Since the implementation of the three-child policy, many elderly women have taken this train, which is still relatively common at present. In medicine, women over 35 years of age are defined as advanced mothers, while women over 45 years of age are considered ultra-advanced mothers. But in real life, there is also a group of more special women, that is, women over 60 years old, and a small number of them also plan to fight for the second or third child.
01 63-year-old mother blindly followed the trend to fight for three children, the child is only three years old now, the status quo makes everyone sigh
63-year-old Aunt Zhuang saw that many people around her had plans to have three children, and considering that her children were not around, she planned to give birth to a three-child with the wind, before making this decision, she only considered her own economic problems, she thought she had another house, and both of them had a pension every month, although the savings were not much, but raising another child was definitely not a problem, so she and her husband were prepared to have three children.
All along, Aunt Zhuang's health has been very good, even if she is 63 years old, she still has no menopause, and what surprises her even more is that in the second month of pregnancy, she is pregnant, which can be said to be very lucky. During the pregnancy, her husband took very good care of her, although her decision made her children very dissatisfied, and even quarreled several times, but Aunt Zhuang could not do anything, so she could only follow her.
After ten months of pregnancy, Aunt Zhuang finally gave birth to a son, which is more precious, but it may be the cause of advanced pregnancy, after the caesarean section, Aunt Zhuang's health became very poor, not as energetic as before, and also left a lot of sequelae, such as migraine, low back pain and so on. You know, these symptoms she did not have before giving birth to the third child, but at this time, Aunt Zhuang did not feel regret, felt that it was worth it.
In the process of the child's growth, because Aunt Zhuang is in poor health, she cannot often take the child, almost all of which are brought by her husband, and the husband is often physically and mentally exhausted because of the child, and there is not so much energy at all. The two daughters had previously quarreled with her because of her problem of having a second child, and now that the child was born, they almost no longer came to visit their parents, using busyness as an excuse every time.
In addition, what makes the couple particularly unhappy is that every time they go out with their children, they will be called the grandparents of the children, and every time they want to explain, they feel embarrassed.
When the child is three years old, when the child should go to kindergarten, because there is no savings at all, but they want to provide a good education for the child, the couple simply decided to sell the house. When the two daughters learned of this news, they resolutely disagreed, and because of this problem, they were in a big fight, and even the eldest daughter said bluntly, "You gave birth to three children but lost two daughters, and you still made your body like this, does it make sense!" ”
Aunt Zhuang and her husband were dumbfounded by her daughter's words, recalling the years when the little son was born, life did become a mess, but now regret is useless, after all, the child has been born, can only be responsible for the child, I am afraid that life will be more difficult in the future.
In fact, most ultra-old women will regret it after blindly fighting, because they did not do enough consideration before fighting, but on a whim, many things that occurred subsequently were unexpected by them, so it was difficult to cope with them and regretted it.
02 What are the things to consider when having three children at an advanced age?
First of all, we must consider economic factors, after all, fertility and parenting are not a small amount, especially in the later stage of the child's parenting, not only in terms of food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also in the child's education costs, which is a large amount. If you want your child to get better resources, the cost of investment is greater. In addition, it also needs to be considered that now many ultra-old women will become much worse after giving birth to their children, so they need long-term treatment, and some children are born with congenital diseases, which require a large amount of medical expenses in the later stages, and whether they can afford it must be taken into account.
Secondly, it is also necessary to consider the child's parenting problems, whether it is the energy of the parents, or the guidance of the child's three views, which requires the patience of the parents. However, compared with super-aged parents and children, there is too much generation gap, communication has become a problem, it is likely to make children have a great sense of rejection, and finally the family relationship is broken, and even may appear because the child cannot be disciplined, resulting in the child on the wrong path.
In addition, the opinions of other children also need to be considered, otherwise, as in the case above, if the relationship with other children is broken due to the birth of three children, it can be said that it is not worth the loss. And if other children are not willing, they will not help to take care of the children together, or have a discordant relationship with the third child, and there will be many family conflicts at that time.
Therefore, it is recommended not to blindly have three children, especially those who are super old, and fully consider the above influencing factors in making decisions, otherwise they are likely to regret it in the future.