In the political systems of Western countries, the spouse of a head of state has always played a very important role.
They are often referred to as "first ladies" and often accompany the president, holding very glamorous titles and showing the outside world their charm as female representatives of their countries.
Often because of this, the "first lady" will receive a lot of attention.
Among the Western "first ladies" that we are more familiar with Chinese are Hillary Clinton, the wife of former US President Clinton, Michelle, the wife of former US President Barack Obama, and Lyudmila, the ex-wife of Russian President Putin.
However, in France, which is known for its romance, the first lady has never received much attention from the outside world.
It wasn't until 2017, when the 40-year-old Macron was successfully elected: when the media set their sights on the youngest president in French history, they were surprised to find that his wife, Brigitte Macron, was actually 24 years older than him and had been his teacher.
In addition, Brigitte once had a marriage and had 3 children with her ex-husband. The ex-husband has not remarried for brigitte and the children, deliberately keeping a low profile.
So what kind of person was Brigitte's ex-husband, what kind of story did he have with the first lady of France today, and what was his relationship with Macron?
A "teacher-student love" that is not understood by outsiders
Brigitte's ex-husband, André-Louis Auziere, was a former banker.
In 1974, at the age of 21, Brigitte met and fell in love with Andrei and married that year.
The photo we see below is taken at the wedding scene of Andre and Brigitte. As can be seen in the picture, Andrei was in good shape and had a good temperament when he was young.
At that time, he was a bank clerk, with a very good income in the local area, and their newly formed family belonged to the proper middle class and could eat and clothe without worry.
Soon after the marriage, Brigitte gave birth to the eldest daughter, followed by a boy and a girl.
Here is a brief explanation of Brigitte's family conditions. Brigitte was born in Amiens, France, to middle-class parents, and the family lived a small self-sufficient life.
Andrea and Brigitte wedding scene
Andre's family conditions are slightly better, his own income alone is very impressive, he does not need his wife to go out and work, and his income in the bank alone is enough to support the whole family.
In Andre's eyes, he can let his wife live as she pleases, have no worries about food and clothing, and teach her husband and children, so that the marriage will be happy. He probably didn't know how to spend time pleasing his wife, and he felt that the marriage relationship should be so delicate and long-lasting, and the years should be quiet.
With the birth of children one after another, the relationship between the husband and wife should be gradually on the right track. However, Brigitte is not a person who is willing to live a peaceful life with her husband and son.
To be precise, she did not know what she really wanted at that time, the ignorant girl was directly upgraded to a wife and mother, and the happy life of food and clothing came too suddenly, which caused Brigitte to begin to doubt her life goals and pursuits.
Born in the middle class, she feels that life is a bit boring, and she can even look at her head, which is not what she wants to see. She needs some passion and vitality, yearning for the unknown future, and once the current living environment lasts for a long time, it is easy for her to lose the motivation to struggle.
Soon after their marriage, Brigitte entered a church school in his hometown of Amiens, where he became a teacher of French and Latin, while running a drama workshop for students to direct plays and stage plays.
The school has a long name, la Providence Jesuit School, and if it had not been for the arrival of an Amiens boy named Emmanuel Macron in 1993, I am afraid that few people in the French would be able to call out the exact name of the school today.
That year, Macron, who was not yet 15 years old, entered the same class as Brigitte's eldest daughter, Lawrence, and two years later, the energetic and very precocious boy fell madly in love with Brigitte, a Latin teacher 24 years older than himself, and pursued her.
Emmanuel Macron
At first, Brigitte didn't care about Macron's love, she thought it might just be a rebellious act of a young boy who had just opened his heart. After all, Macron, who is a classmate with his eldest daughter, is so young that he doesn't even understand what love is.
So she said to the young man, "I can be your mother at my age, you are so young, you will always find the right girl for you in the future." ”
However, such a refusal, which was colder than diplomatic rhetoric, did not dispel Macron's thoughts. "I must marry you!" The stunned Qingqing said this to Brigitte.
Even if the French are romantic, Macron's love for Mr. Brigitte, an underage boy, cannot be understood: the teacher is 39 years old, has been married for many years, has 3 children with her husband, and lives a carefree life.
Crucially, Brigitte is married, and Macron's move is already a "third party intervention" that will not be accepted on both the legal and moral levels.
