Everyone wants to have a lifetime of happiness, to be with their loved ones, to compose a poem and a song from afar.
But if you marry love, you will be able to love to the white head? Why is it that in the era of free love, marriage is becoming more and more fragile, but it is the matchmaker's words of the older generation, which makes people feel more stable?
Of course, it is not excluded that there are too many temptations in today's life, the media in the past is not so developed, and most of the older generations hold the mentality of making up their lives, but marrying love may not really last forever.
Because love is only a stepping stone of marriage, in the long years, the position occupied by life is far less important than imagined, and even vigorous love will be smoothed out by the life of chai rice oil and salt.
For the rest of your life, what do you rely on to make your marriage happy as you wish?
It is something to celebrate when people who love each other can be together, but compared to a cruel life, you will find that sometimes "fit" is more important than "love".
Gu Yiye and Jiang Nanzheng in "Ace Troops" fell in love at first sight and planted the seeds of love in their hearts.
Gu Yiye was born in a large courtyard, handsome in appearance, knowledgeable, fond of military life, and bent on making some earth-shattering careers.
Jiang Nanzheng did not know who her father was since childhood, her mother was talented, raised her alone, beautiful, intelligent, versatile is her characteristics.
Two equally good young men open their hearts to each other, and according to this process of development, it should be normal for them to eventually become married.
However, although the two people are equal in talent and family, they are not necessarily suitable for each other.
It can be said that if Jiang Nanzheng did not take the initiative to take that step forward, it would be difficult to start by relying on Gu Yiye.
Stubborn character, extraordinary origin, coupled with profound knowledge, and excellent performance in the army, doomed a man like him to be haloed everywhere he goes.
But it is also such a man, in fact, is not the best choice for women.
After Gu Yiye's poetry collection sent by Jiang Nanzheng was discovered by the leaders, Zhao Lianchang said to Jiang Nanzheng: "Boys who like Whitman's poems are very proud, their excellence will hurt people, and they must protect themselves." ”
In fact, her words foreshadowed the love between Jiang Nanzheng and Gu Yiye, and it was difficult to make the trip in the end.
Why? In the intersection of the two people, Gu Yiye has always been passive, including taking the initiative to show love and setting a date date, which are all things that Jiang Nanzheng does.
Gu Yiye has been passively accepting, although he also likes Jiangnan Zheng, but he rarely takes the initiative to take care of her.
On their first date in town, Jiang Nanzheng revealed that he would tell Gu Yiye about an important matter that concerned the important people in her life.
However, Gu Yiye missed the appointment because of the car repair on the road, and finally It was Gao Liang who accompanied Jiang Nanzheng and knew the origin of the matter.
Gu Yiye is a person who regards his career as more important than anything else. When he joined the army, a girl tried to stop him, but he made it clear that he longed for military life, not children.
Similarly, in the incident in which he was caught in the collection of poems he sent to Jiangnan Zheng, he did not stand up for himself at the first time.
In terms of the importance of career and love, Gu Yiye chose the former.
Men who can seriously engage in careers are certainly very admirable, but if they want to be with such men, they need to pay a price.
There are often some girls in life who prefer excellent men, thinking that they do not smile and even treat people coldly like icebergs is very cool, but such men are really easy to grasp?
In the TV series, there will always be a domineering president who hugs the beauty, and the beauty is still an ordinary ordinary girl.
But in fact, it is just to win eyeballs, real life is not so bloody, Gu Yiye's attitude towards love is the most realistic.
The better men, the more you can't see the distance, in their hearts, love is never so important, women are used to add icing on the cake, but can not be compared with career.
Obviously, Gu Yiye is such a man.
He is smart, idealistic, and motivated, can eat the hardships that ordinary people can't eat, and can pay what ordinary people can't pay.
He was ambitious, and he expressed his ambition just on the train to the army: "After 24 months I was in the military academy, and after 72 months I graduated from the military academy, and I led the troops in the field troops." ”
He has set clear goals for his life and has been actively preparing for them.
It can be said that in ordinary life, such a man will not be bound by any feelings, even if he is a person who likes it in his heart.
Therefore, the words of the female company commander are to the point, the more excellent the man, the more with the thorn, the woman should avoid it from afar.
On the other hand, the man of GaoLiang, although he is usually a bit prickly, is far from the same starting point as Gu Yiye.
But on the other hand, he is very good, with a vivid brain and can take the initiative to take responsibility. He likes Jiang Nanzheng, and he knows that she doesn't like him, but he knows how to advance and retreat, and he will be a sister if he takes a step back.
He has experienced many bumps in the road of life, but he is single-minded and sunny, and he lives with taste.
Like Jiang Nanzheng, he can sacrifice everything for her, but it does not mean that he gave up his life, on the contrary, he is still redoubling his efforts and has never given up learning.
His fondness for Jiangnan Zheng was proactive, hot, and unabashed. Moreover, he will always appear in time when Jiang Nanzheng needs to accompany her through the period of low mood.
He even took the initiative to resolve the entanglement between Jiangnan Zheng and his father.
A man like Sorghum, who has no culture, is a big grin. He also did not hide his feelings for his comrades-in-arms, and he defended his comrades-in-arms more than once at critical times.
The life he most yearns for is to have a sense of belonging, to live with the people he loves, to live down-to-earth, and the road is to come out little by little by his own ability.
Maybe he can't be the best and brightest one (excluding the protagonist aura of the TV series), but he is the one who can give you the most solid sense of security.
In this regard, Gao Liang and Jiang Defu in "Parental Love" have similarities. Anjie once fantasized about marrying a romantic, handsome and erudite man, but eventually lived a happy life with Jiang Defu.
In the face of marriage, sometimes love is really vulnerable.
Many people are often very contradictory when choosing a mate. Love is beautiful, reality is cruel, so hesitate.
But having love is not a defect, the key is to see if the person you love, whether you plan your future in his life, otherwise the other party is excellent, it is difficult to bring you happiness.
If you want to pursue love, in fact, there is nothing wrong with marrying the right person, the key is to look at your business after marriage, choose a man who is willing to work with you to build a better life, it is not the best choice.
Whether it's marrying love or marrying the right person, the most important factor is the man you want to marry.
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