Author | Inspector (1656 words, about 4 minutes to read)
The two-child and three-child policy can be said to have enabled many people to realize the dream of having both children and daughters, and it can also make children no longer lonely and fulfill the dreams of some families.
However, there are still some parents who are still in a wait-and-see state, hesitating whether to be born or not.
In this regard, many families have also launched a discussion on whether to have a second child, many elderly people are very interested in this topic, they hope that the family will prosper, so they will generally encourage young people to have a second child and a third child.
But many young people are not so willing, they think that the current life pressure is very high, if there is one more child, then it is bound to be difficult, the burden is very heavy, afraid of limited energy to raise badly.
However, since the introduction of this policy, many couples who do not want a second child have been "spawned" one after another. In the eyes of those who persuade the birth of a second child, now is a good time to have children, if you miss it, then the age difference between the two children will become larger, so it is inconvenient for them to communicate, Dabao may have opinions, and it is more tiring to raise. Many people who come here want their mothers to have a second child, as if "if they don't give birth, they will suffer losses." ”
★ Is having a second child necessarily a happy thing?
"Those who let me have 2 children are now adoring me," the post-90s mother said
The colleague is a post-90s mother, she did not have a lovely daughter until the age of 29 because she married late, and after giving birth to her daughter, the whole family is very happy. At that time, the two-child policy had been introduced, and although she was a little unhurried, many friends around her still advised her to hit another one while it was hot.
Many of these friends had already had a second child, so they also advised her to have a second child.
In fact, this mother does not dislike children, on the contrary, she and her husband like to play with children, but they still hope to have their own small space in addition to work and family. And she knows that her family's financial conditions are not enough to raise two children, so if she adds another child, then they will definitely not be able to take care of it, where will they have their own time to do what they like. Regardless of the persuasion of the people around her, she just insisted on her own ideas and no longer had a second child.
Today, her daughter is in kindergarten, and she and her husband have been working hard in their careers, and there are no other factors that delay their development. And the daughter is also very well-behaved, usually handed over to the elderly to take care of, the small two can also go out "tiannanhai north" to spend a sweet two-person world, send a dynamic to share their sweetness.
The most important thing is that she said that because there is only one child, the financial burden is not very heavy.
When she chatted with her friends, she found that most of the people who had asked her to have a second child were now very tired and admired her freedom and opinion.
She said: Whether or not to be born is her own business, not urged by others, it is a confused hard scalp, and the main opinion is that women must maintain rationality in everything they do.
Some second children are "spawned"
Many women have a second child, in large part because the elders in the family want them to seize such a good opportunity.
But in fact, they themselves have been hesitant and have no opinion. Under the impetus step by step, the second child was born in a vacuum, and after they gave birth to the second child, they found that their bodies were not as good as when they brought the big treasure before, and it was difficult for them to withstand high pressure alone.
And although the elders have always been born, after the child is actually born, many mothers will find that the elderly simply do not have the time and physical strength to take care of the children, let alone educate the children. Therefore, in the end, many women can only give up their careers and spend their time to take care of the second child. And in the matter of taking care of children, many mothers often quarrel with their elders, and this irritable mood will also cause more conflicts in the family.
Many mothers with second children say they really envy families who don't have children, or who have only one child. Because if that's the case, they'll at least have time to do their own thing. But after giving birth to a second child, their lives are all about two children, and they have no self at all.
●However, there are also many families that are happier and happier after having a second or even a third child.
They may like children, do not want children to become only children, or they may have the help of the elderly, and the family has sufficient financial ability. Therefore, they have the time and energy to take good care of the children, enjoy the joy of the world, and naturally live happier and happier.
To have children, we must have our own opinions
● Only children or multiple children, in fact, each has its own advantages and disadvantages.
It is not necessary to be happy if you have more children, or it depends on whether your family conditions and abilities are sufficiently supportive.
Others may be motivated by good intentions, they stand in their own position, in the light of their own family situation to analyze, but they must have their own opinions.
After all, giving birth to children needs their own education and care, and most of the children's things still need to be handled by the mother, so female friends, when making some choices, listen to their own voices, combine the opinions of others and make judgments.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
No matter how many children they have, they have very happy mothers, and the reason why they are so happy and do not feel that life is difficult is partly because they know how to self-regulate and can live according to their own plans.
Life is your own, no one can make decisions for you, nor can they do the role of mother for you, according to their own ideas, and create their own small home with their lovers.
Mothers, how do you think about having a second child?
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