Life is above all else, this is beyond doubt, in the process of children's growth, achievements, reputation, the title of bully, compared with the child's life and health, can be abandoned and ignored.
The times are getting more and more progressive, and children are gradually in line with international standards, but their psychological quality is getting worse and worse.
Not only can they not accept any setbacks, but a little wind and grass may make them threaten their parents with behaviors such as jumping off buildings and taking their own lives.
Many people ask on social platforms: in the process of children's growth, they will use frustrated education to make them bear certain setbacks.
However, the child's ability to bear not only did not become stronger, but also became more vulnerable in his heart.
Presumably, there must be a lot of parents with this kind of confusion.
In the minds of many parents, the frustration of education is not necessarily as parents imagine, and may even have a counterproductive effect.
This kind of frustrated education is likely to leave a powerful shadow in the hearts of children, making them powerless to face the future life, and even making their psychology enter an extremely fragile state.
[The so-called frustrated education is harmful to children]
1. Question yourself
In order to make their children's psychological endurance stronger and their psychological quality healthier, many parents adopt a frustrated education, hoping to exercise their children's psychological ability.
As everyone knows, this kind of frustrated education will excessively hit the child's self-confidence, and even make them question their ability to act in style.
Not only does it not do them any good for their optimistic personality, but it even leads them into a state of self-denial, which is a naked torture for them.
2, the lack of love in the heart
In the process of growing up, parents who use frustration education will deliberately keep a certain distance from their children.
Even if children achieve good results, they will not encourage them in time.
Although their hearts are very happy, on the surface they are always in a state of dissatisfaction and coldness.
Parents are very picky about everything, so that they lose the awareness and state of continuing to struggle.
Therefore, it will fall into a state of lack of love, so in adolescence, it is often easy to erupt into various psychological problems.
3, is naked torture of themselves
Once parents adopt a frustrating education, for children, the lack of love and encouragement of growth and learning, the heart is full of endless sourness, which is a huge blow to the child's psychology.
This naked torture will leave strong scars on their young hearts, and even pay a terrible price.
【How to help children have stronger psychological endurance】
1, there is love in the family is the most important
If it is said that frustrated education is torture for children, what kind of method can be used to make children's psychological quality more sound and their psychological endurance more powerful?
There is no more effective way than to have love in the family.
Love is the most powerful solution and the most effective.
When children can feel the love of their parents and the harmonious atmosphere of the family, they are bound to make the right choices, and at the same time, they can also have stronger energy in their hearts.
2. Parental encouragement and support
In order to make the child's psychological quality more sound and stable, as a parent, we must create a more stable growth space for the child.
As a parent, understand that encouragement and support are far more effective than the child's blow.
It can make their personalities more confident and capable of facing the unknown future.
Even if anything happens, they can respond effectively in a timely manner, rather than always thinking of the pessimistic side.
3) There are people who absolutely believe in them
In the process of children's growth, the family is their most powerful nourishment, and parents are their biggest backers.
Parents must give them confidence that they can get their parents' support and understanding in anything they do.
When parents can become their strongest backing, whether they are learning or growing, they can have a stronger confidence to make choices.
This is far more important and crucial to them than other things.
4. Know how to face up to your own shortcomings
If you want to make your child have a stronger psychological quality, parents should cultivate them to recognize their own shortcomings from an early age.
Only in this way can children have more room for progress and accept more unknown things.
With their strong psychological quality and ability, they can make their future life more competitive.
【Author's Message】
Liu Xiang said: Books are medicines, and good reading can cure stupidity.
The level of psychological endurance is inseparable from the child's achievements and life and health.
Especially in today's stressful era of education, children's psychology and physical body are subjected to great torture.
This is why so many parents attach so much importance to their children's mental health.
Anti-frustration education and mental health are not directly related, and can even be counterproductive.
Therefore, in the process of children's education, frustrated education parents must be cautious, in order to let children get a better psychological quality, the above points, parents should keep in mind.
Today's topic: Do you think: how to make children's psychological endurance more powerful, is frustration education useful? Feel free to share your practices below.