Wen 丨 Tuan Mom
Winter break is here, and the kids have gone through their final exams. We are taking stock of the children's highlights at this time, not to show their achievements, nor to rate them and award them awards.
No matter what your child's grades are, how much you are angry in the year, how many unbearable behavior habits he has made you, we should not only focus on the shortcomings of the child and ignore their good qualities - he is playful, maybe focused and innovative; he is slow to do things, maybe with a strict demand for details; he is not good at socializing, maybe he has a very keen observation...
Come on, let's find out the good things about children in small things. Say something fun. After all, the big New Year's Day.
In October 2021, I signed up for a swimming class for my son. Every time he was taken to class, there were new discoveries, and the speed of progress was visible to the naked eye.
In terms of equipment, at first, it was necessary to wear swimming rings and hold the floating board, and later, there was no need for these two things at all, and the number of floating backs was gradually reduced from 4 to 1; in action, the child who used to be bathed and drenched in water would unconsciously shiver, and now he would hum himself into the water to dive, grab the diving rod that was sinking under the water, and proudly say: "Mom, you see!" "From being a little scared, to now fully enjoying the feeling of being in the water, I am happy for him in my heart; physically, at the end of each swimming class, because of the consumption of a lot of physical strength, the baby eats everything, the nap is faster and longer, and I have not been sick in the past six months (maybe a little superstitious).
When, seeing that the doll has changed so much in more than 2 months, I think he is simply glowing! Hahahahaha!
One day, I told him about the picture book "What Happened Later", about grandpa becoming a variety of ways to protect his family after he died, and my son asked: "Mom, will you and your father also grow old and die?" I said, "Yes." He began to cry: "Then I will be alone." "You won't be alone, you'll get married, you'll have your own baby, you'll be a dad." "I'm not going to be a dad, I don't have mom and dad anymore, I'm not going to do it." ......
The next day, he seemed to have found a solution, pulled me aside and said, "Mom, if I don't grow up, won't you and Dad get old?" "This time I cried. All along, my son has been very eager to grow tall, and every day after eating, he will go to the height scale on the wall to measure it. In order not to lose his parents, he exchanged what he longed for most.
One day, she brought back from kindergarten an orange wrapped in a paper ball. The oranges were still peeled off, and only half of them! The paper balls were soaking wet and soaking the bag!
Ask her what's going on? She said: "Today I ate oranges in kindergarten, I think it is so sweet, I brought it back to you." "I was touched and broke, and I thought this little cotton jacket was too warm!"
Her father asked, "Why didn't you bring it to me?" She hurriedly said, "I'll bring you two!" One person eats one clove. ”
Two days ago, she said that eating pears in kindergarten was also very sweet, and she wanted to bring it to me. But she suddenly remembered what her teacher had said to her, and she didn't bring it. I asked her what to say, and she said, "The teacher said that kindergarten stuff can only be eaten in kindergarten!" ”
Yo-Yo is the younger sister of the family, and she also has a 7-year-old sister. In my opinion, the second child is born with a sense of crisis in the cracks to survive, and the emotional intelligence is very high. If they made a mistake, I asked them to go to the penalty station behind the door and reflect, and my sister craned her neck: "I'm not wrong!" I'm just right! My sister would immediately say, "Mom, I was wrong." But, if you go on to ask her, "What's wrong with you?" "She'll say she doesn't know what's wrong.
The sister has a tendency to be a social cow, and the sister does not know whether she is "crushed" by the powerful sister, so she is a bit introverted. But this year I can clearly feel that she is becoming more extroverted, and I am very pleased with that.
In addition to these, this year, according to my observation, my sister's sense of rules is also very strong, which can also be regarded as a highlight moment for her. For her, there are rules for everything in our house, wherever we take them and put them, shoes must be placed in the prescribed places, and other things must be like this.
Strictly speaking, Brother Monkey is not an extroverted, social child, and sometimes I worry about whether he will be hurt in kindergarten.
However, I also found that he had very obvious advantages of his own, strong concentration, being able to sit still, having his own hobbies, and that this love had lasted for two years. He likes to draw, and when he gets up on the weekend morning, he shouts that he wants to paint, and sometimes, he can do a large part of the housework during his painting time, such as cooking, cleaning, etc., when he sits on the painting table and does not need adults to play with him.
As far as I can see, his paintings are still improving. Last year, painting a certain kind of thing was almost the same. This year, subtle differences have begun to emerge. I think this is the result of his more detailed observation and more careful painting.
Smiling 5 and a half years old, still a child who does not want to go to kindergarten and is only willing to "mix" with me. But I recently found out that she suddenly became interested in cooking. Then "cultivate" it.
Of course, the point is not to let her learn what to do, just cook a dumpling and a noodle. After all, now, she could only get to the pots and pans on the operating table if she stood on the bench.
