The netizen letter said:
When I married my ex-wife, I couldn't even afford to buy her "three golds", let alone buy a house, but even so, my ex-wife still ignored her parents' objections and married me as a Fengzi. After that, we lived in an apartment for nearly 6 years before we bought a house with a mortgage in the city. But then I made money faster, so it took me three years to settle the bank mortgage in advance.
In the blink of an eye, my ex-wife and I had been living together for more than a decade, and at this time, my whole person was a little fluttery, as if the previous frugal life had not happened to me, so that I began to be ambiguous with younger women. During this time, I met a girl who made my eyes shine and liked me, and the two of us finally finalized the relationship between lovers. The point is, I didn't shy away from my ex-wife at all about my lover's affairs. My real thought at the time: If my ex-wife wasn't willing to turn a blind eye, I would divorce my ex-wife. Unexpectedly, after this matter was discovered by my ex-wife, my ex-wife took the initiative to file for divorce from me. At that time, although my heart was a little sick, I did not do too much to retain it.
After divorcing my ex-wife, I quickly lived with my lover, and after really living together, I found that she couldn't do anything but sell cute and spoiled: she couldn't cook, and she didn't know how to clean up the house. Instantly, I felt that she was my ancestor. Because of these trivial things in life, I began to dislike my lover. Sometimes I console myself: after all, the other person is only 24 years old (12 years younger than my ex-wife). However, life needs to exist in a down-to-earth manner, so, over time, I feel more and more that it is not appropriate for the two of us to be together.
After living with my lover for half a year, I proposed to break up. At this time, my lover asked me for 500,000 yuan in mental damages. Naturally, I did not agree, and I hated my lover even more. In the end, I gave my lover 50,000 yuan, and she gave up her entanglement with me. Now that I'm single again, I occasionally think of the little beauty of being with my ex-wife, but we can't go back to the past. That's when I realized I was wrong.
Muzi Li emotional analysis:
In principle, in the case that the lover has no obvious shortcomings, and the two parties have already had children, it is irresponsible to get involved in an extramarital affair, or to divorce because of aesthetic fatigue to the lover. However, not everyone thinks that this is the wrong approach, and feels that life is short, they should pursue their own happiness, but ignore the responsibilities and obligations that should be in the married life, for these people, really need to self-reflect.
Usually, everyone is an ordinary person, even if it is a divorce, it will not cause a big wave, and moreover, now the phenomenon of divorce and extramarital affairs is piled up, so that people around them will be indifferent to the mentality of not caring about themselves, but people who are experiencing these things may not be able to see it, so that sometimes the result of divorce is equivalent to taking some people's lives for half a life, so that for a long time after divorce, they are healing in their own way.
At the beginning, your ex-wife was able to marry you when you were poor, indicating that she was not a woman who wanted money at all, but felt that you were a more reliable person. After you got involved in an affair, she felt that you were rotten and staying around would only make her feel sick, so she took the initiative to withdraw from you.
Ridiculously, many men in life long for themselves to meet a girl who believes in love, the key is that these girls who believe in love are finally hurt by the people they love. Your ex-wife is a stark example.
If your ex-wife is not willing to start a family with you, you are still a bachelor and will not even have the glamorous career you have today. There are always some people like you, who, when they are a little rich, start to hiss and make themselves white-eyed wolves. I would like to ask, when a woman meets a man like you, don't you feel that it is a woman's sadness?
Inevitably, when you divorce your ex-wife, she should win half of the family property, plus she is a girl who can bear hardships, so her future life will still be better and better. And you owe your ex-wife and your children because your lover owes you a lot of the time in the future.
Of course, some things will have a watery effect after they happen, and now, since it is impossible to live with your ex-wife again, you need to face the reality of divorce, after all, there is still a lot of time in the future life, during which you will also re-establish a new family, because you are not short of money, so you can have more choices when reorganizing the family. I still feel that it is very necessary to find a woman with a good heart.
In our life, in fact, it is not chai rice oil and salt and eating, wearing, living and traveling, so two people are comfortable together is the best look in the relationship, during which they may quarrel over trivial matters in life, but as long as the other party has a good heart, the contradiction between husband and wife is not a big problem. In the marriage relationship, the most feared things: good food and laziness, excessive spending, dissimilarity of the three views, unreasonable trouble. Therefore, each of us should be kind to our legitimate lover and maintain the marriage as much as possible into a state of old age.
About love, sometimes it is quite funny, stemming from the fact that in the field of love, there will always be a situation in which the predecessors plant trees and the posterity is cool, because many times, when we see the ex again, we will find that the ex has quietly become what you desire, but the person he is attached to is no longer you. Perhaps, everyone is the last emotional teacher of the ex, and unfortunately, from now on, his regrets no longer have a half-cent relationship with you.
Editor's Note:
Many times, because extramarital affairs do not belong to the category of breaking the law, and they are not big people, when the infidelity happens, in addition to affecting the stability of the marriage, it will not have a great impact on their careers. After all, I am only a small person in life, where can I impact. However, when you belong to a public figure, then, it is possible that because of an extramarital affair, you may fall from a big person to a small person, during which you may be a skinny camel bigger than a horse, but the mental torment of this piece of cold and warm self-knowledge.
Although many people are busy working hard for their small families now, they will still be interested in some gossip in their spare time, and who wants to make themselves the talking point after dinner? Inevitably, when it is discussed by many people as a joke, it must be a very humiliating thing, right? You know, everyone's discussion of gossip can sometimes turn over old accounts, so once it is stained, it is difficult to wash white in this life.
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