Adu, Xie Xiaodong, Li Chunbo: Why don't wives abandon them?
Text/Yan Ling sheep
01
One day, a colleague in the office was playing Adu's song.
At that time, his songs exploded all over the country, and even the rural streets and alleys recalled his singing: I should be under the car, not in the car, see how sweet you are, so that I am more likely to die, give me the courage to leave...
When I listened to his song "He Must Love You Very Much", I was stunned that I didn't understand why the singer had to be crushed by the car when he was under the car and was not afraid of being crushed by the car when he reversed?
At that time, his albums "Dark" and "He Must Love You" were popular in half of Asia, and even Zhao V gave his MV as the heroine. His first three albums sold 5 million copies.
It is said that Jay Chou, who debuted at about the same time as him, did not surpass his record at that time.
In the college dormitory, we talked about Adu's songs, and I said: How do I think his songs are a bit earthy?
A classmate answered: Where can the song sung by a contractor foreman at a construction site go?
But I was at the age of glass heart, and I was not happy because of her words (but I didn't show it) because my dad was a contractor on a construction site.
At that time, I felt that no matter what kind of height a person reached, he would still be ridiculed because of his origin.
Adu's origins were indeed not very good.
He is a Singaporean with many siblings in the family, but his parents divorced when he was 6 years old and he lives with his mother.
At the age of 15, he dropped out of school, went out to work to support his family, worked as an apprentice in a garage, delivered takeaways, worked as a waiter, and later worked as a contractor for a construction site for seven years.
By coincidence, he signed up for an audition competition with his friends, was favored by the judges, and signed a contract to become a training singer.
There were only two people who were signed that year, one was Adu, and the other was Lin Junjie.
But, as you know, their backgrounds are completely different.
Lin Junjie is a proper rich man, it is said that his grandfather is a shipping company, his father is one of the largest telecommunications shareholders in Singapore, he also invested in a law firm, his mother was the head of the Asia-Pacific region of an american oil company, his brother is the vice president of the Asia-Pacific region of the multinational Swiss bank, and his uncle is the president of Japan's Canon Group....... The five major consortiums in Southeast Asia are all relatives of Lin Junjie's family.
Adu was born poor.... However, the first to become famous was Adu. The first album came out and exploded. Adusha's mute voice and emotional singing style are very suitable for grassroots listeners.
At that time, Lin Junjie ran behind Adu's ass every day to announce, Adu was also very fond of this dear little disciple, and the two also collaborated on a classic song, the name of this song is called "Novel", or Lin Junjie composed.
Adu's first three albums were very popular, but when it came to the fourth album, he suddenly became dumb.
The listener may be tired of hearing this sound and suddenly dislike his song. He suffered from severe depression, sweating as soon as he took the stage, and later developed to the point of not seeing people.
His career also fell off a cliff, but fortunately he also had a girlfriend who did not abandon him to follow him.
The entertainment industry is particularly cruel, and if you don't brush up on your sense of existence for a few years, no one may remember you.
Adu fell silent.
In recent years, he has also participated in some variety shows, such as Anhui Satellite TV's "I Am Crazy for Songs", but it has not aroused any splash.
He also began to learn to do business and joined the Medical Beauty Group.
In his forties, he married his girlfriend and had children.
Later, Lin Junjie is still active, with an increasingly large fan base and strong creative force. After Wu Yifan's accident, Lin Junjie and Pan Weibai were reported, and the two issued a lawyer statement to refute the rumors.
And Adu, his time has completely passed.
However, looking at his current fatherly photo, I think this is very good.
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Another very popular singer, the trajectory of life is very similar to Adu.
He is Xie Xiaodong.
When he was on fire, it was really fiery and smoky.
His songs are known for their cheerfulness, such as "Today is really happy", "Health Song", "China Baby" and so on, which have resounded all over the streets.
Xie Xiaodong was born in 1968 in an artistic family in Anhui Province, the father of a song and dance troupe leader, and his mother a theater actor. He himself has taken the talent route since he was a child, and at the age of 11, he went to the provincial art academy to learn dance and singing.
