Author | Inspector (1729 words, about 4 minutes to read)
During the holidays, when parents take their children to visit relatives and friends, people often talk about the second and third children.
If at this time, when you are asked "do you want to have a second child in the end", I believe that many people will still be caught off guard and do not know how to answer. With the gradual opening up of the country's fertility policy, people will also express their own unique views on this topic, and this is also a topic that every family will care about.
★ There are many families, still hesitant
Although every family has their own ideas about whether to have a second child, their opinion does not necessarily mean that they will make a decision and have the support of their family.
Some families believe that their children as only children will "combine various advantages" and that they only have the energy to love one child;
And some families will think that their children are only one person, and the road to life will be relatively lonely in the future. Families with the same conditions may also make different choices because of different ideas, so many couples are still in a state of hesitation.
★ In today's society, "many children" does not mean "many blessings"
A netizen shared her own experience on the Internet, and her family also had the idea of having 3 children, but there was one thing that dispelled their thoughts.
Because her children like to go to the neighbor's grandmother's house to play, over time, even she and her husband have a certain understanding of the situation in the neighbor's house, but as the understanding deepens, they feel more and more chilled.
Mainly because the neighbor grandmother, who originally had a full family of children and grandchildren, should have a happy old age, but she did not live comfortably. She has 3 children, but they do not take the initiative to visit her and take care of her, and some just shirk their responsibilities to each other.
In addition to discussing with each other to pay a certain pension fee, no one is really willing to be good to the elderly and willing to take the elderly to live in their own homes. She also asked the grandmother if she regretted the hard work of raising three children? The grandmother replied: "I don't regret it, the children are grown up, have their own home, have their own children to take care of, and don't have time to take care of me as an old lady." My wife is gone, and now I am very quiet by myself, as long as the children can live a healthy and happy life, I will be satisfied! ”
Hearing the grandmother's heartache, she decided not to have 3 more children, thinking that it was better to cultivate these two children into filial piety and sensible people than to regenerate one. If you have three children, you will certainly not have the energy to take care of the children, and education will inevitably not be taken care of.
If the children do not understand gratitude and filial piety, then they will work hard all their lives and their old age will be very desolate.
Many young people's concepts and traditional concepts have changed a lot, they believe that "having more children is not necessarily more blessed", as long as the education is good, a child can also be excellent. In fact, whether the parents' old age life will be desolate is not directly related to the number of children, but more is the way parents educate.
★ There is also a reason for the result of such "old age and no support"
● As soon as there are more children in the family, they may shirk their responsibilities when they grow up.
They will be preoccupied with each other, such as who pays more money and who contributes more, which is a very common thing in many families.
And such a result may also be because parents are consciously or unconsciously biased towards a child when educating their children, and this eccentric approach will make children chill, thus leaving an unfair psychological shadow. When they grow up, they will vent their grievances.
In addition to these, it may also be because of the misunderstanding between parents and children, resulting in a gap in communication between them, mutual incomprehension, mutual intolerance, which will also cause some elderly people to have no one to rely on.
Parents should do the following things well
After retirement, you have to save your own pension money
In the case of old age and no one to rely on, you can't just blame your children, because you may also have something you can't do in place.
If when you are young, you do not save a pension money for yourself, then when you are old, it is likely to become a burden for your children, and you have no living expenses, so it is naturally difficult to survive.
After all, the lives of children and parents are separated from each other, as an independent individual, they will not have too much intersection between them, and children also have a situation of inadequacy. Only when the elderly leave a pension that is enough to support themselves, can they make themselves more confident in life.
Educate children to be relatively fair
Although it is impossible for parents to be absolutely fair when educating their children, as long as parents are not obviously biased towards one child, they will not chill many children.
If parents have a gap in love for their children, but it will cause great harm to their children, once there is resentment and misunderstanding between children, then for the parents' pension, they will have a fierce debate and disobedience, which will also affect the parents' later life.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
We cannot judge whether children are filial children based on whether they support the elderly, because the premise of filial piety, that is, whether the relationship between parents and children is deep, and whether parents really love their children.
If there is a situation where parents are cold and eccentric to their children, and the children do not get along well, then the parents will naturally have no one to rely on in their later years.
Parents, do you have the idea of having three children?
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