Little Tomato's parents have jobs, every day is very busy, the work pressure is also very large, the mother every day is very late to leave work, after returning from work to do a family meal to help Little Tomato do homework, there is impatience is also a common thing.
When playing with the little tomato when writing homework, he often plays with erasers and pencils, the homework efficiency is very slow, often it is almost twelve o'clock before the homework is done, the mother will roar the little tomato, the sound is so loud that the whole building can be heard, and there are often complaints about their home disturbance.
Like the parents of the little tomato mother there are many, the child does not obey the child to yell at the child, in the eyes of many parents, with the child to say that the child will not listen at all, sometimes to kill the child, they will remember for a long time, and be childish to that, how can they talk to the child in a normal tone? It's not bad not to take out something to hit the child.
Parents also have tempers, we can understand, but is it really useful to yell at children?
In fact, it is useless, we can think about it in another way, others yell at you when you do your homework, the original little idea may be interrupted, the efficiency will only be slower, and parents yelling at the child for a long time can easily lead to the child's personality defects, which has a great impact on the child's future.
First, children are prone to form a pathological psychology
Parents always yell at the child, the child's emotions will be in a tense state, at first may be fine, after a long time, the child is very afraid, sometimes the parents' voice suddenly increases, the child may be trembling.
Both the loud voice and strong physique of an adult can put pressure on the child's psychology, and the child will involuntarily think that he is wrong and begin to doubt himself.
There are many parents who yell at their children, not only yelling, but also saying some words to insult their children: I am really evil to have a child like you, you are a pig, even a pig is not as good, you are too stupid, etc., the child is still young, they are likely to believe these words of their parents, feel that they are very bad.
Parents instill this kind of thinking in their children for a long time, children will feel inferior to others, they are the beginning of their parents' bad luck, and sometimes they even feel that they are wrong to live, they are not willing to socialize, they are not willing to do something, and may become autistic and depressed.
Children may also form a flattering personality, the parents' yelling indicates their anger, and the child feels that he is bad, and he will carefully please the parents.
They may report good news but not worry, parents hate their poor grades, they will also study hard, strive to get a good grade to make their parents happy, in order to please their parents, learn to do housework, etc., they have lost the appearance of being a child, and such a flattering personality will continue.
Even after work, they may subconsciously please others, the leader fierce himself does not dare to return, will only say good things to make others happy, they also have to let others get the best, grievances themselves to complete others.
Second, children are prone to rebellious psychology
Children who are often yelled at by their parents have always been in a tense state, and if they can't find an outlet for their emotions, they will hold their emotions in their hearts, but sooner or later, this emotion will erupt, and they may vent their dissatisfaction with their parents, never listen to their parents again, fight against their parents or beat their parents, and many misguided people are caused by having an unhappy family.
Children may begin to escape many things, such as other people's reminders, the goodwill of others to remind care as if the parents have roared, subconsciously want to escape, at the same time, the child will also escape from the parents of the event itself, the child because of the homework is yelled, the child may not want to go to school, they are very simple, feel that as long as they do not go to school, they can not be yelled at by their parents.
What better should parents do?
Sometimes parents need to understand the child's inner thoughts, rather than blindly asking the child according to their own ideas, for example, the child is not in the state of writing homework, should ask the child's thoughts, rather than writing can not be finished, do not sleep, drag to the early morning when the loud yelling children, to enter the child's inner world.
Understand why children don't want to write homework, why children don't want to go to school, why children don't have a sense of time, and why they can't play with other children?
Education is very important, if you want to really educate children, you must go deep into the child's heart to educate the child, how to enter the child's heart, solve the contradiction? Parents can enter the child's heart through this book, and good education can affect the child's life.