Author:Yiming (Parents Intensive Reading Author)
Source: Mom and Dad Evolution Original
Recently, I was impressed by the video of a pair of mothers and children who were dripping.
At the infusion site of a hospital, a mother and son do a drip at the same time.
Unlike others, their left hand is dripping and their right hand is not idle. The mother, who is a teacher, is changing the student's homework, and the son is doing the exercises.
Although they are next to each other, they are busy with each other, and this positive energy makes many netizens moved.
My mother fell ill, but she did not give up her job and tried her best to be a good teacher.
Before the illness, the son was not affected and studied very hard.
Many netizens expressed envy and said that excellent mothers brought out excellent sons.
Mo Yan said that the child's excellence is soaked in the sweat of parents.
In today's society, the pressure of competition is great, and every parent hopes that their children can have a career in the future and become a shining person.
So, what are the characteristics of good parents?
Spend your heart with your child
Do you remember that takeaway baby Phil? Her big eyes and cute smile impressed many people.
Fei'er's parents are ordinary workers, and after Fei'er was born, many people suggested that they leave Fei'er in their hometown and let the elderly take care of them.
Phil's parents don't want their daughter to be left behind, and they say they have to keep their daughter with them no matter how hard life is.
In this way, when the father of the takeaway seller took the 6-month-old Little Fei'er to deliver the takeaway, and there were more orders at noon, he asked the mother who sold meat in the vegetable market to watch the child for a while.
In her spare time, Fei'er's parents would take her to the playground to play, and would also buy picture books for her daughter to read stories and recognize words.
Although Fei'er's parents could not give Fei'er superior material conditions, the inseparable companionship of her parents became the biggest wealth in the process of her daughter's growth.
Recently, there is a popular saying on the Internet: children can't accompany you when they put down their work.
Nothing is absolute, as long as you accompany your child with your heart, your child will grow better and better.
My friend's daughter is in the sixth grade and has been doing very well. Friends said that this is all thanks to the tutoring of the child's father.
From the third grade of the child, the father found that his daughter's math score had dropped a little, and asked his daughter to give her father three problems a day.
Since his father worked in the field, he explained the problem to his daughter through video.
The father is very patient, the daughter is also very serious, and the child's grades have been very stable. The relationship between father and daughter is also more intimate, with almost nothing to talk about.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong said: "The early companionship and love of parents determine the background of children's lives. ”
The attentive companionship of parents is the best nutrition for children,
Any excellent child is not a miracle of the world, but the parents accompany them with their hearts.
Parents are the best role models for their children
The famous entrepreneur Cao Dewang once said that he can have today's achievements, thanks to his mother.
Cao Dewang's mother was a former landlord Qianjin, and after starting a family, she caught up with the war years and fell in the middle of the family.
Although poor, she is very particular.
She always cleaned up the house spotlessly, washed and worn the children's clothes clean and worn, and she carefully sewed them from the inside, without letting the patches stick to the outside with their teeth and claws.
Life is difficult, the children can only eat two soups and waters a day, and when they are hungry, they cry, so she takes the children to sit around the yard singing and playing games.
She often teaches her children to say:
"No one in the world will sympathize with your poverty, and no one will solve it for you, and to get rid of poverty, you can only rely on your own efforts and hard work."
"Poverty is not terrible, the most feared thing is that there is no ambition"
"The most important thing in being a person is the integrity of personality, and what is most needed is to gain the trust of others."
His mother's words and deeds have become the norms for Cao Dewang to do business in the future, and he started from scratch and has followed these for 40 years of entrepreneurship.
Writer Lev Tolstoy said:
All education, or nine hundred and ninety-nine thousandths of education, comes down to example, to the integrity and perfection of the parents' own lives.
Dong Qing also said: "What kind of person you want your children to become, you must first be what kind of person you want to be." ”
What kind of person the parent is is far more important than what to do for the child; the best education is that the parent takes the lead in living as a light and then becomes the best example for the child.
Parents love each other
Netizens have shared a story of their own.
She said that her father loved gambling and drinking, never cared about the family, and came back to beat his mother as soon as he drank.
It is precisely because of the unfortunate marriage that netizens felt that their mother's mood was very unstable when they were young, and they yelled at her at every turn.
Her mother's hysteria she could never forget for the rest of her life, and she decided that if she became a mother, she would never treat her children like this.
But when she really became a mother, although she was very restrained, she would still speak harshly to her husband and children and verbally attack the people she loved most.
Her daughter was less than three years old and had already learned to observe the color of speech, and once, his daughter wanted to help her mother wash the dishes, and accidentally broke the bowl.
Before she could get angry, her daughter was already crying and confessing her mistake and said, Mom don't get angry, don't hit me, I don't dare anymore.
The netizen said that at that moment, her heart was like a knife, wasn't that herself when she was a child?
A bad marriage for a parent can cause a lot of problems for the child, such as he does not know how to deal with his emotions and does not know how to get along with his other half.
Psychologist Wu Zhihong once said: "Home is a transmission channel for love and warmth, and it is also a transmission channel for hate and harm." ”
Children whose original families are unhappy are most likely unhappy when they grow up.
Only when you have seen the happiness of your parents, you will truly appreciate the beauty of life.
I recently saw a video interview with elementary school students, and one of the questions was: What do you want to say when you see your parents show affection?
A little girl said: "Dad's favorite person is my mom, I don't get jealous, it will make me feel like lying in a warm quilt." Even if I lay in the cold cellar, I wouldn't feel cold. ”
Another kid said, "I think it's fine!" Mom and Dad are happier, and I feel happy too. ”
The verbal expression of the child's true feelings makes people moved.
The best love a father has for his child is to love his child's mother;
The best love a mother has for her child is to appreciate and respect the child's father.
Many parents are busy working, busy with life, about the child's education, many parents often say: "Give the child to the school, let the teacher take good care of him!" ”
But parents should understand that teachers can teach good grades, but they cannot give their children a healthy personality.
Educationalist Cai Yuanpei once said: "It is not the academic performance that determines the child's life, but the sound personality cultivation." ”
If we want our children to be excellent, then we must first become a role model for children to learn;
Parents do their best, then the child will become what we want.
When you pour companionship, patience, and love into your child, you will also harvest a warm child.
Parents love each other, the child is more secure, and his behavior will develop in a positive direction.
Good education lies fundamentally in the dedication of parents to their children.
Please do not be lazy parents, let us nourish children with love, educate and guide children with our hearts, and make ourselves a beacon on the road of children's lives.
Parents' education hides the future of their children, and only when parents actively guide them, children have the strength to strive to grow.
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