Parents want their children to grow up healthily, but most of their attention is focused on their children's physical health, but they ignore their children's mental health.
In a way, a child's mental health is more important and may even affect their entire life.
Xiao Li and her husband chose to start their own business two years ago, after continuous struggle and hard work, now the business is gradually on the right track, and the company has achieved a lot of profits.
But in contrast, the two are getting busier and busier at work, with more and more things to attend and deal with, and there is almost no time to manage the children.
In desperation, they only have to put their daughter in the old man's home for a long time, and they just take time to see their daughter every night.
However, because they are busy with things very late, so the time to accompany their daughters is not long, and sometimes they even leave in a hurry for only a few minutes, afraid of delaying their daughter's rest.
Some time ago, Xiao Li found that as long as It was Friday, her 6-year-old daughter would say that her stomach hurt, and sometimes even hurt very badly.
After a few times, Xiao Li and her husband were a little scared, so they took the time to take their daughter to the hospital for examination.
After giving the child a thorough examination, the doctor told them that the child was in very good health and had no problems at all.
Just when they were about to breathe a sigh of relief, the doctor suddenly said: You divorce!
The two learned that the child had just talked to the doctor about his "cause".
Every time the child complains about the stomachache, he just hopes that they can spend more time with themselves on the weekend.
Because only in this way will her parents care about her and really value her.
This feeling makes the child very fond of it, so she can only keep her parents by herself through this method continuously.
If parents do not accompany their children for a long time, what impact will it have on their children?
1. Cause the child to be insecure
Children's demands for security are very high, and even only parents can satisfy them.
If the parents are not around the child for a long time, then the child will naturally lack a sense of security, after all, no one can replace the parent.
When the people around them are better for their children, the more children desire their parents to do the same, because they can really feel safe around their parents.
2, causing children to become isolated and inferior
Young children can't understand why their parents are reluctant to accompany them, and many times they will put the blame on themselves.
Thinking that they are not cute, smart, and disobedient, so parents will be more willing to do other things than to spend their time on themselves.
This can lead to children falling into deep self-doubt, and if they are unable to extricate themselves from the tip of the horn, they may become isolated and inferior, feeling inferior to others everywhere, and even have no value to exist.
3. Cause the child's concept of love to be improper
Parents are a mirror of the child, what kind of person the parent is, the child is also likely to become a copy of them.
If children do not receive the love and companionship of their parents when they are young, then they will worry about whether they will become a person who disappoints their children like their parents.
That being the case, then it is better to stay away from love, away from marriage, than a child growing up in an unaccompanied environment, then it is better to eliminate such a possibility from the root.
How should parents treat their children properly?
1. Give your child enough companionship
Today's parents are indeed not easy, on the one hand to take care of children, on the other hand to support the family, the so-called fish and bear paws can not have both, sometimes it is really difficult to achieve the best of both worlds.
But even so, parents should learn to make trade-offs, and although it is important to work to make money, it is also indispensable to accompany their children.
Therefore, it is advisable to improve the efficiency of work and squeeze out time to spend more on children, after all, children grow only once, and missing will never start again.
2. Learn to communicate patiently with your child
Parents should learn to communicate effectively with their children and let their children know that they love their children.
It's just that sometimes for some reason I can't help myself.
But no matter what, even if they are not with the child, the child will always be the most important person in their hearts.
Only by letting children know this can they truly understand their parents.
If parents really can't accompany them all the time, they won't have too many negative emotions, which naturally won't affect their mental health.