Emotion expert Tu Lei said: "There is no one in this world who does not need to be loved. "In a relationship, it is usually difficult to achieve a balance between giving and returning, and it must be the party who loves more to pay more." However, no one is born to give for whom. Generally speaking, in love and marriage, the "natural" in the subconscious of men is the "bane" that consumes women's feelings.
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Laughing and loving David is an indisputable fact, she spent nearly three years to be good to him, and in the end, there was still no way to change his selfishness. She didn't know whether David loved her or not, but she knew that she would never have the courage to love anymore.
Xiao Xiao and Dawei are college classmates, she has a crush on him until near graduation, she and he pointed out their feelings for him, Dawei was somewhat moved, accepted her. During that time, Xiaoxiao felt that she was the happiest girl in the world. After graduation, XiaoXiao ignored the opposition of his family and stayed with Dawei in the city where the school was located, and the two of them lived together.
Usually, in addition to going to work, Xiao Yun almost took care of all the housework, buying vegetables, cooking, washing dishes, cleaning, serving Dawei properly, laughing and laughing every day is very busy and tired. As for Xiao Yun's efforts, Xiao Hao was indifferent and did not have the slightest gratitude, because he felt that these were all deserved.
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Once, xiaoxiao came back from overtime a little late, Dawei was playing a game on the computer, laughing and asking him: "Can you help me wash the dishes?" Dawei said impatiently, "Oh, I'm tired after a day of work!" When Xiao Xiao brought the meal to the table, he actually said, "Can you come back early in the future, I am starving." Xiao Xiao felt particularly speechless at the time, but still explained to him with a good temper.
Another weekend, laughing a little uncomfortable, saw that there were still greens and eggs at home, did not go to the supermarket. When Dawei came back from playing, he saw a plate of green vegetables and a plate of scrambled eggs on the table, and without asking about the blue and red, a wave of complaints, he said: "It's not easy to rest on the weekend, just eat these, really." Forget it, I'll go out and eat well. Throwing down a smile that was too late to explain slammed the door and left.
David went out for a drink with his friends, came back drunk, smiled and laboriously helped him to lie down on the sofa, trying to help him take off his glasses to make him sleep more comfortably, but Dawei threw away her hand very roughly and said, "Don't touch me!" "That day, XiaoXiao's stomach hurt all night, and he had no sleep all night.
The next day, laughing and getting up, David had already gone to work. She messaged David that she had stomachache and was going to the hospital. David replied with an "Oh" and was never heard from again.
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Xiao Xiao finally chose to leave. When she moved away, she left Dawei a note that read, "Take good care of yourself." Looking at the note left by the smile, Dawei was a little puzzled.
He remembered all the good that Xiaoxiao was good for himself, and he remembered the day of the winter solstice, in order to let Dawei eat the handmade dumplings he liked, Xiaoxiao got up very early and began to wrap dumplings, and then used the noon break time to specially go home to cook and send it to Dawei to eat, so that Dawei's male colleagues were envious. Smile and love him so much, how can you be willing to leave?
He tried to think of what he had done for XiaoXiao, and had lived together for almost two years, and all he remembered was the day of her birthday, when he secretly went outside and ordered a cake and a bouquet of flowers. She smiled and said she would remember it for the rest of her life. Dawei felt that XiaoXiao loved him very much, and leaving might be her impulse, and naturally she would come back again.
In the end, Dawei did not wait for him to think "for granted" or wait to smile back. He called her again, already prompting that it was an empty number.
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Laughing and saying that in feelings, the most consumptive thing is "what should be", in fact, there is no reason in this world, no one should be good to anyone, and all the concern of one person for another person is just because of love. She loves Dawei and plucks her lungs out of his heart, but he does not have the slightest gratitude, and even has a lot of pickiness and boredom.
The "rightfulness" in Dawei's subconscious is the "culprit" who consumes laughter and laughter to his feelings.
Before a woman meets her lover, she is also held in the palm of her hand by her parents as a treasure, and it is only because she loves the man that she is willing to wash her hands and make soup for him. As a man, you should cherish this love and cherish the person around you.
In life, people often appreciate the occasional friendship of strangers, but turn a blind eye to the efforts of the people around them. The root cause is because you feel that strangers are good to you as a gift, and people around you are rightfully good to you. In fact, there are not so many things in this world, and anyone who is good to you should be grateful.
Dong Qing said: "Remember those who have helped you, don't feel that everything should be taken for granted, and when you have the ability, remember to help others as much as possible, don't think that things don't concern yourself, this is a principle of being a person." In fact, in the feelings, there is no so-called "take-it-for-grant", but it should be mutual understanding and mutual achievement.