If parents choose the advantages they want their children to have, the first choice is probably "self-discipline", because self-disciplined children are too worry-free for parents, and the plan is clearly formulated and can be strictly implemented.
Learning life does not need too much reminder and supervision from parents, children can think of themselves, have strong time management skills, parents will only worry about their children too hard, persuade children to hang around.
Self-disciplined children are admirable, some even parents can not do it, self-disciplined children are full of internal drive, have firm long-term goals, full of staying power.
Behind the self-disciplined children are the unknown efforts and correct guidance of their parents, growing up with their children, and constantly practicing on the road of educating their children.
Don't expect children to be born self-conscious, master the 5 rules of education, and raise self-disciplined children:
1. Parents lead by example
Originally the child wants to learn, but the parents pick up the mobile phone on the side, you can imagine how much impact on the child, which will distract the child, there is a natural temptation.
Parents work hard, like to read and learn, do not waste time, cherish time, children in the eyes, will follow suit, become people like parents, parents are the best teachers for children.
2, the younger the child, the easier it is to develop good habits of self-discipline
When you are a child, be strict with your child, the child does not feel anything, nature becomes a habit, the child is managed, there is no "inaction and cure", parents should be on the heart, do not be too spoiled children, increase the child's tolerance, withstand criticism, can enjoy encouragement.
Which child is not born naughty, naughty children are smart, creative, energetic, on the basis of not suppressing the child's spirituality, if the parents are supplemented with certain rules and principles, do what they say, educate children on the road a little tired, do not be lazy.
3. Strengthen children's self-discipline habits
Children set their own alarm clock to get up, after school consciously write homework, and the wrong questions to give examples, go to school to sort out the school bag and other behaviors, parents give great encouragement, praise the child is really a good child of self-discipline, the formation of positive reinforcement.
Give the child the label of "self-discipline", a halo, the child's honor is added, he is encouraged, and he also has an expectation of himself, which will be more restrained, forming a virtuous circle, and self-discipline has become a habit of a lifetime.
4. Sort out the list of education plans
List the goals that the child wants to achieve in the near and long term, and let the child know that to achieve these, it takes daily learning and accumulation, "no step, no way." "There is a sense of urgency about time, the time is not waiting, and every day of life is meaningful.
The plan for the child should be feasible, jump enough, in line with the child's cognitive ability, rather than "looking at the moon in the water", and the child's level is too different, so that the child has a sense of frustration, we hope that the child is excellent, but also within their own ability.
5, when the child is slack, do not scold
Even if the child is very self-disciplined, there are occasional slack times, especially when they find that their efforts have not been rewarded as they deserve, and they will have doubts about self-discipline in their hearts.
Parents at this time can not scold the child, reprimand the child is stupid, so hard work has not achieved good results, which will make the child's mood plummet; encourage the child, the grade fluctuation is normal, maintain the same self-discipline as always, life will not be indebted to everyone who has worked hard, "just work hard, what should come is on the road."
Do you remember these 5 laws of education? Excellent children, the common feature is self-discipline, need the correct guidance of parents, to set a good example for children, grow together, the child's beautiful future can be expected.
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