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As adults, we are sometimes used to procrastinating at work, and many of the things at hand are not in a hurry to solve. Adults are like this, let alone children who are in their formative years?
Every child's nature is to yearn for play, so when it comes to learning tasks, it is inevitable to procrastinate.
Many parents see their children's behavior like this, and they will always urge them in the back. The more parents urge their children, the more they do not want to complete the tasks they should have done.
Why do kids always procrastinate?
★ Parents schedule their children's every minute too tightly
If you feel like your child is struggling, the learning tasks that should be completed will always be delayed until the last moment. So you can think about it carefully, is it that the time for arranging your children is too full?
From getting up to school until coming home from school, what to do after returning home, what time to eat is arranged by parents clearly, and children have almost no time to do what they want to do.
Once the child does not complete the things that the parents have arranged for themselves, we as parents will supervise them later.
Therefore, almost every child has become accustomed to the urging of their parents, and even can hear the parents' current patience from the words and tone of their parents.
Not to mention our children, who in each of us has not experienced being urged by mom and dad to learn and sleep when we were young?
Many parents find that their children have such a procrastination situation, and they will think that their children are lazy.
In fact, this idea is very wrong, every child can make good use of their time. But when the child is very young, there is no concept of minutes in his heart, he will only feel that his parents are urging me behind my back, and I have no way to do what I want to do.
★ Children do not have the right concept of time
Children who often do things and grind usually do not have the correct concept of time. This is inseparable from the education of teachers and parents. Especially practical concept education in the family.
Learning in the child's school is basically arranged at every time of the day. What classes should be taken at what time, and how often to take a break, this is all a given.
So the child inevitably feels bound in such a situation, so when he returns home, he feels very free and wants to manage his time by himself.
And the child's nature is to play, so naturally he will put all the time he can use on play.
The child doesn't know how long a minute is, he just feels that if my parents are pushing me behind my back, then I have to make good use of this little bit of time that I can grasp in my own hands.
Therefore, if parents want to improve their children's procrastination, the first thing is to establish a correct concept of time for their children. In particular, children can feel and see what a minute or an hour looks like.
Parents should not always urge their children, and constant urging will not help him
Parents are constantly urging their children every day, what time to do what kind of things, for a long time, the child does not have a clear understanding of his life, he does not know what he should do at what time. For their own lives, children will also become unclear and feel very confused.
If the child has no plan for his life in his heart, then no matter how much parents urge it, it is useless. Children only passively and mechanically complete the tasks assigned by their parents, and do not devote their bodies and minds to learning, so what is the point of completing such tasks?
Moreover, in the process of urging children, the most anxious and suffering is actually the parents.
Parents are always anxious to urge their children to learn, urge their children to exercise, and urge their children to sleep.
As if the child can't complete these things, he misses something big, the child himself does not have any feelings, but the parents are anxious like ants on a hot pot.
Parents should know that the child's life is his own life and cannot be mastered and arranged by the parents. Urging the child's life, the child will not be able to develop an independent sense of self.
If parents are too much directed about their children's lives, then over time you will find that when the child is doing other things, he is also waiting for instructions from his parents or other elders.
You can't think about some problems independently, and you can't solve difficulties on your own.
In the long run, children will develop a dependent personality, relying on their parents and elders when they are young, and relying on colleagues and friends around them when they grow up.
And parents always urge the child, for a long time, especially when the child enters puberty, it will greatly affect the relationship between parents and children.
How can a child always procrastinate and break? Don't urge him, double-quotient parents do
First of all, parents should distinguish between their own anxiety and their children's anxiety
Children are always grinding and chirping on small things, and the most uncomfortable thing is actually the parents, who often pour more anxiety into such things.
In fact, there is no need for this, everyone's growth process is different, and it is necessary to slowly explore a suitable growth method under the guidance of the elders. Parents put their own anxiety on their children, which is also a kind of torture for themselves.
Second, establish a correct concept of time with your child.
If you want your child to complete their learning tasks happily, the fundamental solution is to establish a correct concept of time.
The above mentions that children should be able to correctly understand what is a minute and what an hour is. Only when they are truly aware of the passage of time will they truly cherish time.
In addition, let the child feel the sense of accomplishment that he has brought to complete the task within the specified time. A sense of accomplishment is a booster for children to develop a correct concept of time.
All in all, the child's habit of grinding is not formed in a short period of time, if you want to change his habit, you must fundamentally solve the problem, if the child is very small, then parents can make changes from this time, if the child has reached a certain age, then parents can work out a plan to change the concept of time with the child.
【Today's topic】Dear parents, do you have the habit of invisibly urging your children?