Have you ever snubbed your husband for taking care of your children?
Far-sighted families know how to cultivate their children's sense of family responsibility early, rather than circling around the child everywhere and letting the child stand in the absolute center of the home.
How long have you not been in your husband's arms since the moment your child was born? Don't forget, even if the newborn's big and small things need to be paid attention to by the mother at all times, don't ignore the feelings of the other half, the feelings between husband and wife still have to be managed well!
4 reminders to allow you to balance the relationship between husband and wife and parenting at the same time.
1. Express your needs to your partner
Although the traditional view is that childcare is the responsibility of women, most women today have to juggle work, so it is important to involve more than half of them in childcare. Many men have not had the habit of doing housework since childhood, and what they see in the original family is that their mothers are doing housework and child-rearing, so it is easy to keep a distance from housework.
Couples need to moderately reduce their work and personal social entertainment to get along with their families and support each other. It is recommended that when a wife is pregnant, she should take her husband to participate in childcare preparation, such as going to the mother's classroom together and buying baby supplies together. After the child is born, we must also guide the husband to take care of the baby, and don't let himself come because he is not doing well.
2, communication should be skilled
New parents due to physical and mental pressure to make the conflict opportunities more, in order not to further tear the relationship, pay attention to do not communicate in anger, ask each other to do something, at this time should leave the scene to calm down, wait for the emotions to calm down and then communicate; and often express care, encouragement and understanding for their partners, because each other are adapting to the role of parents and more family responsibilities.
If you give the baby to the mother-in-law, you must accept the old man's method, even if there is something unsatisfactory, do not criticize the in-laws in front of the husband, deal with the wrong person, euphemistically put forward their own opinions, and after reaching a consensus with the husband, the husband comes forward to communicate with the mother-in-law.
3. Who brings the child should be arranged in advance
During pregnancy, it is best for husband and wife to jointly plan and arrange for the care of their children after birth, and try to seek more human and social resources for childcare to reduce each other's physical and mental burden and pressure; if they need to take their children home at night, they can first coordinate the division of labor.
4. Create a time for coexistence
Try to arrange a vacation for two, even if it's just for a day or half a day, so that each other can have a chance to catch their breath. Or on a weekly basis, try to find out when both parties can move together, such as one night a week when you can eat out alone or exercise together. When you are not together, you can also call, leave a message, etc. to express your care and encouragement for your partner.
Many wives will hope that their husbands will also sleep with their children, if the children only want their mothers to accompany them, Mr. can often accompany his wife to sleep, and then go to another room to sleep, so that the wife feels less burdened and stressful, and takes into account the intimacy between husband and wife.
Because parenting requires couples to separate the room, is it okay?
Many couples have separate rooms because of child-rearing needs, wives sleep with their newborns, and husbands sleep alone in one room, and even become a long-term state of life! The baby's needs are not only physiological food and clothing, but also the need for love attachment and complete security, before the baby is two years old, parents do need to spend more time with each other, but sleeping with the baby together, it is easy to cause the sleep quality of both people to be bad and the mood is poor.
Many mothers often have pulls on their personal needs and children's needs, and they want to sleep with their husbands and are reluctant to let their babies sleep alone. Letting the child sleep alone at the right time is conducive to cultivating the child's independent consciousness and self-care ability, and the 36-year-old child will be more sensitive to the parental relationship and the problems between the sexes, at this stage let him realize that there is an intimate relationship between the parents, and it is best to practice sleeping alone. Therefore, when the child is 3 years old, you can start training to let the child sleep on his own, at which time the husband and wife can return to the state of the same room.