Most of us in this life, may have more than one relationship to talk about love, the beginning of love will have their own youthful love, then naturally, we have to face the topic of the ex or even the former ex, and in the current heart of the undead person has become a shadow and taboo that is difficult to get rid of, but in the relationship between the sexes, what can not be obtained is always in turmoil, the favored have no fear, especially the first love will have a kind of unfinished feelings affecting their mood, then when the man faces the first love again, What kind of mental changes and ideas will he have, let's analyze the possibilities from a male perspective.
The first mindset: break up with the incumbent and relive old dreams
The reason why the first love is beautiful, not only this person, but also accompanied by their own youth memories, an unfinished missing emotion, it is easy to let yourself think about it under exaggeration, in today's maturity of each other, want to really grasp the relationship, the first love in their own hearts is pure, but also pure, at that time there must be no material and external factors only talk about feelings, so it seems that the love is the purest and cleanest. Hearing that the ex has a bad life will be heartache, hearing that the other party is now very good will be jealous, and it is easy to meet each other again, and it is easy to be possessive again.
However, no matter which woman is in love, the communication process must be full of countless contradictions and disputes, at this moment, the emotions under the impact, it is easy to aggravate the current dissatisfaction, or highlight the excellence of the first love, in other words, no matter how good the current is, it seems that it can not be compared with the first love, this kind of personality mentality of the man, it is easy to live in the dream of self-preparation, and only when separated really with the first love, only after realizing that the current is the most suitable person, even if the final regret, And the initial mood is difficult to realize the seriousness of choosing to start over.
The second mentality: like a stranger, is the stranger he knows best
Men with the second type of mentality will be relatively rational and more principled, whether they were hurt too deeply at the beginning, or they really felt inappropriate, since they were separated, they must have felt that there was no way out, and since they chose, they were unwilling to go back, and they did not want to let a person who had become the past affect their existing emotional life. For people who have been, it may also cause emotional ups and downs, but it will not affect their own choices and their own attitudes.
He will think that forgetting each other is the best attitude towards his predecessor, and even if there will be a replay of the past fragments, it will only be silently sealed in the heart of the occasional memory, that love has passed away forever, and finally let each other become the most familiar strangers.
The third mentality: imagination, can't let go of the past, can't lose the present
When we see that familiar and unfamiliar woman, is it possible for us to be together? There may be countless times of doubt in the bottom of the heart, the original may be because of the graduation season so it must have scored a hand, may also be due to the barrier of parents and could not walk together, more likely to be too young to impulsively, and at this moment think that they are mature and small achievements today, have the ability to give her the day she originally wanted, deal with the tricky emotional relationship, for the regret of their own emotions and the debt to this person, have the mood of wanting to start over or compensate, so they think about it, ask themselves countless times in the bottom of their hearts." Can we start over?"
But now the current around them also has both responsibilities, get along very harmoniously without emotional problems, can't let go of the past between entanglements, can't lose the current, stands at both ends of the scale and constantly measures the love relationship. But often people with this mentality may be because of wavering nostalgia, so that the chicken and egg will eventually hit no one can get the end. In fact, sometimes what you should understand when you grow up is that some losses are a lifelong thing, and some people and things that should be put down should not be troubled to create crises.
The fourth mentality: breaking up is also a friend, and if you can't be a husband and wife lover, you will be a confidant
The past has become the past, and I already have lovely children, a gentle daughter-in-law and a warm and happy family, so that person cannot affect his emotions, and he will not give up his life at this moment because of the original love. Therefore, I feel that since there are no distractions in my heart, there is no need to avoid suspicion without ghosts.
But this kind of frank, think that the heart is not distracted attitude, but is not really desirable, human nature can not help testing, emotions can not help temptation and temptation, not to mention the first love of the ex, there are countless possibilities and variables, in fact, behind the generosity, somewhat irresponsible, or in order to highlight the sense of self-superiority of the careful thinking, but do not because of the conceit of their own emotional control ability, otherwise the development of uncontrollable, will lose a lot of the happy life that they have, but there is no place to buy regret medicine.