Some time ago, a couple discussed who tutored their daughter to do homework and began to frantically take care of housework and "kick the ball":
"You help the kids with their homework, I clean up the kitchen and drag the floor again."
"You go to tutoring, and I clean up the bathroom!"
"You go anyway, I'll wash my clothes too."
You can feel that the couple in the video is very resistant to tutoring their children to write homework, after all, compared to doing housework, tutoring children's homework may not be a "good job".
Experienced parents know how much trouble it is to tutor their children to write homework, first of all, the child's "rubbing" this level is very sad, want to invite the child to the desk, many times also have to rub for half a day.
Back at home, put down the bag, go to the toilet first, then go to eat something, pour a glass of water, come back and pull out the book, stay for a while, haven't written homework, more than half an hour has passed.
It was hard to finally start doing homework, but in case there was a wind and grass, the child looked left and looked at it like a frightened grasshopper, and it was half a day.
In the face of such a rubbing child, even if the parents have a good temper, they cannot avoid a big fire, but often the more urgent they are, the more indifferent the child is, and the problem of the child's homework rubbing is difficult for many parents.
Why do children like to rub so much?
1. Probably perfectionism
In fact, some children do not deliberately procrastinate when writing homework, but have some "perfectionism" like obsessive-compulsive disorder.
For example, some children as long as the words are slightly untidy, they will erase and rewrite, in case they accidentally wipe the paper through a hole, but also tear off the whole sheet and start again, so that the "battle line" of writing homework is naturally stretched.
2. Homework is too difficult for children
Sometimes the reason why children rub is mainly because they are afraid of difficulties and feel that it is too difficult to write homework, after all, even adults can not avoid procrastination when facing difficult things, not to mention children whose minds are not calm enough.
3. Children are born with such a personality
Each child's personality is different, some children are born fierce, do everything is to strive for speed, and some children are not hurried, do not rush to do anything, even if the parents are in a hurry, no matter how urgent, no matter how urgent it is, it will not have any effect.
4. There is no sense of time
Some children do not have a concept of time and do not know how long the so-called 1 hour, half hour, or 5 minutes represent.
Colleague's child went to school at 8 o'clock in the morning, and his mother asked him to start getting up at 7 o'clock every day and going out at 7:40 a.m., but every time the child's time was always not arranged well, either when he got up, he was too tired, or he spent too much time eating, and he was late almost every day for a week.
The reason why such a problem occurs is that the child has no sense of time, does not know how long 40 minutes represent, and the last delay will naturally be late.
How to get rid of your child's "procrastination"?
1. Change the urge to give the child a choice
When the child keeps rubbing and procrastinating, we can try to change the urge to give the child a choice.
For example, when taking your child out to watch a movie, let the child understand that if you go out 10 minutes early, you can just catch the beginning of the movie, and if you rub it, you may miss the beginning of the movie, or you must cancel the itinerary.
2. Treat homework as an exam
When tutoring children with homework, we can also try to introduce "exam mode".
In the process of writing homework, it is stipulated that in a certain period of time, it is not allowed to do irrelevant things such as going to the toilet, drinking water, and eating, so as to improve the child's attention and gradually develop self-discipline habits.
3. Parents should lead by example
Parents' behavior has a great impact on children, to avoid children procrastination, parents should lead by example, complete things on time, children can have a model, play an exemplary role in it.
4. Lower expectations for your child
Some parents have been complaining that their children are slow to do things, and the homework looks so simple, but the children scratch their ears and scratch their cheeks when they do it, and they rub it for hours.
In fact, this is because the child's ability is limited, we can not use the adult standard to ask the child, if the parents have been complaining about the child's slow work, in the side of the constant urging, will only make the child more and more anxious, backfire effect.
When facing the child's "rubbing", we should appropriately reduce the expectations of the child, compare the speed of the same age with the child, and give the child a certain buffer time.
For example, after the child completes part of the homework, set aside part of the time to rest, and appropriately give the child the right to control the time independently, so that the child's time concept can be cultivated, and it is easier to change the habit of procrastination.
Crooked Mom Conclusion:
Because children are too abrasive, some parents like to call it a "tractor", describing doing things and dragging without a sense of time.
In fact, sometimes the more parents urge, the more the child rubs, if you want to change the habit of the child's rubbing, or pay attention to educational methods, in order to completely cure the child's "procrastination".
Today's topic: Does your child like to rub?