Generally speaking, parents who can't see their children suffering are often suffering a lot of suffering in their own childhood, so hoping that their children will not suffer like this again is actually compensating for their own hearts.
Of course, there is also a kind of parent, who suffered in his childhood, and also hopes that his child will eat it again to achieve psychological balance, but it is called for the good of the child.
When the writer Wang Xiaobo recalled his life in the queue, he said such a thing: In order to remember the bittersweet, he once deliberately made a lot of meals with unpalatable things, and as a result, after everyone ate it, it not only affected the work life, but also damaged the body.
The easiest thing to get in life is pain, the most difficult to get is happiness, between suffering and not suffering, if you have to choose to let the child suffer, deliberately create painful experience for him, in order to exercise the ability to resist pressure, this kind of parents are actually psychologically ill.
There is a lot of suffering in life that is not necessary to eat, because it not only delays time and affects mood, but also makes children lose their fighting spirit and have no value.
I know that a netizen complained about his parents:
After graduating from high school, I was not admitted to a particularly good university, and my mother let me go to my uncle's construction site to work as a coolie and let me experience the life at the bottom. Because I also felt guilty in my own heart, I worked desperately for more than a month, and finally one day I couldn't stand it, sprained my waist, and until now there are sequelae.
Another netizen said this:
The conditions in my family are actually good, but my mother always let me wear my cousin's old clothes when I was a child, and often told me that I never wore new clothes when I was young, and now I have to feel this kind of life and eat some hardships in life. When I was in elementary school, I didn't pay much attention to my appearance, I thought it didn't matter, and then when I went to junior high school, my classmates knew that I was wearing old clothes, so they made fun of me, which made it very difficult to live three years in junior high school.
What kind of parents truly love their children?
Children want to eat lollipops, even if parents know that eating is not good for teeth, they will buy it for their children, at most eat it to let the child brush their teeth and rinse their mouths.
The child wants to eat ice cream, but the weather is not very good, but seeing the child's expectant eyes, he will still buy it for the child, at most after eating, let the child drink some hot water, try to avoid stomach pain.
There is work at home that is not willing to let the child do it, the summer is too hot, afraid of the child heat stroke; the winter is too cold, afraid of the child catching a cold.
Some people say, aren't you doting?
Of course not! Many people have a wrong understanding of coddling, I think that as long as the love of parents for their children does not break the law and does not affect others, then they can love fiercely, and their children do not have the right to love?
The so-called coddling is to know that this matter is wrong, and let the child do it, which is called coddling. For example, children make loud noises in public, destroy public equipment, cover up after stealing things, and condone children to do bad things, etc., which is called coddling.
The child accidentally fell down when learning to walk, in love with the baby, I will immediately help him up, instead of listening to the experts and letting him get up by himself. Don't tell me that you want your child to learn to be independent, whether you can be independent in the future, and help him up now has nothing to do with half a cent.
If parents really love their children, they should not let him suffer, especially some unnecessary suffering, which is really useless!
Parents who love their children will support their children's choices, give their children what they want, and strive to make their children happy. Parents at a higher level will have their own value system, but they will not force this set of rules to their children, but will let them make their own decisions.
After the child enters the school and enters the society in the future, there is still a lot of suffering that needs to be suffered, and we parents should not let him suffer anymore.
I don't want my child to remember crying and weeping when he was a child, but I hope that his face will be full of smiles when he remembers his childhood.
If the phrase "eat bitterly is the best person", the peasants under the scorching sun have long become rich, and the small workers on the construction site have long become foremen. To endure hardship, we must eat in a place of value, not the suffering that some parents understand in their hearts.
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