At school, he formed a band and began singing. After graduation, he entered the song and dance troupe in the system, but he did not like this life, still became a north drifter, lived in the basement, and once had no money to eat, drifting around and singing.
Xie Xiaodong's nobleman is the famous musician Gu Jianfen, who admires his voice and recruits him to be his own trainee.
In 1990, he participated in the CCTV Youth Song Contest and won the first place under the recommendation of his teacher, and a year later he logged on to CCTV Chunjing (Tong Kanji). At the age of 27, because of a song "I am so happy today", he was popular all over the country.
Zhang Ziyi has not officially debuted, but she took the initiative to find Xie Xiaodong, Mao Sui introduced herself to want the heroine of his MV, and the two really had a cooperation (look at Zhang Ziyi, in order to be able to get ahead in the entertainment industry, fight more).
Na Ying, who studied with him gu Jianfen, was fascinated by him, and it is said that Na Ying also confessed to Xie Xiaodong, but was later rejected.
The reason why Na Ying was rejected is not known whether it is because Xie Xiaodong already has a girlfriend. His girlfriend is Yu Jia'en, a Japanese student, and the two married when Xie Xiaodong was at his hottest.
After marriage, Yu Jiaen also opened a film and television culture company, and together with Xiaodong, he produced a movie that did not stir up any splash.
By around 2000, Xie Xiaodong's fortunes seemed to have suddenly failed, his songs gradually had no market, and the transformation into a TV series was also dismal.
He felt that the glitz of the showbiz made him feel tired and wanted to quit the music scene, and his wife firmly supported him, and then Xie Xiaodong changed his career to do business.
However, because he had no experience, he jointly produced mobile phones with others, entered the real estate industry, lost a lot of money at one time, almost suffered from depression, and cheered up with the encouragement of his wife.
Later, he changed the direction of entrepreneurship, engaged in the old bank at the same time, participated in various variety shows and commercial performances, and accumulated some wealth, but his influence in the music world has long been inferior to that of Na Ying.
Gu Jianfen said that he thought too much and missed a lot of good songs, such as "Understand You", the first was to find him to sing, he did not want, and later let Man Wenjun sing fire.
However, I don't think Xie Xiaodong counts. The ups and downs in the entertainment industry have a lot to do with luck. Good luck can't be stopped, and good luck can't be kept. We can only – grasp when it comes, accept it when it's shipped away.
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Li Chunbo, who sang "Xiaofang", is also like this.
We have written articles criticizing the values of this song before, but it does not mean that the song's singer Li Chunbo is a scumbag.
The reason why "Xiaofang" was popular was in line with the values of that era, and the feelings of most Zhiqing for rural girls were like that... We feel awkward today because we have established new values and systems of judgment.
Li Chunbo's two older brothers and two older sisters were all Zhiqing at that time, so he was more familiar with Zhiqing's life.
He thought about the story of his brother and sister, and thought of his girlfriend who wrote the single "Xiaofang".
"A pair of beautiful big eyes with thick and long braids" is said of his girlfriend. He was twenty years old when he met his girlfriend, who was only 15. His girlfriend also came to Beijing with a musical dream to develop, and he protected and covered her all the way.
After "Xiaofang" was written, the record company felt that it was a saliva song, and it was too bad compared with Hong Kong and Taiwan songs, and almost failed to come out. Later, a record company reluctantly made it, and as a result, hey, the song suddenly caught fire, and the album was released a million copies that year, and a song saved a record company's performance that year.
The following year, Li Chunbo won the Most Popular Male Singer Award in 1994 with "A Letter from the Family". Li Chunbo was living in Guangzhou at that time and missed his parents very much, so he wrote this song.
In the same year, Li Chunbo composed the theme song "Who Can Tell Me" and "Where Is My Home" for the hit TV series "Debt", which was also widely acclaimed. "Evil Debt" tells the story of Shanghai Zhiqing going to Xishuangbanna, which received super high ratings that year.
In 1995, the fiery Li Chunbo was invited to attend Chunxuan (Tongkan), but he did not appear.
