, some things to be done do not need to be said with great fanfare, but just as a slogan, but hidden in their own hearts, but the soul and footsteps have always been on the way forward, do not care about the eyes of others, do not care whether they will gain or lose, but follow their own hearts.
As long as you start, as long as you decide to do it, you will unswervingly work hard, to struggle, even if it is really unsatisfactory in the end, there will be no regrets in the end, after all, I have worked hard at the beginning, and I have tried my best, and in the process of continuous efforts, my heart has also begun to be complicated and simple, and I have begun to become indifferent and stable.
At this time, we can calmly cope with the changes in the world, and we will not worry about what will happen in the future, which will fill us with unknown panic, because we are pragmatic, because we will not stay in a comfortable environment for too long, so we have a sense of distress, and naturally we will cultivate a strong heart.
02), there is a warm boiled frog effect in psychology, which refers to a person who has been in a comfortable environment for a long time, then people's thinking will be blunted, and when facing a new environment, they will become powerless, have more than enough and lack of strength, and can only be abandoned by the times.
And the women who move forward step by step, the women who keep jumping out of their comfort zone, the women who keep adding new things to their lives.
Their way of thinking has always been full of flexibility, they can enjoy the better, and they can also deal with the bad calmly. Therefore, their hearts are strong, so they are invincible.