In the second half of life, less angry, live well

Listen to happiness with you every night

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Author: Xu Xiaoxu

Source: Ten Point Reading (ID: duhaoshu)

There are too many things that people have in their hearts in this life, and joy and sorrow are inevitable.

However, only by moving this "anger" word can we hurt our bodies and be sad, and hurt others and hurt ourselves.

The Song Dynasty poet Shao Yong has a poem that says it best:

The mind is at ease, and the body is self-expansive. What can be done in peace of mind and body?

The gist of it is: peace of mind, stability of the body, what else will bother you?

Life in the world, endure the calm of the wind and waves, take a step back from the sea and the sky.

Less anger is a kind of wisdom in dealing with the world.

01

To be angry is to be unable to live with yourself

I have heard a saying: "To be angry is like drinking poison yourself and expecting others to suffer." ”

When you are angry, you are led by the nose by others, and you hurt yourself, but others are unscathed.

One of our customer sisters is very competent and has been running her factory well for many years.

The sister-in-law blushed and said that the factory was founded by her father and that she should get half of the shares in the factory.

She also said behind her back that her sister-in-law was greedy and greedy for money and wanted to swallow their family property alone.

In fact, after nearly 20 years of marriage, the factory has always been operated by the eldest sister, her husband does not understand the business, and others do not care.

She often works overtime for a month and stays up all night, and even in the off-season, she never has the heart to go out and relax.

Dare to feel that all these years are busy for others?

As soon as the eldest sister thought about it, she was dizzy and her blood pressure was rushing.

In the past two years of physical examination, she has successively checked for hyperthyroidism and thyroid nodules, and later suddenly a few not-so-good nodules that require surgery.

The eldest sister realized that it was her bad temper that hurt herself, and she did not dare to be angry and sullen anymore when she had something to say in the future.

Once people are angry, they are most afraid of losing their vitality and causing unexpected pain.

Do you know how terrible it really is to be angry?

After reading a set of angry data, it is shocking:

Doubling blood flow in the heart can induce angina and myocardial infarction;

The liver is a circle larger than usual, which can lead to liver disease and cirrhosis;

The alveoli continue to expand and the immune system strikes for 6 hours.

The physical strength of 10 minutes of anger is no less than participating in a 3000-meter run;

The energy consumed by 1 hour of anger is equivalent to 6 hours of overtime...

There's a saying, "Health is not everything, but without health there is nothing." ”

We always think that we will come to Japan for a long time, but we do not know that life is fragile and vulnerable, and without health, everything is in vain.

Things can't overwhelm people, what kills people is bad emotions, don't get along with yourself.

02

Getting angry will only make things worse

If anger is the killer, then impulse is the devil.

When people are angry, they are prone to lose their minds and act impulsively, making things worse.

Some time ago, there was a news that made everyone sigh.

A man in Anyang, Henan Province, locked himself in his home after an argument with his mother, turned on the natural gas and lit the bed.

Seeing the firefighters come to the rescue, he was emotional and directly pointed the lighter at the natural gas pipeline interface.

By the time the firefighters broke in, the man inhaled an excess of natural gas and was already unconscious on the living room couch.

Fortunately, the medical treatment was timely, otherwise the mother would have hated for life, and he himself would have paid the price for recklessness.

I agree with Zhang Xiaoxian's sentence: "Everything in life is not smooth because of temper." Suffering others, but also suffering yourself. ”

When people are out of control, they rely on subjective assumptions to vent their emotions, either want to teach each other a lesson, or want to make the other party blame themselves.

People who don't care about you look silly, and people who care about you feel sorry for you.

Tearing feelings apart, making uncontrollable moves, and ultimately paying for all the evil consequences is either yourself or the closest person.

As the writer Liu Na said: "Emotion is a gun, when we pull the trigger of emotion, the muzzle of the gun is actually aimed at ourselves." ”

Many times, when a person pays silently, others may not be able to see it, but once they are angry, they will leave people with unforgettable memories, and even be labeled as grumpy and difficult to get along with.

Make the small transgression into a great disaster, let the rational become unreasonable.

No matter how strong the ability and hard work, it will not help.

At the same time, it will also bring time costs and physical costs to itself, resulting in a series of chain reactions:

In terms of time, it is necessary to digest resentment and affect the efficiency of doing things; from the physical strength, it will produce negative energy, which makes people tired.

Expanding the problem infinitely and increasing the troubles and worries in vain is really "a small and intolerable chaos."

Therefore, if you don't have the ability to clean up the mess, don't indulge your fickle emotions.

In the face of right and wrong, not getting angry is the wisest countermeasure, and not being reasonable is the toughest counterattack.

03

Learn not to get angry and you win

"Cai Gen Tan" has a saying: The real noble qi is a person's calm breath.

Still can cultivate the body, and still can produce wisdom.

In a man's temper, there is his temperament and wisdom.

Once read a story and was deeply moved.

A teacher named Belle wanted to set up a school for children in poor areas to receive education.

She heard that there was a man named Ford who had funded a lot of public welfare, so she came to visit.

But there has been no shortage of scoundrels and scammers who have come to Ford for funding over the years, which has made Ford full of doubts about the helpers.

He pulled out a 10-cent coin, tossed it on his desk, and said with disdain:

"I have this money in my pocket, so you can take it and leave!"

In the face of Ford's arrogance and rudeness, Bai Li was very excited, but she did not shoot the case, but slowly picked up the coin and left silently.

When she returned, she used the 10 cents to buy a bag of peanut seeds and plant them in the field, and after half a year, the small piece of land became a lush peanut garden.

Bailey came to Ford's office again, handed for fore a picture of the peanut orchard and a 10-cent coin, and said:

"10 cents if you invest the right way, it will bring a huge return."

Ford was amazed to see the photos.

He then signed a check for $25,000 and gave it to Belle, an astronomical amount at the time.

In the years that followed, Ford donated a school building and several beautiful buildings to the school.

Carnegie said: Those who cannot be angry are fools, and those who are not angry are wise.

In life, no one can do everything as they wish, anger is instinctive, and anger control is the skill.

Calm and self-assured, think twice before acting, which has the control and dominance of the overall situation.

I couldn't agree with this saying: "If you're right, there's no need to be angry; if you're wrong, you're not entitled to be angry." ”

Instead of making a big fuss, it is better to be calm and not let the mistakes of others affect your own judgment and good mood.

Let go of others and reconcile with yourself.

Not to think about it is the highest level of conduct; only by holding your breath can you achieve great things.

04

Some people say that no matter how angry others are, you can still deal with them calmly, which is called a high person; if you are not angry with others yourself, you are not angry, this is called a real person.

Learning not to be angry is a smart person who controls life.

I like the saying: "You can't change the weather, but you can change your mood; you can't control others, but you can control yourself." ”

Anyone who can make you angry is not worth getting angry with.

Don't get along with yourself, don't let things get out of hand.

When others compliment you, you don't have to take it completely seriously; when others slander you, try to correct yourself.

Life is your own, sorrow is also a day, joy is also a day, live in their own good attitude, only worthy of every day.

In the second half of life, less angry, live a day to be happy!

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