For the growth and education of children, every parent is very concerned and wants to understand the child's little by little, but as the child grows up, the child also wants to have his own private space, and there are some secrets that he does not want his parents to know.
If parents do not hesitate to look through their children's diaries or chat records, the child's heart will also feel a little uneasy, and feel that everything is known by parents.
As they age, children will pay more and more attention to their privacy rights and become more sensitive to parents' behavior of peeking at privacy. Although they can't stop mom and dad from peeking into privacy, they learn to wrestle wits.
Not wanting her mother to read the chat history, the elementary school girl chatted with her classmates in English
The mother of a primary school student in Xinjiang shared an interesting video of her daughter's chat history, but found it difficult to understand.
It turned out that her daughter did not want her mother to look at her chat history, and when she chatted with her classmates, the language used was English, and it was estimated that it took a lot of time and energy to learn English.
People with good English, it is not difficult to understand the English dialogue of primary school students, but people with bad English may only know those letters, but what do the words and sentences that are combined together mean? I can't understand it at all.
The mother of the sixth-grade girl faced such embarrassment, and it was impossible to know whether her daughter was chatting with a male or female classmate.
We can see that the sixth-grade girl can already use English to chat skillfully, and judging from the content of the chat, the two are still chatting very vigorously.
To be honest, the elementary school student's approach had some effect. Although her mother can look through the chat history, she can't understand the meaning.
No wonder this mother sighed: "In order to prevent me, my daughter chatted with her classmates in English, and she couldn't understand it anymore." ”
The mother reads the daughter's chat history, and netizens talk about it
There are a thousand Hamlets in the eyes of a thousand people, that is, everyone's views and feelings about the same thing or person are completely different. After the mother of the sixth-grade girl shared the video, it also caused netizens to have different views on the privacy of the child.
A netizen said, "It's right to prevent it, aren't you looking at it?" The elementary school student's mother was speechless.
Mom said in the video that she couldn't understand the meaning, and some netizens also came out to prompt, long press there is a translation.
The translation is not necessarily completely accurate, as long as the mother operates according to the prompts of netizens and looks at it together, in fact, she can understand the chat content of the child and classmates.
The elementary school student struggled to chat in English, but the result was still lost, but if the girl was familiar with the function of the chat app, she would not think that English could prevent her mother.
It seems that you have to learn other languages, such as Russian, Japanese, Korean or Spanish, to prevent your mother from peeking at the chat history.
Some netizens are confused about this and do not agree with the privacy of mothers looking at their children, and a netizen questioned why they should look at people's privacy. Another netizen asked rhetorically, can't you communicate positively? Why sneak a peek behind your back?
The views of netizens actually show that most people do not agree with parents looking at children's privacy. Perhaps, some parents feel that their children do not have any privacy, and they can check their children's privacy to understand their children's situation. In doing so, it is easy to have conflicts with children.
When children grow up, the little secrets between them and their classmates do not want their parents to know. If the child knows that you have looked through her chat history, she is uncomfortable and will feel that her parents do not respect her.
In the long run, a rebellious psychology will be formed, and children will become more reluctant to share with their parents, which is worthy of parental vigilance.
Respect your child's privacy, and your child will consider you a friend
Educators say that the best relationship with a child is to be friends with him, so that they are willing to share his joys and sorrows with you, so that you can know how he grew up and what he was thinking every day.
But in real life, many parents do not know how to respect their children, always want to check the child's diary or chat records, it seems that only by looking at the child's privacy, can they rest assured.
This kind of sneaking into the child's privacy is very impolite, and if the child knows about it, they will feel that their privacy rights have been offended.
Don't think that children are small, look at their privacy is nothing, as children grow up, if they know that parents look at their privacy, they will have resistance and disgust in their hearts.
As a parent, you can't care about nothing, and you can't manage everything. Only by leaving enough private space for children, respecting their privacy, and having a certain distance will they trust you and see you as their friend.
Education needs to be properly restrained and it also needs to be let go
Now some children, in order to prevent parents from looking at their own chat records, in addition to using English or small languages, some children chat with classmates, emoticons, symbols together, similar to the "password" of the same chat content, not to mention parents, even some post-00s and post-90s, do not necessarily know the mystery.
Therefore, as long as parents still want to see their children's privacy, children will also come up with all kinds of strange ways to deal with it. If the child chooses to use this way to counter the parents' peeping privacy, parents should reflect on their own behavior and education methods.
It is better to communicate with your child positively than to peek into your child's privacy behind your back. Face-to-face chat can keep abreast of your child's situation and promote your relationship with your child, so why not enjoy it?
How to educate children, every parent has their own views and thoughts. But there is a common point, when you should let go, don't always think about how to influence the child's thoughts; when you should properly criticize education, you can't let the child go.
That is to say, education needs to be let go, but also need appropriate constraints, so as to create a good growth environment for children, so that they have a healthy and positive attitude.
Parents and children get along, each other will feel comfortable, and the communication between the two can become simple and effective.
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