When parents naturally want to give the best to their children, but due to the different economic level and ability of each family, the material conditions that can be given to children are also different, which is an inescapable fact.
However, as parents, even if we cannot give our children good material conditions, we must make our children rich in their hearts.
Previously, I saw such a scene in the mall, a child aged about seven or eight, sitting in front of the mobile phone store crying, asking his mother to buy him a new mobile phone, and his mother politely refused him.
But he still cried unforgivingly, saying that some students at school had mobile phones and that they also had to have mobile phones.
The mother and son were in a stalemate for about half an hour, and the mother finally reluctantly agreed to her son's request and bought him a new mobile phone.
Nowadays, many children like to compare themselves with others, and once there is a place that is inferior to others, it will find it difficult to accept. This is actually a manifestation of inner poverty, children with poor heart are very concerned about the evaluation of others, but also care about their own shortcomings, so they often feel inferior in their hearts, and also like to use materials to cover up their inner inferiority.
Children who are poor in heart often have these kinds of manifestations, and I hope that your children will not account for one
Typical performance one: likes to compare with others
In fact, it is very normal for children to like to compare with others, the focus is on how parents should guide their children's comparison psychology, some children like to compare with others to learn, in the comparison of their own learning performance.
Some children like to compare mobile phones, clothes, games and other things to satisfy their vanity through materialism.
Now many college students have a very serious comparison with each other, girls like to compare good skin care products, cosmetics and other things, while boys often like to compare sneakers, computers and other things.
Parents must pay attention to their children's comparison behavior, because once this comparison psychology is formed, it will affect the child's life.
Typical performance two: the heart is very inferior, care about the evaluation of others
Some children are very inferior and sensitive in their hearts because of family or physical reasons, and they are very concerned about the evaluation of themselves by others, and once others have a bad evaluation of themselves, they will become difficult to accept, and may even make radical actions.
This is actually a manifestation of inner poverty, for this kind of psychology of children, parents should learn to guide their children to develop in a positive direction, tell children that a good life should have their own hands to create, do not care too much about the ideas of others, and live their own lives.
Typical performance three: can not feel the happiness they have
Now many children's lives have actually been very good, whether in learning or in life, compared with before, there has been a qualitative progress.
But many children are not satisfied because there are always other children who live better than their lives, and in this comparison, children do not feel the happiness of their own lives.
For this situation, parents should also pay more attention in life, try to let children feel the happiness contained in life, let children learn to be content and happy, so as not to affect their mood because of other things.
Parents often hang these few words on their lips, and it is easier to raise a child who is rich in heart
It's okay, Mom and Dad understand you
Once, when I was a guest at my brother's house, I saw such a scene, when my brother asked my little nephew to go and get red wine, and as a result, my little nephew accidentally broke the red wine at home, but my brother did not scold him for this, but instead said something to comfort him.
Because he understands that the child is very young, taking such a heavy thing as red wine, it is inevitable that the center of gravity will be unstable, and the child helping to take red wine is helping the parents to do things, if you scold him at this time, it will inevitably hit the child's enthusiasm.
It is very common for children to make mistakes when they are young, because children in this period are in the learning period, and many things are tried for the first time, so it is inevitable that there will be some deficiencies.
Therefore, when dealing with children's mistakes, parents should learn to understand their children and not to discourage their children's enthusiasm for doing things, which will make children become inferior and sensitive.
It doesn't matter if the test is bad, as long as you work hard in the process
Now many parents teach their children to pay too much attention to their grades, once the children's grades do not meet their expectations, no matter whether the children work hard in the process, they will blame or even scold their children.
Just like the case that was very popular on the Internet some time ago, the child was scared to go home because he failed to enter the top ten of the grade, afraid that he would be scolded by his parents when he returned home.
In fact, everyone's talent is different, maybe someone paid 10 points of effort, and the final result was only 5 points.
In this regard, after the child's performance is not ideal, parents should learn to understand the child, to see what aspect of the child's performance is not ideal, because of insufficient effort, or because there is a problem with the learning method, and then, according to the specific reasons, take a suitable plan to solve, do not verbally hit the child's enthusiasm for learning.
You have the right to pursue anything beautiful, and you deserve anything beautiful
In the drama "Little Shed", there is such a clip that resonates with many netizens, a poor child came to the home of a classmate with a superior family, and after seeing the mansion of the classmate's family and the various things owned by the classmates, she felt inferior and felt that she was incompatible with this place.
This is actually the child's inferiority psychology at work, if you let the child's inferiority psychology develop, it will make the child feel that he is not worthy of the beautiful things in this world, he is just a "loser". In this regard, when the child is young, parents should pay attention to the child's inferiority psychology, tell the child that you are worthy of the beautiful things in this world, and actively face life and pursue a better life.
epilogue
The most precious gift that parents can give to their children is to let their children have a full heart, so that they can better face the difficulties of the world.
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