There are many teacher-student relationships, but generally the man is the teacher, the woman is the student, due to the characteristics of male and female physiological structure and growth and development, men are more anti-aging than women.
But the case of Macron pursuing a girl like Brigitte, who is 24 years and 8 months older than himself, and the age gap is huge, let alone in France, can not find several similarities in the world.
Moreover, in the process, there is one person whose feelings have been completely ignored - Brigitte's then-husband Andre.
Macron and Brigitte
In the face of huge criticism, there is no choice
From the perspective of others, Andre's first attitude towards this matter should obviously be angry, but it is not. Or rather, his care and affection for his wife as a husband was not particularly adequate, and coupled with Brigitte's own desire for a life full of freshness and challenges, the balance began to tilt in the direction of Macron.
Andrey really did not expect that a little boy who was a companion to his daughter would take his wife away. Macron used to come to their house and meet with Andre many times, but Andre always thought that Macron was pursuing his eldest daughter Lawrence.
In Andrei's view, doing his job well and giving his wife a better living environment is already the most important thing to do as a husband. But such a life was not what Brigitte wanted.
Andrei's personality also has a lot to do with his origins. According to the data, André was born in the West African country of Cameroon - he is a pure-bred white man, he was born in Africa only because Cameroon was once a French colony, and André's father served as a diplomat in Cameroon for many years.
Cameroon
As we all know, about half of the countries on the African continent speak French, France has colonized Africa for a long time, and even if the countries of the African continent are independent of France, French influence in Africa is still huge.
Backed by the "back garden" of Africa, most of the French people who serve here are powerful and have strong family backgrounds.
Therefore, Andrei, who is from the upper middle class, has always been accustomed to such a worry-free life, and his tutor is good, upright, and single-mindedly making money, trying to run the business and not working overtime from time to time, and wants to provide his wife with the best life through material aspects.
From these things, it can be seen that he really likes Brigitte, but unfortunately he does not understand, or he thinks that he does not need to know how to please his wife.
Brigitte was able to gain Macron's crazy pursuit for his own personal charm. Macron recalled: "The first time I saw her I was convinced that she was my favorite type. Although she was my teacher, she exuded great charm all over her body. ”
Macron as a young man
After learning more about Macron's personality through classes and privately, Brigitte gradually began to have a good feeling for the boy. She felt that this little boy had a kind of strength that others did not have, a determination not to give up until he reached his goal. She had had enough of the immutable life she had, and she needed something fresh.
So she began to try to fall in love with her boyfriend, who was nearly 25 years younger, an extramarital affair to be precise— at this time she had a husband and children, and the other party was just a young boy who was not yet an adult. The hindsight Andre didn't take it seriously at first, and when he finally found out that something was wrong, he couldn't get it back.
No impermeable walls. Brigitte's "disgraceful" underground love affair with Macron was gradually discovered by Brigitte's people. Macron is just a child, he has no pressure or ambition for public opinion, but Brigitte, the wife of a husband, has to face the opposition and contempt of everyone around him.
Because of her ambiguous relationship with Macron, the fact that Brigitte cheated in marriage became more and more known, many friends around her abandoned her, many original friends began to refuse to associate with her, and even some people spat at her.
This is true of friends, let alone relatives and friends.
Brigitte's family is furious, her brother Claude has always spoiled his sister, but this incident makes Claude furious, on the one hand, he told Brigitte to break off relations with Macron as soon as possible, on the other hand, he mobilized the whole family to persuade the 40-year-old sister.
The incident was seen by the Brigitte family as a "huge scandal", and Brigitte's family also suffered great criticism in the field of public opinion.
As a mid-player, Andrei was difficult to accept at first to face all this. He had a fight with Brigitte, but he was reluctant to have his wife and three children, and after the quarrel, he told Brigitte, "We all need to calm down", and the two sides temporarily stopped fighting.
Studies have shown that there is a "Romeo and Juliet" effect between loving partners: the more the family opposes the relationship, the stronger the relationship between the couple will be.
Brigitte and Macron belong to this category, which is of course partly rebellious, but Macron's love for Brigitte has never changed, and it has more or less touched Brigitte's heart.
