Parents are the world of young children, their only dependence, so we often face a cruel reality: the class of parents determines the class of children, when the child gradually grows up and has the consciousness of rich and poor status, will he have a sense of the actual social status of his parents?
Under the actual survey data, many children have had such feelings: why did I reincarnate into such a family, why were my parents so mediocre? When they have just had vanity and are not well guided, some children will even feel that their parents have humiliated themselves and do not want their parents to attend the parent-teacher conference.
Father attends parent-teacher conference, but is disliked by his son as "too humiliating"
Brother Song, a friend of the crooked mother's husband, went to the parents' meeting of the second year of his son's junior high school two days ago, and at the meeting, the parents spoke randomly, and he stood up and said a few words.
Unexpectedly, as soon as he came home, his son cried and made trouble, and he was angry at him: "Dad! Today is my parent-teacher conference, can you get dressed well, why don't you wear a T-shirt with a big advertisement printed on it, isn't it a shame for me! And you quietly participate in the end of the good, why should you stand up to speak ah, your Mandarin yourself is not unknown, the accent is so heavy, my classmates will definitely point out in the future, I will not even be able to lift my head in front of them in the future! ”
After saying that, Komatsu also cried a lot, as if this kind of embarrassment was a big thing for him, Song Ge was surprised, sad and angry, thinking that he had worked hard for many years to raise a white-eyed wolf, what happened to him wearing clothes sent by advertisers?
The clothes are comfortable and practical, and the money saved is not spent on this little bunny cub?
A moment of anger attacked the heart, Song Ge threw his hands a few slaps, beat his son, so the relationship between father and son deteriorated rapidly because of this parental meeting, and it did not ease up for several days.
Until today, old Song and Xiao Song still did not talk much, every day at the dinner table to eat sons are buried in their heads, after eating to pull their legs and run, so that Song Brother and his two mouths are very helpless, these days to meet, they are long and short sighs.
Is the parent too mediocre, or is the child too vain?
However, although Komatsu feels wronged, the grievances in the father's heart are not necessarily less than those of the child, and he can't figure it out, is the current child too vain?
Parents have worked hard to raise them so big, there is no merit and there is hard work. However, I did not expect that my dress and accent would make the child feel humiliated.
Children at a young age began to care about the so-called "face", for this illusory thing hurt the parents who loved them the most, but they did not know that becoming an ordinary parent has made them work hard and harder, is it a sin for parents not to be successful enough?
Indeed, seeing that other people's parents are Kochi white-collar workers or big bosses, envy is inevitable.
But most of the world is mediocre and ordinary people, and they can't be deprived of their basic right to parenthood, right?
There is nothing wrong with being mediocre as a parent, because this is the norm in life, and for children, too strong vanity will make them selfish and extreme, affecting normal psychological development and social integration, which is very unfavorable to growth, and parents should pay attention to management.
What if the child has vanity and dislikes his parents?
1. Teach children to face reality and not to deceive themselves
The fig leaf of life can never be covered all the time, and children need to gradually come out of the ivory tower and see the truth of the world in the process of growing up. Of course, crooked mothers do not recommend instilling in their children the concept of being poor at home and not easy for parents at a young age, which will easily make children passive and inferior from an early age, not easy to love themselves and open their hearts to love the world.
However, in the adolescent period when the three views are in urgent need of guidance, children can be taught to recognize the mediocrity of their parents and the surrounding environment, so that children dare to accept mediocrity, but do not despise themselves because of this, because there is no no noble profession and no noble personality, as long as they are disciplined and law-abiding, and those who are useful to society should be respected, especially by their relatives.
2. Teach children to have a humble attitude towards life
A person's origin can not be chosen, but you can choose what kind of person to become, although we are not rich, but we can have a noble heart, such a child will not be poor and love the rich, and even hurt the parents who love them the most.
Social resources are limited, there must be poor people, this is not that they do not work hard, but limited by resources and environment, so mediocrity is not wrong, there is no need to feel inferior, people must learn to reconcile with their own desires and vanity, know themselves and accept themselves.
epilogue:
It is very normal for children to have vanity, do not be too anxious, do not be disappointed in their dear baby, as parents we must make the right guidance in time, the life of a generation has become a foregone conclusion, but the future of the new generation is unlimited, but also can be reversed by themselves, so instead of complaining about parents, it is better to work hard.
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