As children grow up, we also grow, and children are our teachers
Whenever I think of my children, I have mixed feelings in my heart. Children bring me a lot of pain and trouble in the process of growing up, but they also let me experience happiness and growth.
As children grow, he uses problem behaviors to remind us to reflect and prompt us to grow. From this point of view, children are really our teachers.
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Children become left-behind children at an early age and spend their childhood in a state of stocking
In the early years of our children, we spend too little time together. Just after reaching the age of one, he put it at home to be raised by the elderly, and only went home to see it once a week. Do not return to your child until you are three years old. In this way, children have the experience of left-behind children at an early age.
Even if I am with my children every day, I don't have the patience to play with my children. Always use the excuse that you are busy and don't play with your children.
In terms of children's education, we take the way of free-range, and children can do whatever they like. There is no such thing as other parents who plan for their children's growth and restrain their children in their behavior habits. Everything went its own way.
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The child is like a mirror that allows us to see ourselves clearly
We really didn't pay attention to educating our children, and we missed the best time to educate our children. It wasn't until I first discovered my child's bad habits that I realized this.
Children have many bad habits: throwing things around, procrastinating, impatient, throwing tantrums, throwing things, and talking rudely.
How did all this come about? I am afraid that it is inseparable from the behavior habits of parents. As the saying goes: parents are the best teachers for children. Every word and deed of a parent will subtly affect the child.
You don't have to tell so many big truths to your children, just use big reasons to ask your children, what convincing can you have if you haven't done it? Everyone understands the truth, the key is to ask children to do things you have to take the lead in practicing.
Only allowing oneself to be a state official to set fires, not allowing children to be the people to light lamps, this is too far-fetched and arbitrary, right? Which people will obey you? The child is like a mirror that allows us to clearly reflect ourselves.
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In the face of rebellious children, we take pains to thank children for giving us the opportunity to repair our relationships during adolescence
Children show rebellion earlier than their peers. As I get older, I rebel more and more fiercely. We are really helpless about this, and we have used all the methods we can use, and we have not achieved obvious results.
In the midst of the water, I began to reflect: what should I do? Like a drowning person trying to grasp a life-saving straw, I bought books to educate children from the Internet and began to read them locally. When I see many successful cases, my heart is no longer so anxious, and I urge myself to calm down and think.
Why are children rebellious? Should we look for reasons in ourselves?
We missed the growth of the child when he needed companionship, but when the child needed freedom, we clung to the child, and the whole child came to eat twist flowers and twist it!
I had a long talk with my lover and reached an agreement: respect the child and give the child more room to grow. Less criticism, more praise. Pay attention to the way of speaking: the attitude should be gentle, use more negotiation tone, do not condescend, domineering, and do not use the tone of command. Be concise and to the point, don't nag and nag repeatedly. Play with your children more, talk less about learning, and have a good relationship with your children first.
To this end, I specially bought a ping-pong table in the living room, and the two of us played table tennis with our children.
When we make changes, the tension between the child and us gradually eases, and we also enjoy the joy of being with the child.
The father and son were sweating at the ping-pong table, and the child could play chess and chat with his father.
I'm really relieved. The two men were finally no longer like enemies. Thank you, my child! In your adolescence, it gives us the opportunity to repair relationships. Let us understand how to be parents.
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Thank you to your child for inspiring me to embark on the path of writing, and we work together to be a better version of ourselves
I can now start writing in self-media, and the kids have a part of the credit. For a long time, the child was always laughing at me, and there was nothing to pursue except work. Entering the era of the elderly in advance, after work, it is a walk, playing mobile phones, watching TV, and not thinking of making progress.
My son once said to me, "Mom, did your dream come true when you were young?" Do you still have dreams now? Why not implement it? I see that there are people in the book who are also as old as you, and people can abandon their families and businesses to achieve their dreams, why don't you try it? ”
My son's words really hit the nail on the head and touched my thinking. Yeah, why can't I try to achieve my dreams? Even if I can't succeed, at least I've worked hard for my dreams!
Inspired by my son, I began writing in self-media. On this platform, I have met more friends. My horizons are broader. My world seemed to have opened another window, allowing me to see many beautiful landscapes that I had not seen before!
My son always brings me a lot of fresh insights and helps me understand the ideas of young people. I asked him to be my staff officer and asked him to give me advice. He said that the articles I wrote did not attract young people at all, and it would be better to take some videos of our little hamsters, and there must be people who love to watch.
Sure enough, the hamster's video has a lot more views and recommendations than the article. He also told me to look at how other people's videos were made and learn how to edit videos. There's some truth to that. Boy, thank you, let me continue to grow, we work together, together to be a better version of ourselves!
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