The relationship between the two is getting stronger and stronger, although Brigitte has a husband and children, she does not intend to give up this relationship with Macron, on the contrary, her hopes and plans for the future are all pinned on Macron.
At this time, Macron had just come of age and was about to start college after graduating from high school. In order to avoid the center of the public opinion storm, Macron chose to leave his hometown of Amiens and went to the capital Paris to continue his secondary education.
He was admitted to the École Henri IV of Paris, a top French high school, and then to the National School of Administration and the Institut d'Etudes politiques de Paris, where he received his corresponding degrees.
During this time, Brigitte longed for the call and life of the big city, and also came to Paris to continue teaching in a school. Everyone knows that she came to find Macron, and she feels that it is difficult for her to leave this little boyfriend, and only he can give himself the life he wants in the future.
Macron
After quitting, he kept his mouth shut and did not bother, and remained single until his death
In fact, during Brigitte's visit to Paris, André did not completely choose to give up. Andrei, who is responsible for taking care of the children at home and going to work, also began to appreciate the difficulty of his wife, and he thought that if he could change the situation of only caring about work and not caring about family, maybe there was still a chance.
So, more than once, he went to Paris to find Brigitte and talked to her in peace. The communication between the two was not particularly speculative, and Brigitte felt that there was no need to turn back.
Even so, Andrei felt that his wife would still change her mind.
Quite simply, because the young man named Macron, after all, is still just a stunned young man, the contact with society is still relatively narrow, and there are so many young and beautiful girls waiting for him to meet and meet. Besides, this young man is likely to be invisible in the future, Brigitte is with him, what is the picture?
However, both of these events developed unexpectedly. Macron not only never changed his love at first sight for Brigitte, but also went all the way to the peak of power in the country.
Brigitte and Macron
Brigitte recalled years later: "He showed a clever and wise side when he was a teenager, not at all like a child, exactly like other adults." At that time, I thought he could achieve something big. ”
This is true. Macron joined the French Socialist Party at the age of 24, moved to the French Ministry of Economy at the age of 27, resigned at the age of 30 to work as an investment banker at Rothschild and Theae Bank, where he brokered the nutrition deal between Pfizer and Nestlé.
It was also during his time as a banker that he became acquainted with Hollande, who later became president of France, and in 2012 he joined the French government with hollande, who won the election, and was appointed deputy secretary-general of the president, and in 2014, he was appointed by then-French Prime Minister Valls as France's minister of economy.
During Macron's career, Brigitte has been with him and done logistical work for him. Everything they have experienced along the way has made their feelings between them rock solid and the relationship closer.
When Macron was mature enough to shield Brigitte from the wind and rain, Brigitte knew it was time to say goodbye to Andre and his first marriage.
In early 2006, Brigitte formally filed for divorce from Andre and asked for custody of her three children. Andre had no choice but to accept reality calmly.
For many years, he had been silently paying for Brigitte, and although he was sad in the face of his wife's desperation, he was still reluctant to speak ill of her. They had spent about 20 years together, a day husband and wife, and since they had chosen her, they had to accept the consequences of loving her.
Brigitte herself knows that her former husband has given a lot to himself and his family, and she may blame her selfishness a little in her heart, and she will feel a little ashamed of Andre, but for the freedom and freshness she wants, all this can be regarded as an imperfect past in life, and she laughs at it.
Andre and Brigitte
Moreover, she remembered what Macron, who was now accompanying her, had said to him when he was a minor: "No matter what, I must marry you!" ”
Macron did what he said. In October 2007, 30-year-old Macron married 54-year-old Brigitte, and the two eventually became a family.
Brigitte said: "For him I bravely chose to divorce, in the face of love, all difficulties will be destroyed." I am very happy. ”
At this time, Brigitte already had 7 grandchildren, that is to say, Macron directly became a grandfather as soon as he got married. These children are all grandchildren of Andre, and for the happiness of Brigitte for the rest of his life, Andre chose to fulfill their true love. "There is a kind of love called letting go", and Andre silently bears it all alone.
At first, not only Brigitte's parents, but even The children of Brigitte and Andrea were very incomprehensible about the remarriage of their mothers, and even children complained about their fathers. Andre said: "You should respect your mother's choice, and her happiness is the most important." ”
Brigitte's mother also said to her, you and Macron can't have any more children, you already have three children.
