Spring Festival gatherings, visiting relatives and friends, if the child has a good tutoring and family style, it is natural to make everyone like, and parents are more worry-free.
However, children are naughty by nature, sometimes even like a "little devil", especially when guests come to the house, our cute little angels may instantly become "bear children", making parents headaches, and children have this abnormal performance, which is also commonly known as "people coming crazy".
The psychology research team of Harvard University has found that the phenomenon of "people coming crazy" in children is mostly related to parental discipline. Therefore, if your child has a situation of "people coming crazy", parents should not take it seriously, and must pay attention to it.
During the New Year, relatives and friends will visit each other to be lively, but this occasion also makes many parents feel very headaches.
I remember last year's New Year's Day, our family went to my sister's house as a guest, as soon as I entered the door, I saw her 2-year-old daughter building blocks, so I called my children to go and play with her daughter.
But after a while, her daughter seemed to have changed as a person, as long as she saw me and my sister talking, her daughter was going to come over and interject, the brother-in-law took her daughter over, her daughter was not willing, and even sang loudly on the side, the sister saw that her child's performance was very embarrassing, and she could only shake her head helplessly, and sighed directly: "This is not the first time, this child does not know what is wrong, usually very well-behaved, but as long as the family comes to change, there is really no way to take her." ”
In fact, the situation of children "going crazy" is also very common, not only the children of the sister's family are like this, so why can't the children "go crazy" when the guests come to the family? Most of the reasons behind this are:
● Children crave attention
An educator once said: after the child is 2 years old, self-awareness continues to increase, at this time, the child will be very eager to get the attention of others, especially the people around them, if the parents usually pay less attention to the child, the child will appear "people come crazy" situation, like to show themselves in front of everyone.
● Children have social needs
In general, the people that children contact are their parents or neighbors, and the activity space is relatively limited, and as children grow older, they are eager to socialize and know more people, so when they come to the guests at home, or when they party, they will be anxious to express themselves and win the attention of others.
But in fact, the child itself is not malicious, they are just not good at expression, if parents find that the child has a "crazy people" situation, parents do not feel that the child is lively and does not pay attention, because such behavior has a great impact on the growth of the child.
If the child is a "crazy person", what are the bad effects?
◎It is not very polite to guests
The guest comes to the house as a guest, but the child shows too much lively behavior in front of the guest, which will make the guest have a very impolite behavior of the child.
For example, before Xiaosun went to a colleague's house as a guest, after sitting down, the colleague's child Xiaodou began to "perform" in front of Xiaosun, deliberately jumping and jumping in front of Xiaosun, running around, throwing toys all over the house, and shouting loudly in his throat to interfere with adult chat.
But in fact, Xiaodou itself has no malicious intentions, it just wants to attract the attention of people around it and wants to play with his uncle.
However, Xiao Dou's behavior is indeed very impolite to Uncle Xiaosun, and it will also leave a bad impression on him.
◎ For parents, it is very embarrassing
Their colleagues came to the house as guests, originally the person in charge should be themselves, but at this time the child was very active, which made the parents very embarrassed, eager to find a seam to drill into.
For example, the children of the sister's family, every time the guests come to the house, the children will "change greatly", which will leave a bad impression.
Moreover, if the parents invite guests to come to the house to talk about important things, the child's behavior will not only affect the progress, but also make the parents very embarrassed, so that others think that their parents are very doting on the child and will not be waiting to see the parents in the future.
In short, the child appears "people come crazy" situation, parents must not be improper, of course, can also use coaxing or reprimanding to solve the problem, which will only make the situation worse, can properly guide the child, so that the child slowly understand the etiquette of hospitality.
What should I do when I meet a child who is "crazy"?
● Inform the child in advance so that the child is mentally prepared
Children's thinking is very simple, when encountering problems that will not be dealt with, either crying or making trouble, and the "people come crazy" children choose the way to make trouble, they do not know how to express their joy at seeing people, they can only show themselves hard, in order to win his attention and make others happy.
But if the child knows in advance what will happen and has a preconceived illusion in his mind, then the situation will be better. For example, when the family is about to come to the guest, or when the parents are ready to take the child to some party occasions, explain the situation to the child in advance, so that the child has psychological preparation, the child will observe and imitate the parents' hospitality, and learn how to be a "small master".
● Involve your child
Nowadays, people's lives are more at home, in addition to the New Year's Festival, few guests will come to the home as guests, so the opportunity for children to contact guests is very small, often with their parents and relatives to live together, if there are guests to come to the home, children will naturally be very excited.
At this time, if parents focus on the guests, the baby will be ignored, so that it will be sad and sad, or there will be abnormal behavior, such as the situation of "people coming crazy".
At this time, if parents can arrange some things for their children to do, such as setting up tables and chairs, taking tableware, serving fruits, etc., so that children have a sense of participation, not only can solve the situation of children "people coming crazy", but also let the baby learn hospitality etiquette.
Write at the end
"People come crazy" is not a shortcoming, but a lack of parents on the child's tutoring, parents should not criticize the child in this regard, because the fault is not the child, but the parents did not guide well, so parents should pay attention to tutoring, with the right way at the right time to carry out the right education of the child.
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