As the saying goes: relying on parents at home, relying on friends when going out, interpersonal relationships are an inseparable part of our lives.
Based on his own life observations and extensive research, Carnegie found that "only 15 percent of a person's career success is due to his profession, and 85 percent depends on interpersonal relationships and skills." "This speaks volumes about the importance of relationships.
It's often known that relationships are helpful to our career or feelings, but it's easy to overlook the impact it can have on health.
Interpersonal relationships and depression have a certain connection, because people's depression is mostly caused by emotions, and relationship disharmony is an important cause of emotional depression.
Man is like an intelligent machine, operating with its own patterns and mutual cooperation, and interpersonal relationships are also one of the branches of the system that cannot be easily replaced between groups.
People are interconnected and interact with each other, relying on their own value to provide each other with the things they need, gaining benefits, security and corresponding collective sense of honor and belonging in the continuous relationship, and the nutrition of the relationship is an important emotion that makes us feel safe and happy, happy, and happy.
It is common to seek from these areas of relationship:
Family, lovers, friends, people who come into contact with social circles in life and work
The first contact is the parents, which is also the earliest and most difficult to maintain a kind of interpersonal relationship between people, that is the infant's attachment to the parents' instincts, with the increase of age, cognitive habits and pursuit of development changes, it is easy to have conflicts and contradictions.
We define this conflict as a generation gap, and thus want to escape the relationship, almost everyone feels that this is the inevitable growth, so they rarely take the initiative to maintain and improve how to improve the relationship to develop healthily.
Later, the focus of our relationship shifted to love, but when we got along in intimate relationships, there was more or less a certain compensatory mentality, and we who were already inexperienced would copy the marriage model of our parents, but when the social relationship with our lover could not be harmonious, we would pay a more painful price and bear more pain than when we got along with our parents.
Life is full of too many uncertainties, as well as disasters and tests that are not expected, just as the so-called home and everything is happy, the lack of warm family, no harmonious partner, the heart will amplify the original dilemma. When there are gradual increases of blows and tests between work and social relations, people will have depression because they carry too much alone.
Good interpersonal relationships are the needs of people's physical and mental health
Remember to learn to get along with your parents, they may not be right, but they must be the most sincere to you. Of course, there are also some parents who hurt you with the so-called "love", learn to empathize, learn to think from multiple angles, since the injury has been powerless to return to heaven, even if you can't say it doesn't matter, you must learn to let yourself go. After all, everyone is a person for the first time, although parents are elders, they also have their own stories, have their own vulnerability and powerlessness, learn to accept, and let go, is the beginning of getting happy.
Good interpersonal relationships are the need for happiness in life
Love at a certain stage can indeed bring happiness to people, but must not affect happiness, and the relationship with the lover is really important, remember not to indulge in the victim's thinking, learn to pay, but also learn to communicate correctly, the reason why love is long-lasting, the role of emotional value is even more important than the material.
The relationship with the lover is harmonious, and the happiness is enhanced, and the loneliness will be avoided. Many causes of depression do not simply stem from the pressure of life, but from emotional discord that leads to hopelessness in life.
The causes of depression, in addition to the organic causes, are almost all related to environmental factors, and although it does not play a decisive role, it does produce great interference and influence.
If the interpersonal relationship is smooth, it may not be that the heart will not produce emotional fluctuations such as grievances and sadness, but in addition to warm comfort and help, it can avoid becoming a sharp blade that aggravates the attack.
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Text/Relief Emotional Station
(Author: Xiao Yu, psychological counselor, focusing on the emotional field), good at the restoration of romantic relationships, marital contradictions and differences, and the healing of psychological trauma caused by the original ecological family. The lonely journey of life, listening to your grievances and pressures, helping visitors improve their skills in getting along with the sexes, saving their lovers, managing their feelings, and striving to become happier people.