American clinical psychologist Martha Streisand pointed out that many parents and children can not communicate, the key is that parents mistakenly treat their children as adults, thinking that communication with them can be fast and clear. But it takes a little time for children to digest their emotions in order to make their points clear. In her article "Non-Speech Therapy for Children and Adolescents", she said: "It is best that you do not say anything, but if you want him to answer, you should encourage teenagers to say." That is, parents learn to be listeners. The misunderstanding in parent-child communication, have you been recruited?
Myth 1: Talk to teenagers in the morning, especially when he's still thinking about other activities today or haven't woken up yet.
Recommendation: Children's body clocks are delayed than adults, and they are more likely to talk at night. You should choose to communicate with your child at this time.
Myth #2: Wait until they're not distracted to make an appointment to talk about important things.
Advice: Parents should talk to their children between activities, because children like to have someone to share their feelings with them when they play ball and eat.
Myth 3: Children are forbidden to growl, slam on doors, cry, or say, "When you calm down, we'll continue talking."
Suggestion: Parents should let the child vent and patiently listen to the child say "I am annoyed" and "I am troubled".
Myth #4: Look him in the eye.
Tip: Because children can only open the atrium when you're not staring at them, it's best to sit side by side and talk.
Myth #5: Ask general questions like "How are you doing in school today?"
Tip: Instead of asking questions in general, ask specific questions with a positive attitude, such as "What did your teacher say about your grades this time?"
Myth #6: When you think your child has finished speaking, start talking about your thoughts.
Advice: Children need time to vent their emotions and organize their thoughts, usually not at one time, so try to say their thoughts at other times.
Myth Seven: The topic focuses on trivia.
Tip: Talk to your child about a wide range of topics, such as TV shows, sports, music, food, and even politics, which will help you get to know each other better.
Myth Eight: Give them unwanted advice.
Advice: Words of praise are more useful than rambling advice, such as "Great idea" and "Wow, you did a lot of things today."
Myth Nine: Don't think you know what your child thinks right now.
Tip: Use open-ended statements to encourage children to talk about their world, such as "What your classmates say."
Myth 10: Joke about things that bother children.
Suggestion: Children are very sensitive at heart, easy to get hurt, you joke about things that bother them, will make children feel that their parents do not pay attention to their affairs.
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