Years later, he explained in a variety show that it was his father who was critically ill, and he shirked it. The rumor is that there is a lyric in the song "A Family Letter" originally scheduled to be sung by Chun Yun, "Dad is very busy at work now, don't go if he is not strict, don't go to it" There is a problem, Chun Yun asked this lyric to be changed to "Don't go if you are not in good health", and at the same time take the form of a chorus of several people, but Li Chunbo does not do it, and then .... It's gone.
Since then, Li Chunbo's singing career seems to have cooled down, and he can only run to learn the directing profession, but the director's debut cannot be released for various reasons.
Later, his father fell ill and died, and cysts grew on his vocal cords.
His career was sluggish, his father died, his health was in poor health, and Li Chunbo suffered from depression.
The slump lasted for years, but his girlfriend was always by his side.
From 2014 to 2015, Li Chunbo returned to the music scene with his original single "Sister" and the album "Years", but it seems that there is no echo.
However, on the stage of "The Masked Singer King", Li Chunbo wore a lotus mask on the stage and sang a song "After Forever". On the show, he proposes to his girlfriend of many years. And this girlfriend is still Xiaofang of that year.
"Xiaofang", whose real name is Called Wang Hong, was also a singer at first, and later became the general agent of a foreign high-end brand in China, and also revised the script for Hollywood..... There is no shortage of money.
The two have known and fallen in love since the 90s, and have come all the way to the present.
In 2016, Li Chunbo composed lyrics and music for Wang Hong, realizing her musical dream, and the name of the song was "No Separation, No Abandonment".
However, like this kind of love long-distance running, can run to the end, generally because women are willing to pay and men know a little gratitude.
The so-called non-abandonment, many times is that women do not abandon men.
I once watched an online survey that said "What would you do if your partner couldn't have children?" ”
The survey results are that up to 70 percent of women choose not to abandon, while only 20 percent of men choose not to abandon.
In real life, too, the husband is diagnosed with childbearing, and many wives can accept adoption or "dink"; while if the wife is unable to have children, the vast majority of marriages end in divorce.
Men are always afraid that they will not be able to keep their wives when they are poor, but the problem is that the first thing many men do when they become rich is to change their wives.
Some men are like this: fear when they are poor, hiss when they are rich.
Of course, in the case of the above three wives who do not abandon their husbands, it is also because - men are worthy.
They have fallen, but they have not rotted, but are willing to get back on their feet, and some people are mud on the wall.
There are also people who have not been good to their wives before, and once an accident occurs, they are even less valuable to their wives, and the wives may run away.
Before we said on the trumpet that after The founder of Gome, Huang Guangyu, was imprisoned, his wife took the helm of Gome, and when he came out, he also gave him a better Gome, in fact, because Huang Guangyu was not bad to his wife before, so after he had an accident, his wife was willing to go to the bottom for him (poke here can be read: "After the husband goes to prison, she runs the company for her husband, making 1.2 billion yuan: Men love their wives will develop ah)."
No matter how far society develops, we all crave love, warmth and companionship deep within us. And the more unconditional, pure, uncomplaining, and unforgiving companionship, the more it can poke into our hearts.
Previously, we expected "someone" to achieve this, but then we discovered that as long as it is a person, there will be all kinds of vulnerabilities. And the more vulnerable people are, the easier it is to act selfish.
We crave love and companionship, but in the end we are often burned by this longing.
And there are far more women than men who are burned by this desire. Women are always more willing to pay for men, and men are willing to do so, but the number is indeed small.
No, I also received a message from a reader yesterday. She said that in Dr. Lilac's latest article, "Women Addicted to Alcohol," she saw a description like this—
Lin Yin found that among alcoholics, men would get more tolerant results than women.
Male members usually have a good wife behind them, and many mention how the wife helps her quit drinking. Some of them even mentioned beating their wives after drinking, but their wives showed tolerance and helpfulness.
When female members talked, they were more likely to mention that they divorced due to alcohol abuse, and the husband withdrew early after finding out that his wife was drunk and causing trouble to his life.
Lin Yin feels that this is the biggest difference between male and female members.
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