Wen | Irene's Mommy Diary
We often say: ten years of hard reading, only for a dynasty gold list title.
Reading for children, indeed, will feel bitter, feel tired, but in order to be able to be on the list, choose a better life, this bit of suffering, this tired is actually nothing.
However, not all children can willingly eat this pain and endure this tiredness.
In the face of children complaining about the hardships of reading, reading tired, and even tired of school, many parents choose to give their children reasoning and talk about ideals, but there are also parents who find another way to let children understand in practice in a simple and direct way, learning is bitter, and not learning is more bitter.
If you can't eat the suffering of learning, you have to suffer from society
There is such a father in Huainan, Anhui Province, who directly brings his child to his place of work when he complains that he is tired of studying and studying hard.
The father was a cook who got up early every day and worked in the back kitchen.
The pot was heavy, but for the sake of life, he held it very steadily; the environment was very hot, but in order to earn money, he could bear it; the smoke was choking, but for the sake of responsibility, he could bear it.
It's just that when the son complains that he is tired of studying, or even tired of school, the father can't sit still.
Directly hand the heavy iron pot to the son and let the son lift it up hard.
Although the child tried to turn the pot upside down, his arm was raised several times and he could not really lift it.
Looking at the child's laborious appearance, although the father could not bear it, he still said sternly: End, give me a hard end, I let you try the pot weight or the pen weight in your hand, every day to tell you to study, you are tired; tell you to take the pen, you are tired; tell you to read books, you are tired, I let you try which tired?
Words, it seems impersonal, but this father finally warned his son in a serious tone: I can't eat the suffering of learning now, and I will suffer from society in the future.
Society is life, and to eat the suffering of society is to eat the suffering of life.
This father educates his children with practice, so that his son understands that learning is tired, and if he does not study, his future life will only be more tired.
Many people have praised his simple and effective way of educating.
Moreover, there are many parents who have similar ideas to this father.
Some parents take their children to the street to pick up garbage, some parents take their children to the countryside to do farm work, and some parents directly lead their children to the construction site to move bricks.
Its purpose is very simple, just to let children truly experience the bittersweet and bittersweet of life in labor, better than the endless nagging on weekdays, the former's education is silent, and the latter will only make children more bored and hate learning.
There are opportunities to choose in order to do what you like to do
But some people also question: this kind of education is not right, all walks of life have their own hard and interesting side, teach children to choose what they like to do.
At first glance, well, it's true, but there seems to be something wrong.
All walks of life have their hard and interesting side, not fake.
Teach your child to choose what they like to do, and it's not fake.
But there must be a premise here, that is, you have to have the right to choose.
When you don't even have the right to choose, just to live a living, even if you are happy in pain, I am afraid you will regret why you did not study well in the first place.
As Yan Zhenqing said: Black hair does not know how to study early, and Bai Shoufang regrets that he is late in studying.
Although we cannot guarantee that children will suffer from learning, the future days will not be hard, but we can guarantee that they will eat the pain of learning, and will make children have more choices in life in order to do what they like to do.
Just like the "985" and "double first-class" college graduates can choose to be a cook according to their own interests, but he can also choose to enter foreign companies and enter civil servants, but you only have high school graduation, can you have other choices?
The answer is obvious.
You may be more forced to accept for the sake of life than to do what you love to do.
Practical education is important, and so is parental reflection
It is undeniable that the educational methods in which parents let their children experience life in practice are very useful, but when children complain about learning hardships and even boredom, we as parents should also reflect on whether some of our behaviors have aggravated the performance of children's school boredom.
With the development of society, scientific and technological innovation, parents are very important to their children's education, some parents because they have suffered less reading, in order to let their children get rid of such a fate, so that the children are strict.
Some parents think that their children must be better than blue because their achievements are not bad, so they are strict with their children.
Some parents are strict with their children in order not to let their children be eliminated in the fierce social competition in the future.
What everyone has in common is that they care a lot about their children's learning.
Some parents accuse their children of not being serious when they see that their children's test scores do not meet their psychological expectations.
A few days ago, I saw such a message on the Internet complaining about the child's test scores.
The message said: My child scored 93 points on the test, and the whole family is scolding the child.
When I first saw this message, what came to my mind was the appearance of the child holding back.
Parents have high expectations for their children, which is understandable, but this way of treating children will not only make children feel tired of learning, but also may make children embark on the road of boredom.
It is not terrible to make a mistake in one test, but work harder next time.
Moreover, the child may also blame himself for his failure this time, at this time the child needs encouragement, so that the child can get good results next time, rather than scolding the child.
Therefore, in the face of children who feel tired of learning, or even tired of school, it is important to use practical education to let children experience the taste of life, but it is also very important for parents to reflect on whether they bring too much and too much pressure to their children.
The former allows children to experience the true meaning of life, and the latter allows children's hearts to have a place to live.
Written in the end: With the improvement of the current standard of living, many children are difficult to appreciate the hardships and efforts behind the good life, so let the children experience life early and understand the essence of life, which is beneficial and harmless to the child.
After all, it is too late when we regret that we have no conditions in front of life, but children can now learn how to live by reading.
Of course, maintaining a pleasant and warm family atmosphere will also make children full of wealth on the road of trying to choose life.
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