The influence of parents on children is far-reaching, and they want to understand their children's every move, help students grow up healthily, and become a guiding light on their growth path. It's just that when parents are too strict, it will always backfire and cause the child's defensiveness.
As they grow older, students' insights will also expand, and after having a sense of privacy, they are reluctant to share everything with parents, or let parents check and supervise, and sometimes hide some things in their hearts, which is the best choice.
When you are young, you may have some understanding of your parents' behavior, after all, you are still young and need your parents' help. But when I grow up, I don't want my parents to manage too much, and I understand too much, after all, I am older, and I am no longer the stinking hairy child I was before.
A girl in Xinjiang "fire", has nothing to do with academic performance, has nothing to do with appearance, in order to prevent her mother from checking the chat history, she began to talk with her classmates in English, and this also successfully blocked her mother's curiosity, and her mother really could not understand the chat content.
In order to lament the high-tech excellence of the child's method, the mother recorded the matter into a video and exposed the child's English record on the Internet. But as a sixth-grade girl, how can you master English? Maybe I'm trying to learn a foreign language in private.
It's just that the adults' cultural level is not high, and sometimes they can't recognize some Chinese characters, let alone this kind of English. Perhaps parents with good learning and high education can see the content of their children's chat at a glance, but for this parent, it is indeed a little difficult.
The mother's request is simple, and she does not want to interfere in the child's private life, but just wants to know whether it is her male friend or female friend who is talking to her daughter. But it was such a small request that could not be satisfied.
Perhaps it is helpless to post this matter to the Internet, after all, I can't understand it, so I want to ask other netizens to analyze it and find the answer I want. As you can see from the chat history, the girls are proficient in English words, and the use of lexical methods is really great.
Why should girls use English instead of Chinese when chatting with their classmates? Prevent others from peeking into chat history, and the other person here is either someone else or his own biological mother. But this method really works well, and my mother is confused and doesn't know what to say.
The girl thought: "In order to prevent my mother from peeking at the chat records, I chat with my classmates in English, she must not understand", the mother sighed after reading: "In order to prevent me, I chat with my classmates in English, I can't understand it", I can only say that the girl's trick is really high.
After the video was released, it caused heated discussion among netizens, there were voices of support and applause, encouraging mothers to keep pace with the times, learning English to understand chat records, and there were also accusations and insults, criticizing mothers for not respecting their children's privacy, and reading her chat records without permission.
The public says that the public is justified, the mother says that the mother is reasonable, and what bad thoughts does the mother have? It's just to understand the child's status, to understand what has happened to the child recently, who is chatting with, whether you can give enough help, etc., but this mother's approach is indeed something wrong.
But think about it, the child is more than ten years old, has his own private space, but this is a secret hidden in the heart, unwilling to disclose it to anyone, even if it is his own parents, can not be invited to check the privacy of the child privately, is the parent's approach really appropriate? inappropriate.
When the child's mind gradually matures, has a certain ability to take care of themselves, naturally will have a sense of privacy, do not want anyone to touch, if you want to share with others, you will communicate directly with friends and relatives, rather than hiding in the heart, no one will tell anyone.
As a family, sometimes leaving enough personal space for the child is the best choice, so that the child can feel an unprecedented sense of security, rather than without personal consent, privately taking the mobile phone to read the chat history, even if it is their own biological parents.
Sometimes, letting go is the best choice, the child is getting older, the understanding of the world is more profound, the mind is also developing and mature, if you can not let go in time, but continue to interfere in the child's private affairs, can not cause people to annoy?
Sometimes, it is not inappropriate to restrain the child, see the child's abnormal behavior, or some words and deeds are different from usual, to understand and check the correction in time, timely restraint of the child, to avoid their own children on the lost path, guide them forward.
It is easy to say that it is difficult to say that it is easy to say and difficult to do, and most of them go to a certain extreme, regardless of their children, let them grow, or manage their children too strictly, without a little freedom.
Perhaps, only as a parent's imagination, can recognize their own position, is to help children grow up healthily, is the child's guiding light, rather than a stumbling block on their growth path, affecting the normal development of children.
What do you think?