Every time I see a school bullying incident, it is so thrilling and painful, whose child is not a child? Why should you be bullied and insulted by those bad students? School bullying not only causes physical harm to the victim, but also causes an indelible shadow on his heart.
The child is bullied by the school, the teacher: "Why don't you bully others, but bully you?" ”
Earlier, when my neighbor talked about her child being bullied at school, the mother told me with hatred that her child had been beaten at school twice in a week. At first, the child was timid and did not dare to tell the mother, until the mother found the bruises on the child's body, and then caused the incident to the teacher.
In fact, this child is not only bullied once or twice, before the child was bullied, the first time to find the teacher for help, the result of the teacher only replied: "Why don't they bully others, but only bully you?" ”
The matter of being bullied is not resolved, which further promotes the "prestige" of bullying students and even more brazenly bullying this child. Hearing this, Angry at the same time, I really thought of a question, the teacher said: "Why don't they bully others but only bully you" This sentence is still quite meaningful!
Most of the children who are often bullied in schools come from three kinds of original families
1. Parents have too strong personalities
Parents are too strong personality, it is easy to develop a soft personality of the child, because in the face of the parents' fierce "harsh rebuke", the child gradually loses the courage to refute and express their own ideas. This kind of weak personality, in school, is most likely to be bullied by bad students, because bad students are "old ladies picking persimmons and picking soft pinches." ”
2. Parents are weak and powerless
Many people in life seem to be good bullies because they are too honest and too weak in personality, and this kind of personality will be imperceptibly imperceptibly into children. Even some weak parents, when other children grab their children's toys and snacks, in the face of children who cry aggrieved, such parents are still teaching their children to tolerate everything, do not have to pay attention to him, and then they will not be able to do it.
3. Parents habitually ignore their children's requests for help
Some parents, when faced with their children's small things, always think that it is not too important, so they reprimand their children: "Don't you see that I am busy?" "Over time, children will develop the character of having difficulties and not daring to ask for help." Even if you are bullied by the school, you dare not find classmates, teachers, and parents for help in time, which promotes the "prestige" of bullying students.
How to let children develop a powerful aura
1. Enhance your child's self-confidence
I don't know if parents have found that a person full of self-confidence will not be easily bullied, but those who are in a depressed state and have low self-esteem are the most likely to be bullied. Therefore, from an early age, parents should cultivate the child's confident aura, which can be used as a starting point for every time the child completes a small thing, and when the child encounters difficulties, the parents should make appropriate encouragement, rather than blindly degrading.
2. Be the strongest backing for children
Shapiro, a famous American child psychologist, said: "Having the support of parents will bring children the courage to resist bullying." ”
First of all, it is not encouraged here to help the child fight back when the child is bullied by the classmates. If the child is bullied, the first thing parents should do is to avenge the child, and the second is to persuade the child to endure.
The most rational thing to do is to help the child feedback to the teacher on this matter, and advise the child that when he is bullied again, he must tell the teacher about the situation, and if the teacher does not care, he will report to the director of teaching and even the principal. Even if you fail to punish bad students, you will not dare to bully your children easily in the future.
3. Enhance physical exercise
Playing iron also needs to be hard, if the child has a strong physique, it is not so easy to be bullied by students. Usually encourage children to run more, exercise more, if conditions permit, you can also give your child a taekwondo, sanda and other extracurricular interest classes.
School bullying is not uncommon, but "old ladies pick persimmons, specially pick soft persimmons to pinch", bad students usually bully children with weak personalities, inferiority and thin bodies. In addition to relying on the teacher to take responsibility, parents should also pay attention to the development of their children's personality on weekdays.