What should I do if my child learns to rub it?

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Every parent wants their child to be outstanding and have excellent academic performance, but the child's learning attitude is not positive, always grinding and rubbing, what do you say?

Most parents' choices are to urge, urge, and urge again, and when they are in a hurry, they begin to reprimand and scold. However, what makes people feel helpless is that they are also urged, scolded and scolded, but the child just does not have any transformation, and when learning, he can still rub it and delay it.

As parents, we must understand the reasons behind the child's procrastination, actively guide, and really help the child solve the problem, so that the child can gradually eliminate negative emotions and actively fall in love with learning.

1. The urging should be appropriate, and it must not be urged over and over again

In his article "How We Become Fathers Now," Mr. Lu Xun once said: "The world of children is completely different from that of adults, and if we do not understand them first and blindly do things recklessly, we will greatly hinder the development of children."

Unfortunately, most parents are difficult to achieve the four words of "first understanding", if they encounter children who do not like to write homework, the best thing they are good at doing is to urge over and over again, or it is endless nagging. However, children are always urged to learn, they will become very passive, and over time, they will completely lose their enthusiasm and initiative. In the nagging and urging of parents, the pressure of children is increasing, and their emotions are becoming more and more irritable, so how can they be in a happy mood to learn? How can you think hard?

Parents should know that the purpose of urging the child is to let him take the initiative to learn, not to nag and force the child. Therefore, it is very necessary for parents to give their children appropriate reminders and supervision, but pay attention to ways and methods. For example, if your child watches TV for a long time, parents can say, "When do you plan to do your homework?" Boy, wouldn't it be better to finish your homework and watch TV?" Instead of saying, "Hurry up and get your homework done!" If you don't write your homework again, I'll beat you up!" How come you're still watching TV, talking to you a few times, go write your homework!"

2. Children are not allowed to bargain

Helping children develop good habits of active learning is not in daily urging, the key is to have positive and effective guidance. Set disciplinary rules for your child and don't allow your child to bargain. Once the child is allowed to bargain, he will be more procrastinating.

Many parents do a very good job, they will require their children to complete their homework before nine o'clock, and if the child procrastinates, parents will give appropriate punishment; If the child can do a good job, parents will also give timely praise and encouragement.

3. Understand the reasons for your child's procrastination

Although children do things casually and willfully, there is a certain reason behind any of their actions. If parents find that their child is procrastinating when doing homework, they should actively find the reasons for it, rather than blindly criticizing, urging and teaching him, otherwise not only can not get any substantive effect, but also continue to strengthen the child's disgust and procrastination behavior.

The more urgent, the more procrastinating the child. No matter what the reason for the child's delay in learning, we should avoid excessive urging, and only by actively guiding the child and stimulating their initiative is the best way.