We often see some female elites, such as female celebrities, female entrepreneurs, and female politicians, etc., which can be said to be a model of successful women and will be regarded by many as a model for lifelong learning.
The height of these people in their fields, it may be that I, and the vast majority of female friends, have not been able to surpass in their careers in their lifetime, and no matter how hard we try, we cannot all become female stars, female entrepreneurs and female politicians, and stand in a very high political or business position.
However, if we know how to handle gender relations and know how to manage our feelings, each of us may become a happy little woman with children and daughters, a happy family, a husband who loves and is satisfied. This goal can be achieved with our actions.
People often ask me why I know a lot of big truths, but I can't talk about love and can't get into marriage, or even if I get married, I can't feel happiness, because the consummation of love and the happiness of the family, how many girls' desires, but how many people know that these are the needs of us to achieve through hard work, I have seen a lot of silly little girls, when they meet the boys they like, either without principles, without a bottom line, they are good to him, and they always think in their hearts, he may one day be touched by me. One day he should be able to read my heart.
But the fact is that boys are getting farther and farther away from him, and some girls, they have been waiting for him to wait for him, even if the other party has a fluctuating heart, they are also looking forward to it, as long as the other party turns back to be able to see themselves, afraid that once they walk away, he is not there when he turns back, they always think, is he floating enough to be able to settle down, play enough is not also want to have a home, with this brute force and stupidity, they enjoy to express love, release love, but always use the wrong way to choose the wrong direction, That's why good girls are always hurting.
There are also some girls, they especially advocate self-struggle, but often in the pursuit of dreams, they lost themselves, let themselves become a veritable female man, completely abandoned the identity of women, they preach independence, to absolute equality, extremely feel that women do not need men, blindly only want to compete with boys, when they climb the summit to find a panoramic view of the mountains, the men around them are not worthy of themselves, and gradually miss their own happiness, wait until they are middle-aged, Find out that the original humble hairy boys, turned out to be a diamond, how did not find out earlier, have become other people's husbands, in fact, this is because if women, completely as men to fight, then your choice of mate, and marriage may become your price, because when you become a man among women, waiting to match you is the woman in the man.
Women can indeed throw shot put balls, and even you can throw better than men, but if you want to show the femininity of women by throwing shots, get ballet awards, make people think that you have an elegant temperament, and finally be favored by male shot put players, it is impossible, you can't show your majesty on the one hand, while delusionally saying that the domineering president is in love with me, the domineering president will only choose those ballet skills, and the girls who are stunning the whole audience are amazing.
Just like Liu Qiangdong chose the milk tea sister, Jay Chou chose Kunling, they will not choose a female version of Ma Yun, nor will they choose a female version of Wang Sicong, such a collocation came to the end, the man who threw the shot put ball, the woman who danced the ballet was married, and the only thing left was the man who danced the ballet, and the woman who threw the shot put looked at each other.
So girls, if you live yourself into the man you want, then what awaits you can only be a handsome guy who needs your support, or a housewife man, in fact, many girls who are particularly excellent in their careers, not that you are not successful enough or you understand less reason, but you do not recognize where the gender advantage of women is, nor do you know how to play her, on the one hand, you want to get the competitiveness of men, on the one hand, you want to enjoy the advantages of women's mate selection, when you go against the law, You can only suffer on the emotional path.
That is not to say, women can not love career double harvest, can not work hard to struggle, no, of course, you can double harvest, and I especially admire those inspirational struggle, hard work to pursue dreams, to achieve self-worth of women, because you have chosen a path from the beginning, destined to be more difficult than others, then it requires you to pay more efforts, the ability of men and women charm with both hands, so that you can get the marriage and partner you want, when you really do both hands to grasp, Both hands must be hard, you have gained more than others, when you recognize your gender advantages, you have to learn how to play your gender advantages, can not be abused.
