01
"Man must not be cowardly, but he must not be afraid
Learn to fear your opponents."
After the death of Cao Rui (ruì), Cao Shuang was arrogant and arbitrary, and single-handedly promoted Sima Yi to the position of Taifu, which actually overshadowed his control over the court.
In the face of Cao Shuang's aggressive behavior, Sima Yi's student Zhong would come to his door to persuade him, "Teacher, are you willing to sit in the position of Taifu who sits and talks about the Tao?" ”
Zhong Hui's advice actually reflected to some extent his inner desire to do something to fight Cao Shuang and regain the position of the Shi clan in the court.
However, Sima Yi was not moved, and he used Yang Xiu as an example to teach Zhong Hui not to repeat Yang Xiu's mistakes, "People, you can't be cowardly, but you can't be afraid, you must learn to fear your opponents."
In a word, it pointed out the reason why Sima Yi did not plan with Cao Shuang in general, not cowardice, but to maintain a sense of awe first.
From Sima Yi to reflect on ourselves, especially for the young post-90s and post-00s generation, impetuous and impatient mentality is not shallow, we need to learn Sima Yi's attitude towards life, for the fierce enemy of life, can not rush to break the net, but to wait for a good opportunity.
02
"Don't get into the face of stupidity
Learn to bow to stupidity."
Cao Shuang did not hesitate to spare Sima Yi, who was also an auxiliary chancellor, and forced Empress Guo to move the palace in order to empty the young emperor.
Sima Zhao angrily told his father that Cao Shuang was really too much, that this was insulting the Sima family, and that there was no need to endure it when he could not bear it.
But Sima Yi listened to his son's remarks but was very calm, and he asked Sima Zhao, "How is this Cao Shuang better than Zhuge Liang?" ”
Sima Zhao replied, "Ant Er." ”
Sima Yi then further told his son: "Wouldn't it be more foolish to fight with stupidity and break the blood?" In this life, people will inevitably be in the company of stupidity, and they must learn to bow to stupidity."
Although Cao Shuang forced Empress Guo to move the palace through small means, and it seemed that the young deceiver could cover the sky with one hand, could Cao Shuang, who had repeatedly died, really laugh to the end?
Sima Yi once again told us that when encountering some stupid provocations and inferior means, there is no need to repay with blind eyes, and not to be in the company of stupid people, because those who commit many acts of injustice will eventually kill themselves.
03
"I just want this lifetime
The ears are in madame's hands."
In the play, as the man who is "most afraid of his wife", Sima Yi carries forward the spirit of loving his wife, and it can be said that the "flower planting couple" has maintained the details of life of twisting the ears for a lifetime.
Every time you twist your ears, it reminds people of the time when the two people loved each other for thousands of years, and it makes people cry.
When Sima Yi first assisted Cao Pi, everyone was going to set up a banquet in Cao Pi's mansion, and Sima Yi, who was supposed to drink and have fun with his "colleagues", accompanied Zhang Chunhua to cook under the stove.
In the face of Zhang Chunhua's small temper, Sima Yi comforted her in a good voice, "No matter how big the outside talk is, the rice is always not fragrant, or the rice at home is delicious", a remark, suddenly coaxed Zhang Chunhua to be much happier.
Zhang Chunhua leaned on Sima Yi's back and poured out affectionately, no matter what the future of the world was, as long as Sima Yi's life was safe.
Sima Yi even said to his wife the words he had remembered all his life and had done for a lifetime, "I only want this lifetime, and my ears are in the hands of my wife."
04
"The subject has come all the way, and there are no enemies
All I saw were friends and teachers."
Sima Yi's biggest opponent in his life was two, when he was young, the biggest opponent was Yang Xiu, but after Yang Xiu was sentenced to death by Cao Cao for the Chicken Rib Incident, Sima Yi took the initiative to ask Cao Cao to let him see Yang Xiu.
Cao Cao asked him why, and Sima Yi said, "The subject has come all the way, there are no enemies, and all he sees are friends and division commanders." Sima Yi's sincere words really touched Cao Cao, and more and more made Cao Cao appreciate him from the bottom of his heart.
Adhering to this principle of dealing with people, Sima Yi was full of respect for Yang Xiu, Zhuge Liang and other opponents, and even had no hatred for those who had harmed him, and could always be reconciled at the moment of life and death.
After Zhuge Liang fell ill and died in Wuzhangyuan, Sima Yi came to the Shu army camp where he was alive and paid homage to Kong Ming with water instead of wine, his eyes full of tears, if it were not for his son reminding him that there were soldiers of Great Wei behind him, Sima Yi would even kneel down to worship.
Sima Yi praised Kong Ming, "Your life is innocent, just like this water, although you and I have been enemies for six years, I have always regarded you as a confidant, Kong Ming, let me honor you, sir." ”
And the plot develops to Cao Rui's death, Cao Rui's male favorite to ward off evil was beaten into prison, Sima Yi was the only one to visit him, although the evil spirit was always for Cao Rui to find trouble for Sima Yi, but Sima Yi still had a generous heart, pity for his loyalty to the former emperor, and also brought him a piece of clothing, saving him the ultimate dignity.
To ward off evil spirits, Cao Shuang was young and frantic, and suddenly ascended to a high position, only to be afraid that he would be imprisoned in the second half of his life, but he replied, "Sima Yi, he will not fight with others", humble and introverted, not to argue or grab, is exactly The portrayal of Sima Yi in the workplace.
Sima Yi's respect for his opponents and enemies allows us to see his open-mindedness and strength.
In the workplace, we must learn from our opponents, respect our opponents, and be grateful to our opponents, because it is their existence that makes them stronger and make themselves more progressive.
05
"Defeat without hurt, defeat without shame."
The first thing to learn is to be good and bad."
In terms of parenting, Sima Yi also has his own educational philosophy.
After the defeat against Zhuge Liang and the robbery of Longshang wheat, all the generals of the Wei army were very dissatisfied, knowing that the Strength of the Wei Army was several times that of the Shu Army, and actually lost to Zhuge Liang, and even Sima Yi's two sons could not sit still and went to Sima Yi's tent together to complain.
After going to Sima Yi's big tent, only to see Sima Yi and the housekeeper Hou Ji actually playing the five birds with great grace, the two sons immediately complained one after another, and Sima Yi was very indifferent and asked his son:
"Are you here to fight, or are you here to fight?" Can those who want to win win in the end? In a war, we must first learn to be good and defeated, defeated and not ashamed, defeated and not hurt, and only then can we really laugh to the end. ”
Sima Yi's words immediately made the two sons understand and understand their father's intention of not moving, and the three fathers and sons even played a five-fowl play together.
Educating their sons with "failure learning" is very different from the modern parents' desire to let their children win at the starting line.
Everyone knows that failure is the mother of success, but few people can face failure correctly, and Sima Yi told us that we must be more patient with failure in order to win the final success.
Sima Yi's various golden sentences have great reference significance for contemporary people. Whether it is love, workplace, life, or parenting, Sima Yi has his own opinions, not only has a wonderful plot, but also rarely can learn a lot of mysteries of life.