Are you happy in your marriage? The moment you think of your lover, will you feel warm and smile?
Although he is a bit wooden, he is silly and cute; although he is straight and possessed, he is sincere and honest; although he is not tall enough, he is gentle enough; although he obviously has many shortcomings, you never abandon him...
When we look back at the past in marriage, can you see the trivialities of a chicken feather, or the moment of mutual support; can you hear the chattering quarrel, or the good night every night?
Happiness is not so much a feeling as an ability.
It is the ability to be aware in ordinary life, and it is the ability to operate over a long period of time.
At the wedding scene ten years ago, my husband carefully designed my cartoon image of me and him, and made an animated short film for us called "Taste of Happiness". This wedding caused countless people to cry, and many friends told me privately that it was the most moving and memorable wedding.
To this day, we still seem to be the envy of the circle of friends, and people often say to me that it is precisely because of the two of us that she re-believes in love and makes her begin to yearn for marriage.
In fact, our lives are ordinary and simple, and the material conditions are not superior to those of friends around us, but I am deeply happy in the ten years of this marriage.
We have found the best model in the long-term relationship; we have become the best version of ourselves in each other's company.
Truly happy women, mostly see the 3 marriage truths, no wonder life is getting better and better.
Life is not smooth sailing, only mutual support
No one's life is smooth sailing, and everyone may encounter a time when they are overwhelmed by wind and rain. Nothing is difficult to overcome, the focus is on whether someone is with you.
In the second month of my son's birth, my husband was admitted to the hospital because of overwork and cerebral hemorrhage, and I experienced the first big test in my marriage.
The running between the two ends of the hospital home often makes me lose control of my emotions and collapse and cry, and both physically and mentally are under great pressure. Fortunately, with the support of our in-laws and parents at that time, we survived the stumbling.
Although those days were bitter, they also gave us a little more courage. My husband said that at that time, as long as he saw me, he had the determination to fight and was never afraid.
Later, I was at home full-time with the children, and my husband worked harder, and when he had time, he would go home to do housework with the children. When I was skeptical about my worth, he encouraged me to learn writing and photography online, helped me download a lot of instructional courses, and often accompanied me to watch and discuss classes. Little by little, I found myself confident in his support and began to stick to my favorite writing and photography.
Happiness is just that, I give my all when he encounters difficulties, and he is fully accompanied when I am confused. We are not each other's saviors, but each other's most loyal partners.
The wind and rain in life are not terrible, and when someone is around, you have the courage to face it.
Life is not always smooth, but you can have the lover who supports each other.
Good men are not born, but nurtured
When you see that some women around you are in happiness, will you unconsciously flash a thought " Her life is really good, met a good man." ”
When you see a woman on the Internet describing her pregnancy and the careful companionship of her husband during childbirth, will your heart also envy a sentence of "She has a good life and married a good man." ”
So we will come to a conclusion: men in the world are not necessarily all bad, but good men are not touched by themselves.
In fact, there are naturally good men in this world, but they are just good husbands who have been cultivated by their wives.
My aunt and uncle are the model couple of our family, and my aunt is the woman with a good fate in everyone's eyes, and even before I was married, my mother's expectation of me was to meet a good man who loved herself and hurt herself like an aunt.
Once I asked my aunt, what is the secret of happiness? She said it's actually very simple, that is, to "let go and praise, believe and support."
At home, we must let the man work, praise him no matter how well he does, and make him more confident and motivated to participate in family life.
Men must believe and support everything they want to do, and never complain or criticize no matter what the result is.
When we complain that your husband does not work, please think about it carefully, whether you have never given him the opportunity to work, whether you have never given him words of praise?
When we complain that our husband has achieved nothing, please seriously think about it, have you never given him the support and determination he should have?
Every man has the potential to be a good man, and the key is whether you have the patience to guide and cultivate.
Only oneself is the most important person in the marriage relationship
The most important thing in the family relationship is the husband and wife relationship, and the most important thing in the husband and wife relationship is yourself.
Many women feel powerless and unhappy in marriage, and the most important point is to be in the "demanding and being asked". The root cause of unhappiness is the phrase we often say, "you should."
When you are exhausted by family chores, you will complain about your lover's inaction and say to him, "You should see my hard work." ”
When you are frustrated and difficult at work, you will be dissatisfied with your lover's comfort and say to him, "You should come and hug me." ”
When you are looking forward to every anniversary, you will be sad because of the indifference of your lover, saying to him, "You should give me a gift, you should remember, you should..."
In fact, we know very well in our hearts that we can only ask of ourselves and not others.
If you really want to, please tell him "I hope" directly instead of "you should".
When we don't ask each other, we will focus more on ourselves, find our own inner needs, make our own due changes, and become a better version of ourselves.
Believe me, as long as you make a change, the world will become the way you expect it to be!
Please let yourself always be the most important person, not humble, not to argue, not to ask for each other, just focus on yourself.
Happiness is never out of reach, and happiness is never a mirror. Happiness is in the chai rice oil and salt every day, and happiness is within your reach.
The happier the woman, the more she can see the truth of marriage. As long as you are willing to open your arms, you will embrace happiness!
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