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Since the liberalization of the birth policy, whether to have two or three children has become the focus of heated discussion.
Although many young people nowadays hold the attitude of having only one baby, in the eyes of the elders, they are still more inclined to have two children, after all, one is too little, three is too much, and two is just right.
When the older generation persuades their children to have a second child, they often use the following reasons:
Now raising one more child is a little bitter, but Nu strives to pull the child up to enjoy the blessing, giving birth to a second child is first bitter and then sweet, only one is now happy, and then it will be bitter when it is old.
It may sound a bit reasonable, but is that really the case? On the Internet, many people have said: The result may not be as optimistic as you think!
Aunt Zhang has a son and a daughter, which is the envy of many people, Aunt Zhang and his wife are ordinary workers, and the economic conditions are average, so the process of raising children is not easy.
But Aunt Zhang always comforted herself that having one more child is to prepare a back road for herself, and she will be able to enjoy the blessings of her children when she is older in the future.
In the blink of an eye, this son and daughter have grown up, but Aunt Zhang has not lived the comfortable and comfortable life she imagined.
After the daughter got married, she married a car, because it was a distant marriage, the daughter could only come back once a year, and filial piety to her parents could only be reflected in the phone and WeChat.
Although the son stayed in the local area, in order to buy a house for his son and manage the marriage, Aunt Zhang and his wife almost hollowed out the family foundation.
I wanted to be closer to my son and take care of each other, but I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to resolutely refuse to live with my in-laws. After the gap between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, Aunt Zhang found that the distance between her and her son was getting farther and farther.
Today's Aunt Zhang can only live with her wife in a dilapidated small house, and the savings in her hand are not much, and even going to a better nursing home is a luxury.
In real life, there are not a few elderly people who have the same experience as Aunt Zhang, and when it comes to the issue of having a second child, the ideas of these elderly people are also very transparent: parents can not get equal returns for their children in many cases, and people have to live for themselves in this life.
Is giving birth to a second child "bitter first and then sweet"? Online, many people have expressed their opinions.
"So far, the general economic conditions of the one-child families around me are stronger than those of multi-child families, and the parents of the one-child families are very happy to enjoy life, and the savings in their hands are relatively large, so I am determined not to have a second child."
"I think it is bitter and then sweet, after 20 years, the difference between the family that has a second child and the family that does not have a second child will be very large, and in the future, everyone will not lack a house or a car, and the lack of people, so the child is the greatest wealth."
"I think the quality of life of parents in their later years has nothing to do with the quality of their children's lives, the most important thing is the education of their children, and their children are naturally good when they become talented, and their children are old and have enough to have one."
"My grandma is in her 80s, with four children, and none of them can count on it."
In the view of many netizens, giving birth to two children, future parents may face such a "dilemma":
Children shirk each other's pension problems for their parents.
It takes a lot of money, and the parents of the average family have limited savings in their later years.
Too much energy is spent on children, and careers and dreams are shelved.
In fact, due to the different circumstances of each family and the different ways of education, the number of children brings completely different feelings to parents, one child has the benefit of one child, and the second child also has the happiness of the second child.
However, nowadays, people's economic level and educational environment are changing, and the pressure on young people is also increasing, whether couples are suitable for having a second child, they need to carefully consider whether to meet the following conditions:
First of all, economic conditions are the basis for having a second child.
Nowadays, the cost of raising a child is very large, and many families have a plummeting quality of life after having a second child.
Especially for some families with a large age difference between Dabao and Erbao, this will bring some negative emotions to Dabao and affect the parent-child relationship.
Secondly, in the family of having a second child, there must be a reliable person who can help share the pressure of the baby, otherwise all the burdens will be on the mother, which will make people physically and mentally tired, and the family atmosphere will become disharmonious.
Finally, parenting education is key.
In the two-child family, many parents have eccentricities and cannot achieve a bowl of water, which will make the unloved child feel very wronged, and will also hurt the feelings between the two children.
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