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Do you have such a feeling: if you want to find a bao mom friend, you often can't find it, but if you want to find a bao dad friend, basically find a quasi?
I can't find a mother, mainly because the time of the mother belongs to the baby and housework. Not playing with the baby, or doing housework, in short, there is no moment of idleness, where the mobile phone is placed may not know, how can you find the mother in time?
I can find Bao Dad because there are many Bao Dads who always keep their mobile phones. Even if you are with the baby, your eyes will glance at the mobile phone from time to time. What's more, there are many bao dads who don't care about the baby at all, and when they get home, they are paralyzed on the sofa to play with their mobile phones, and the others are motionless, and it is naturally easy to find bao dad.
01 Dads, please put down your phone and let your mom play for a while! The child is happy, and the family will be more harmonious
I have seen several videos of teachers "interviewing" children, and the theme is "what Dad likes to do". Guo Mom roughly estimated that 8 of the 10 children said that dad likes to play mobile phones and games, and 1 is like to work overtime and work, only 1 said that dad likes to play with me.
Guo Mom carefully observed the demeanor of these children, and when it came to children whose father liked to play with their hands, their expressions were relatively cold, as if they were talking about a person who had nothing to do with themselves.
And the kid who said, "Daddy likes to play with me," has light in his eyes.
Why let dads put down their phones and let moms play for a while?
Reason 1: Dad puts down the phone and has more time to spend with the child, which has many benefits for the child's growth
How many fathers have not taken a good look at what their children look like, and what has changed?
Put down the mobile phone, the father to accompany the child, participate in the growth of the child, this process, not only to make the parent-child relationship more harmonious, but also to let the child in all aspects of personality, are better improved.
Because, the bravery and pattern that fathers can give their children are irreplaceable by mothers.
Reason 2: Mom has time to pick up the phone, not only to relax, but also to make the home more "perfect"
It is not difficult to find that the vast majority of families are bao moms buying things for the family. It seems that they are all commonly used and inconspicuous small objects, such as socks, facial paper, etc., but Bao Ma is very troublesome when choosing everything.
Bao Dad himself to take the baby, give Bao Mom more time to play hands, then Bao Mom can relax a little, and second, have more time to choose home supplies, which can bring great improvement to the quality of life of the family.
Reason 3: Dad has more time to spend with his wife
Before going to sleep at night, between husband and wife, do they play with their own mobile phones, or do they talk about themselves for a while?
Dad put down the phone, in addition to having more time to spend with the child, but also more time to accompany his wife. The relationship between husband and wife directly determines the family relationship and the education of the child.
The phone is cold, but his wife, is warm!
02 How to get dads to put down their phones? There are 3 ways to try
Naturally, the mothers also hope that the fathers can put down their mobile phones and focus more on their children, themselves, and the family. However, Bao Dad does not necessarily have this consciousness, then Bao Mom will have to get this consciousness back from Bao Dad.
1, and dad to discuss, the family "no mobile phone mode" to get along
Guo Dad also had a period of time before, more addicted to a game, often in front of the child's face also play. Then, pistachios like to go over and watch, and after watching, they also want to play. Guo Dad complained: "You can't play, what do you play?" ”
Pistachio is actually not fascinated by mobile phones, but during that time, she didn't even like picture books so much, often thinking about looking at our mobile phones, returning to her hometown, and going directly to get her grandparents' mobile phones.
This problem is more serious, Guo Mom persuaded Guo Dad to be fruitless, and then said a sentence: "You hope that after 10 years, your girl has been holding a mobile phone, unwilling to study, unwilling to communicate with us?" ”
After listening to it, Guo Dad directly uninstalled the game and returned home to accompany Pistachio to read picture books and play games.
2. Install the software that the child needs on the father's mobile phone
For the father is not very cooperative, then the mother will have to take certain measures.
A friend of Guo Ma's directly installed the software that the child used to do homework and learn to use every day after school on his father's mobile phone. At the end of the evening and weekend, the father had to put down the mobile phone, give it to the child, and then act as a supervisor by the way.
3. Serve the family, put down the mobile phone and take the baby, choose one of the two
Baby, family trivia, choose one of the two, such a choice, absolutely not excessive.
The chores at home generally include housework, buying things for the family, cooking, and so on. These trivial things, in fact, most of the fathers do not like it very much, so in the end, they have only one choice, that is, to bring a baby.
Pistachio Mom message
Mobile phones make our lives convenient, and we should be grateful for the era of electronic information.
However, parents need to remember that mobile phones are just cold machines, and what it brings us should be positive content. If the mobile phone has affected communication, parent-child relationship, children's lives, etc., then parents should first reflect on themselves whether the mobile phone is "overused".
Especially for fathers, playing mobile phones is not their responsibility, wives, children and parents, is their biggest responsibility in this life!
I am a pistachio mother, with a pen in my right hand, a child with my left hand, and becoming a 60-point mother and a 90-point self is the goal I am working towards. Friends who like me can follow me and let's discuss the issue of parenting and self-rearing.
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