Although Brigitte did not give her mother an accurate answer, she was already in her 50s at this time, and she had passed the age of childbearing. On the issue of having children, Macron once said: "There are enough children in the family, and we are not going to have more children." ”
The three children followed Brigitte and Macron, and Andrei, who went from husband to ex-husband, maintained an unexpected calm and relief.
Whether during the separation or after their divorce, Andre never said anything bad about Brigitte to anyone on any occasion.
He remained silent about the union of his ex-wife and Macron, never posting that after divorcing Brigitte, the celibate André did not remarry, but lived alone. The love for Brigitte drained his emotions, and In the face of the cold eyes and ridicule of others, Andre smiled.
Andrei's father is a diplomat, born in a family of diplomats, he is well aware of the influence of public opinion on a person, in order to make his ex-wife not be too disturbed by public opinion, Andre continued his life in the lowest key way, leaving her with enough dignity.
And, in order not to let the children have too much contact with him, he never attends Brigitte's family gatherings.
Especially after Macron entered the political arena, André, who was very different from his status, had little time to contact his children. Whenever the children planned to hold a family gathering, the eldest daughter Lawrence would invite her father to attend, but Andre refused.
Andre said to the children: "You now have a very happy family, and a good stepfather, the family gathering should be happy, and I am very happy when you are happy." ”
Andre held up the sky for Brigitte and his children in their most difficult times, and after the children's mother remarried and became happy, he chose to walk away silently, not disturbing his ex-wife, leaving them with a simpler life, away from the circle of gossip.
In 2017, Macron was elected president of France, and Brigitte was finally promoted to the "first lady" of France, at this time André's identity was undoubtedly more embarrassing.
If he remains in touch with the Macron family, more rumors, speculation and even negative news will follow, which will be very bad for Macron and Brigitte and his three children. Macron and Brigitte reached the pinnacle of their lives, but Andre left the world in a low profile and silence.
In August 2020, André's youngest daughter, Tippen, tweeted in the Paris Competition Magazine that her father, André, the ex-husband of France's First Lady Brigitte Macron, had died in December 2019 at the age of 69.
At the request of their father, a very modest and low-key funeral was held and thanks were given to all those who cared for and supported them.
This news was in an uproar. This man, who chose to be low-key and silent after his ex-wife cheated on him and died alone and lonely, used his own death to draw a heavy end to this poignant love.
After all, if it is widely reported at this time, then the death of Brigitte's ex-husband as the "first lady", Brigitte will inevitably be disturbed and affected by public opinion, and it is also extremely unfavorable to her current husband, French President Macron.
Many people say that Andrei, the infatuated man, is really stupid, stupid and painful. He did not retaliate against his wife when he had already cheated physically and mentally, did not confront the other party, but gave Brigitte and Macron a generous heart to complete.
There are few men under the heavens who fall in love with a woman 24 years older than himself like Macron, and there will be no men like Andre who are willing to bother him in order to protect his ex-wife who voluntarily ends up alone and draws a line with his ex-wife.
In my opinion, unhappy marriages have their own misfortunes, but happy marriages are mostly similar or even the same. At least one of the husband and wife will be able to accept and tolerate all the shortcomings and drawbacks of the other party, give the other all possible support, even if the other party no longer loves himself deeply, he will be kind to the other party.
André never blamed Brigitte, nor did he condemn or denounce Macron, and his attitude toward his ex-wife and Macron is unknown.
But what he did was indeed a very gentleman's move, with the silence and forbearance of the second half of his life, in exchange for a happier life of his ex-wife, and Macron's smoother career.
In fact, after Macron was elected president of France, his relationship with Brigitte was once questioned by the outside world, and even some people thought that Brigitte's title of "first lady" was not worthy of the name, and Macron could not continue to love a woman in her 60s when he was 40 years old.
It can only be said that Macron's actions cannot be understood by most people, just as André's actions cannot be understood by everyone.
We do not respect Andre's approach, but we still want to pay tribute and sigh for Andrei's mind.
Brigitte was fortunate to meet two men in his life who were obsessed with him, especially the man who did his best to defend his dignity until the end of his life, bore him three children and lived a once-happy married life.
Along the way, Andre may have regrets, but he will never regret it.
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