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Life is a one-way train that never stops, people up and down along the way, everyone can only accompany you for a journey. The one who stays with you the most is not your parents, not your children, but your partner.
For many older people, the biggest fear is not their own aging or death, but the departure of their partners.
People who have lived together for decades have been deeply involved in the habits and companionship of bone and blood, and the departure of their partner is like tearing a piece of life from the body, and the pain is hard to the bone.
So we can often see some news, some elderly people because of the departure of their partners, depressed, physical deterioration, eager to follow each other.
This kind of love, although it is touching, is not a good phenomenon.
Even the one who took the first step must have hoped that his living wife could enjoy life, be safe and joyful, and finally leave at the end of his life, rather than being depressed and washing his face with tears and dying in mourning.
Therefore, if you are faced with the situation that your wife will take the first step, please clean up your broken mood first and make the following preparations, which is your greatest vision.
One: Do a good job in psychological construction and be strong in the face of separation
There are often such examples in life, an old couple who have been in love for decades, after the death of one of them, the remaining one, it is difficult to adjust the mentality.
With the departure of his wife, the spirit of the whole person was scattered, as if it was not only his wife who left, but also his courage to face life.
Such a move may seem very touching, but it is actually very selfish.
We often say that those who survive need greater courage, because those who have gone are already a hundred. But when you give up the belief in survival, do you think about your children? It was already very sad to face the death of a loved one, and now do you have to suffer again in succession?
You know, no matter how old they are, how mature their children are, they can always be a child in front of their parents. Parents are here, and there is still a place in life. Parents go, life only has a way back.
Many old people have gone through half a life, and they have already seen through the matter of life and death, and because of this, they should do a good job in psychological construction, and do not lose their minds due to sudden parting.
Living well with the expectations of the other half for the future is the best way to miss him.
Second: Straighten out your relationship with your children
In the face of the death of a wife, not only yourself, but also your children, you need to adjust each other's relationship and position, especially the relationship and attitude towards your children.
The elderly face their children after widowhood, which is prone to two extreme situations.
The first is to rely too much on children in the case of extreme insecurity. Because of the death of his wife, he felt that he had no relatives and reliance in the world, and the only straw that could be grasped was his own children. So he became extremely insecure, very sensitive and vulnerable.
If the child says a word of indifference, he will feel whether the child has abandoned him. If his children's work is not smooth, his face is not good, and he wonders if his children are putting on a face for him.
In this way, I was suspicious of god and ghost, and then I thought blindly in my heart, which would even affect my normal work and body, and also affect my relationship with my children.
Another is to take yourself too seriously.
I feel that my wife has passed away, and I am now the only old man in the family, and I should be valued by everyone, so with the death of my wife, a strange arrogance has arisen.
These two extreme states are not advisable, and only by correcting your mentality and positioning yourself can you get along with your children in harmony, so that you can have more protection in your old age.
Three: Cautiously start your next relationship
Now the concept of marriage and love is becoming more and more open, and there are more and more twilight love. The most beautiful is the sunset red, warm and calm. Widows certainly also have the right to chase their own happiness and start a new relationship.
Dusk love has its own unique characteristics, due to the physiological and psychological reasons of both parties in love, dusk love to consider, and young people's love is completely different.
Old people are not concerned with love, but with appropriateness. Not to burn with passion, but to seek only a bland and watchful keep.
However, there are some people who have seized the characteristics of the elderly who are eager to accompany and afraid of loneliness, and even aim at the weak bodies and not very rich financial resources of the elderly, and specially in the emotional context chapter to deceive the elderly and achieve their own purpose of making money.
So no matter who it is, don't easily carry out a relationship, even if you are lonely, don't just find someone to live together.
Rather than making it up, you should find your own interests and hobbies and strive to make your life full, after all, in the final analysis, people can only rely on themselves in this life.
Everyone's life has a way, and we can only walk on our own.
The saddest life is not to face it alone, but that you have lost the courage to face it alone and extinguished the heart lamp in your heart.
When your wife leaves, what you have to do is not to complain about yourself, not to be bitter, but to clean up your mood, take your memories with him, and live well for him, which is the best memorial for the deceased person.
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