Since the ancient mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, especially after giving birth to children, the daughter-in-law is young, after few things, but also young and vigorous, if the mother-in-law does not take good care of, or does not meet their own wishes, it is easy to cause family conflicts.
With children, taking care of children's living life requires great effort, as well as money, who will take care of the mother and children in the month, and what should be done when the full moon comes out? Does the mother-in-law pay or contribute?
In fact, these two can choose one of them, which is already very happy and solves the big problem of the daughter-in-law.
The mother-in-law pays for it
Mother-in-law family conditions are not bad, can pay is also excellent, reduce the contradiction between getting along, find a sister-in-law in the month, take care of the profession; out of the confinement to find an aunt to take care of, usually the children's life needs of the goods, but also in time to buy, although the mother-in-law does not contribute, to solve the economic burden, reduce the pressure of young people.
The mother-in-law is older, has more than enough heart and insufficient strength, does not have so much energy to take care of the child, and there is a great inconsistency with the child in the concept of parenting, it is better to let the young people take care of it, which is more conducive to the physical and mental development of the child.
Mother-in-law contributed
Mother-in-law is in good health, no one looks at the child after the daughter-in-law goes to work, the mother-in-law takes the initiative to take the child, so that the daughter-in-law has no worries, and is at ease to develop her career, the mother-in-law has paid a lot of effort, and some are even more experienced than young people with children.
In fact, the mother-in-law contributes at the same time, often will also pay money, see what the child lacks will take the initiative to buy things for the child, young people should be considerate of the elderly, with children have been very tired, the usual family living expenses can be out of their own, buy more gifts for the elderly, the old man said no, the heart is very warm.
The mother-in-law does not pay or contribute
Whether the mother-in-law pays or contributes, it is happy to be able to choose one, and there is also a situation that neither pays nor contributes, the situation is somewhat unfortunate, so that the daughter-in-law feels depressed, deeply unappreciated, and neglected.
Theoretically, the mother-in-law has no obligation to take care of the grandchildren, the parents are the guardians of the children, responsible for the children, no matter what choices the mother-in-law makes, the parents should shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the children.
Some mothers-in-law do not bring children in the first few years of the birth of the child, because these years are the most difficult to bring, waiting for the child to go to kindergarten, primary school, but asked to come to the son's home to live.
In any case, there is an old man at home, if the young man is a little busy with things, the old man will always help a little, the young man often has a grateful heart, no matter whether the old man can not pay, always have a grateful heart.
Young people should create a good life, try to be independent, not focus on how much the elderly pay, but cultivate their abilities internally, create a harmonious family atmosphere for the elderly and children, and live a happy life, home and everything.
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