I believe that many parents will be very envious when they see that other people's children have good grades, and naturally hope that their children are also like this, but many times the results are disappointing. In fact, there is a very important reason that our children are not self-disciplined.
Of course, we parents have never taught our children to be a self-disciplined person, which is worth parents to introspect. So no matter when it starts, whether it is during the summer vacation or during the school period, parents should tell their children a few truths so that they clearly understand the importance of self-discipline.
1. The self-discipline is outstanding, and the non-self-discipline is out
Many people want to take shortcuts on the road to success, but in fact there are no shortcuts to take.
Many people watch others succeed casually without paying anything, and they also make great efforts behind their backs, and there is a path they take, that is, the road of self-discipline.
Self-discipline enables them to have a wonderful life. I believe that everyone knows the daily mode of Hengshui Middle School, they get up at five o'clock in the morning to read texts, and then hold a book while running and exercising, in short, their hands have never left the book.
Their school is the country's most students admitted to Tsinghua Peking University, if someone falls behind, they can still study in the 985, 211 school. Their open and hanging life may be taught well by the teacher, but the most important thing is that they are self-disciplined, so that they have a life of opening and hanging.
I believe that everyone remembers the pair of Hunan rural twins who were admitted to Tsinghua Peking University in 2020? When many people hear this news, they may subconsciously feel that their family is very well-off, they have seen the world, they have read a lot of books, and their parents have enrolled them in many cram schools, but this is not the case, and what they can rely on is their self-discipline.
Even their teachers say that because they are self-disciplined, they become brothers, they don't play electronics, they don't play online games. Self-discipline puts them on the right path in life, and if they hadn't been self-disciplined and had indulged themselves all the time, they might still be struggling in the mud.
2, determine the upper limit of your grades, not talent but self-discipline
Under the influence of the epidemic, many mythical beasts have begun to take online lessons, which means that no one supervises children's classes, but you will find children who are not disciplined:
Online learning, parents are not in learning, life and rest, parents do not urge, every day to see the mobile phone to see non-stop. In short, out of the sight of parents, children are doing irrelevant things.
Although human talent is important, but without the self-discipline support of the day after tomorrow, it is simply meaningless, during the study period have read hurt Zhongyong, what a talented person, but the day after tomorrow has not studied, and eventually become a mediocre person who can no longer be mediocre.
The girl who has recently been on the hot search, not a marketing major, is interdisciplinary to Gree, and has been trained by Dong Mingzhu to become the successor of Gree. Both of them are gifted, but the results are diametrically opposed.
So, how do we parents cultivate their children's self-discipline?
1. Help children establish a sense of rules
In life, parents should set up certain planning rules for their children and clarify the standards of the rules.
For example, when children want to play games, they must finish the day's homework, and when they eat, be polite, do not leave the seat immediately after eating, do not play mobile phones, and so on. And it is clearly stipulated that if you violate the rules, you will be punished to a certain extent, and of course, if you do a good job, there will be a reward.
2. Teach children to learn time management
To cultivate children's sense of self-discipline, parents must teach their children to learn time management. Then we parents should make a schedule for our children every day, and then follow the plan, if you can't complete all the plans, you have to push it back.
Of course, it is also necessary to give the child a free time to play, and do anything. When children learn time management, they will understand what they have done during this time, then have a certain concept of time, and then know how to allocate time and cherish time later.
3. Cultivate reading habits
Nowadays, electronic products are prevalent, and many children like to play games and read very little about books.
We have always said that there is a golden house in the book, there is a beautiful jade in the book, and reading can broaden the child's vision and increase the amount of knowledge of the child.
Therefore, we should cultivate the habit of reading, reading for an hour at a fixed time every day, and then we will develop habits and become more self-disciplined.
Cultivate children's self-discipline habits, it is best to be in the child's 3-6 years old time, at this time the child has a sense of self, with a strong curiosity and abundant energy, parents teach themselves what, will want to learn, and the ability to absorb knowledge is very strong.
Therefore, I recommend that every parent prepare a set of storybooks for their children, so that interesting stories can help children learn some good living habits. In the story, children will be attracted by the plot and characters in the story, and will also substitute themselves into the role, naturally learn better, and will naturally apply it to life.
summary:
We must always tell our children that there is no shortcut to success, and only by working hard and hard can we succeed.
Even if the child is talented, but the talent is nothing in the face of experience, but if we have talent and hard work, it is really a blossoming life.
Therefore, we must work hard the day after tomorrow, otherwise we will lose with talent.