Every night before going to bed, I have a bedtime meeting with my daughter, that is, we have to say something happy and unhappy about each other today. When I encounter some difficulties, I propose to help each other and give each other ideas to solve them (the original intention is actually to understand her situation in kindergarten).
At one recent time, she startled me. That day, I said: "New Year's Day, my mother wants to talk to the leader about the salary increase, and if the salary rises, she can buy you all kinds of picture book toys that you like, and give you a favorite interest class... How do you think your mother should tell the leader that he will agree? ”
Originally, I had no words to find a topic, but I didn't expect that the children in this kindergarten class really impressed me! She said, "You told the leader to earn more money to buy me toys!" When you talk to the leader, don't be too fierce, but don't be too gentle (I think it is not humble. ”
The last sentence is the most classic, and it also moves me the most: "If the leader really does not agree, you should not be angry, you have to think, come back and I am waiting for you!" ”
My son attended a hip-hop interest class in kindergarten this year, and at the end of the semester, the teacher took them to a competition. He has always been full of confidence, but he has not practiced his movements very diligently. On the day of the competition, because he did not rehearse the point in advance, he actually stood in the wrong position as soon as he took the stage. Before I could find the right place, the music had already begun.
I thought he would get angry again, and even stop dancing. As a result, although he was depressed, he insisted on dancing the whole song to the music. Later, as soon as he stepped off the stage, he told me that he was in the wrong position (I can realize the mistake, not bad). I also immediately exaggerated his praise for "being very calm!" "When I first performed on stage, I encountered the most testing problem of stage experience, and I was able to cope with it...
I asked him later, how many do you think you can get? He still answered confidently: First place! (In fact, when the score was reported, it was already lower than others, and the children did not understand) He has always had a kind of confidence in the fans, but I still think that he is depressed but insists on jumping, which is a highlight moment for him!
Counting down, the harvest of the year is still quite a lot.
swim. Four classes a week, for a month or two, all saw the abs. At present, I can already swim breaststroke and freestyle, and if I practice freestyle for a while, I should start learning to swim backstroke.
piano. I started studying seriously in November 2021, and I am just getting started, but I was able to play music at the art festival held by the school at the end of December, and finally won an instrumental music award from the school (although it is only an encouragement award, it is great to dare to perform).
Picture book reading. First, in 2021, he taught picture books to children in public 4 times, exercised his language expression ability and courage, and became a volunteer of "Chengdu Shuyu". Second, reading picture books is good at thinking. When I revisited the picture book "The Cat Who Lived 1 Million Times" with her a few days ago, she actually said a lot of ideas, some of which I had not thought of. Third, because she likes to read, the teacher at the end of the semester awarded her the award of reading star.
Visit the museum. At the beginning of the year, I bought a "museum passport" for my children at the Henan Museum, and I took them to collect three museum seals.
Family Court. The child's father is a lawyer, so our family has specially launched a monthly small family court to mediate some of the contradictions between the sisters, through this form, you can understand the father's work, and there are some "career enlightenment" in it, to understand what judges, lawyers, these professions are doing.
I think that the highlight moments of children are not only awards and praises, but can only be regarded as some materialized "milestones" and witnesses. The most important thing is the child's inner recognition of herself, what she has gained, such as some knowledge and understanding. And I see the power of perseverance in her gains.
Our children are usually brought by my grandmother, and my aunt often comes to help. In the past, Tong Tong and his sister-in-law had a good relationship. Later, after having a younger brother in the family, he may feel that the focus of the whole family, including the sister-in-law, is biased towards the younger brother, and he is often very unhappy.
One day, my aunt was criticizing him again. He suddenly exploded: "Do you know how much pressure I have?" When I grow up, I will give my parents and you a pension! As soon as he said this, our whole family was stunned, funny and touched. I don't know where he learned the news of the pension for adults, nor do I know where his sudden pressure came from. Of course, everyone is still very touched by his intentions.
Yu Ge has always been the "little adult" of our family, of course, he has indeed grown up, and now he is taller than me, and I have to look up to him.
Yugo was 10 years old
Children have been brought by ourselves since childhood, and there has never been an old man involved. We are very strict with him, not spoiled, rewarding and punishing. Therefore, he learned to do his own things at a very young age, and he was very independent. When I was in the fifth or sixth grade of elementary school, I learned to cook by myself, and I can already cook some simple things, such as boiling dumplings, boiling noodles, egg fried rice and so on.
Usually, no matter what is delicious, he gives his father or mother to eat first, and then he eats it himself. He is also very caring, hanging out with other families, and his younger siblings like him very much.
Usually we have to go to work, he wants to go downstairs to play, he will call us first, we agree to it before he goes down, and he also has a sense of time, and he will go back when the point is up. I personally think this is much better than other children, will let parents know where he has gone, not too much to make parents worry too much, especially empathy ability.
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