For example, in our lives, there will always be two kinds of stories, one version is that before marriage, men spoil women to heaven, let him make trouble everywhere, but after marriage, especially after childbirth, men suddenly change their faces, all kinds of evil words, ignore, even night without return, let women with children have no way to do anything, in the eyes of women This change of face is without warning, he can not understand, why men before marriage, after marriage there will be such a big difference.
And another version is that before marriage men are very good to women, after marriage, men are more and more pampered and cared for women, so that people around are envious, why is the same before marriage, there will be such a big contrast, how to identify those bad men, how to find those good men, many things, really plant melons and beans, the reason why such a thing happens is because some people abuse their female gender advantages.
Let's think about why girls have the capital to do things in love and premarital stages. But the boy has to endure it again and again, and you will let him go when you are not happy. I thought, I want a boyfriend is not a matter of minutes. Yes, but he's a boy, he doesn't have the advantage of you. There are not so many girls chasing him, he wants a girlfriend, he has to pay a big hard price, just like the spare tire in the circle around you, they have to work hard to get your heart, right?
So before marriage you are in a dominant position and the value is at its peak, while men are in a disadvantageous position and the value is relatively low. So you have every way to let him pursue you, to be good to you, and it is precisely because of this that you have such a gender advantage from the beginning, from the beginning of adolescence has been enjoyed, the treatment of being pursued, used to losing temper with boyfriends, accustomed to talking about conditions, accustomed to threatening each other with breakups when arguing, usually men will coax and beg to let you, at this time, women are relying on their gender advantages, enjoying the pleasure brought by high value.
But this world, ah, very fair, men's risk before the pursuit of hands, women's risk in the pursuit of hands, with the different time relations and circumstances, the value of both men and women is changing, women's gender dominance status is not eternal, on the contrary, it is very short, and men's gender advantage will be further reflected after marriage, especially after childbirth, the advantages and disadvantages between women and men will be exchanged over time, so if you are before marriage, or before childbearing, If you have always been oppressive to the man, then after marriage, especially after childbirth, it is easy for the man to turn around and be bad to you.
And it is particularly easy to cheat, the value of men and women is the relationship between this and the other, if the attitude of girls to boys before marriage determines the return of men to women after marriage, then it is equivalent to that you use a short period of good premarital performance, you can exchange for a long decades of marital gains, so low investment and high return of the emotional model, in fact, women benefit a lot, so emotional happiness, marriage satisfaction These need to rely on wisdom to operate.
Many people think that women who understand love must be in love, crawling and rolling, in order to really win the hearts of men, to be able to read what they are thinking, but in fact, this is not the case.
So, to learn some love skills, that is a very beneficial thing for us, some people may say, why should I learn love, this thing should not be natural, wrong, our learning is divided into two kinds, the first is intentional learning, the second is unconscious learning, many people they understand the skills of love, because they have learned in unconscious learning, for example, his parents are very loving, or he has a natural intuition, will guide him to do some things, However, some girls may have been poisoned by too many Korean dramas, or have been spoiled from childhood to adulthood, or lived in a very peculiar environment and did not learn the course of love, so these girls must correct their bad love habits through conscious learning, so that they can go to the end with the people you love, I want to say that the method of emotional management is to constantly observe, learn and grope, in order to be able to integrate.
And on your emotional road, I hope, can become the leader of the delivery of happiness to you, we want to be beautiful, constantly increase their attractiveness and charm, do women, you have to live into a successful woman's appearance, live out the wisdom of women, live out the wonderful women, women's success is not only career success, our success also contains happiness, happiness is not so difficult as imagined, the first step for women to harvest happy feelings and marriage, is to realize themselves, have an innate female gender advantage, We have to accept and love our gender, while respecting the differences between the sexes, the woman does what the woman does, the other things are left to the man, we have to be considerate and tolerant of their gender disadvantages, and try to discover and inspire the good and good side of them deep inside.
And show their own unique gender charm, do this, we can enjoy, the identity of women, bring us a steady stream of surprises, emotional happiness and marriage satisfaction.