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Different people have different concepts of fertility, some people have been adhering to the traditional Chinese concept of having many children and many blessings, and have always had as many births as possible, while some people pursue the Dink family.
Between the two, there is also a category of people who are deeply affected by the pension matters, choosing to give birth to a second and third child to share the pressure of Dabao's pension, so they do their best to give birth to younger siblings for Dabao.
The couple fought for the second child and did not want to fall into reflection
Xiaosun and his wife have been married for many years, is a model of husband and wife, the two get along very well, and now they have a 6-year-old daughter, both husband and wife are very fond of their daughters, think that the daughter is well-behaved and sensible, and also want to spend their lives to cultivate their daughters.
Later, Xiaosun and his wife thought about the current situation of great pressure on the elderly, worried that it would be difficult for their daughters to raise the two in the future, and decided to give birth to younger siblings for Dabao, which can not only accompany Dabao, but also reduce the pressure of Dabao.
Just when the husband and wife were persevering, they suddenly heard that the neighbors in the neighborhood had four children in the family, but none of them were willing to support the elderly, and they felt that the elderly were obliged to support and should not be responsible for themselves.
Seeing this, the husband and wife fell into reflection, whether they should give birth to the second treasure, whether giving birth to the second treasure is to reduce the burden of the big treasure, or to add trouble to the big treasure again?
In fact, if the purpose of having children is to provide for the elderly, then it violates the essence of having children, and the key lies in how to look at the problem of having children and providing for the elderly.
Is there a binding relationship between having children and providing for the elderly?
Children are the hearts and livers of parents, but if the birth of children is simply for the sake of old-age care, then the original intention from the very beginning is not correct.
1. Children are not a tool for parents to provide for the elderly
Children are not a tool used by parents to provide for the elderly, if the children are only used for the elderly, then parents will not spend too much effort in order to cultivate children, which is unfair to children.
The child has an independent personality and should have his own beautiful future, if he can't feel love, how can he learn to love others?
2. Younger siblings are also not Dabao's helpers
Children are equal to each other, and no one should have more love from their parents because of early birth or late birth, which will cause a gap between children, doubt their parents' love for themselves, and resent their brothers and sisters.
Younger siblings are not Dabao's helpers, and parents have no right to characterize their children's lives. Dabao should have his own life plan, and his younger siblings should not be despised and treated differently by their parents.
3. Pointing to the child's pension is tantamount to adding pressure to the child
Today's social pressure is not small, the adult world is not easy to say, not to mention the future child's life, the future child after the family, may be husband and wife to support 4-8 elderly people, is undoubtedly a heavy burden.
If you are thinking about your future on your child, you will be difficult for your child to bear. Instead of pointing to the child's pension, it is better to plan for your own life.
Even if there are children and children, the elderly must not forget to make these preparations
People will inevitably become old, but how to look at the pension and how to cope with the future of old age, should be prepared psychologically and materially.
First of all, save more money and save enough for a pension
In the final analysis, the most important thing is that there is enough money, and the old age loses the ability to work and needs money to maintain food, clothing, shelter and transportation.
Do a good job of pension planning when you are young, save money in time to prepare for the needs of the elderly, so that the future of old age can also reduce a lot of pressure.
Insist on exercise and health
The body is the capital of the revolution, the elderly to take care of their own body, is the biggest help to the child, only in this way can let the child worry less and not worry, physical comfort can make their old age more happy and happy.
Second, adhere to health, work and rest rules
Going to bed early and getting up early and keeping a happy mood will prolong your life and make life brilliant.
In addition, make true friends and spend your leisure time in your later years
Life after retirement is leisure, a lot of time needs to be well managed, cultivate interest in making true friends, have children and pensions, you can also spend your leisure time in your old age so that you can make life colorful.
Tuanzi's mother's heart:
Correctly look at the issue of old-age care and the problem of having children, know that only in this way can children enjoy life, and their later life will be happy, why not enjoy it?