Warm Mom said:
In order to let children learn independently, what routines do you use?
I've used the points routine.
It is to let Nuan Nuan write the daily homework in a book, complete a check mark in the back, as long as all the homework is completed before nine o'clock, you can get 10 points, and 100 points can achieve a careful wish.
This routine worked for a long time, and after continuous efforts, Nuan Nuan got a lot of points, and also got the Harry Potter blind box she wanted...
When Nuan Nuan didn't want to study, I also used the routine of asking her to be my little teacher. One day before doing a math problem, I said, "Mom, I'm so tired, can I stop writing my homework?" ”
Tired of writing homework? Of course, this is the old mother's inner monologue, and in reality, I pretended to be calm and said: "If you are a little teacher today, how about you give your mother a lecture?" ”
Nuan Nuan immediately became interested, took the little blackboard over, and said, "This classmate, today we will study this problem." "This method seems to have worked...
However, as the child gets older, the "routine" becomes less and less useful. Only by really allowing children to take the initiative to learn is the root of solving the problem.
The warm "distance math teacher", my good friend Guo Dad, thought from the bottom, how to let the child take the initiative to learn this matter.
Guo Dad grew up in Beijing's Haidian District, from the Renmin University annex all the way to the Netherlands, is a returnee master, but also a native of Haidian Dad.
A few more words.
The book "Mobi Love Mathematics" can allow children to combine hands-on and brain-moving, and carry out systematic and happy learning in the three modules of numbers and calculations, logical thinking and spatial thinking.
This set of books has only one drawback, that is, the topics are too few, and many children are not easy to judge whether the children have learned or not.
Therefore, Guo Dad specially corresponds to the 18 books of "Mobi Love Mathematics" and has produced 18 sets of questions, which can allow parents to test their children's mastery.
Below, I will share this article on how to let children learn independently.
Hello everyone, I'm Guo Dad.
In 1946, the American scholar Edgar Dyer proposed the "learning pyramid" theory. Later, the National Training Laboratory in Maine, USA, also released the "Learning Pyramid" report through experiments. According to the report, human learning is divided into two levels: passive learning and active learning.
Passive learning includes listening, reading, audio-visual, and presentation, and the average retention rate of learning content is 5%, 10%, 20%, and 30%, respectively, and if it is not repeatedly consolidated, most of it will be forgotten.
Active learning includes discussion, practice, and teaching to others, and the average retention rate of learning content is 50%, 75%, and 90%, respectively, and the proportion of learning can be remembered in one study is very large.
I don't think this theory is meant to tell you, you don't need to listen carefully to lectures in class, and you don't need to read a lot. After all, listening carefully to lectures and reading a lot is the foundation, especially in the liberal arts.
However, for science, it is true that children dominate the active learning of self-study + discussion + topic + lecture on the main line, and passive learning as an auxiliary is more efficient, which can really improve children's thinking and ability, and good learning habits are also formed in this way.
1. Education and parenting are actually connected
I have emphasized in many articles before, whether it is the preschool "Mobi Love Mathematics", "You Shoot a Mathematical Mind", or the primary school stage of "Learning and Thinking Cheats", "Super Math Brain", or preschool kindergarten to primary school lower and middle grades more applicable to the "Challenge Soma Cube", in addition to the children did not know the content of individual pure knowledge concepts (such as: vertical and parallel concepts, right angles, sharp angles and obtuse angles) can be told to children first, everything else, Be sure to let the child try to think and solve it on their own first. This is the most important thing.
But unfortunately, many parents, when the child is 3 years old, began to teach their children knowledge, laborious, but by the age of 18, children have not developed the awareness and habit of independent thinking and active learning. Why?
In fact, education and parenting are much in common.
Some parents are busy with work, mainly brought up by the elderly, there may be such a situation: due to the doting of the elderly, the child clothes to reach out, food to open the mouth, and even a child a look, the elderly know what the child needs to do.
Such children often speak late, their independence will be poorer, they can eat on their own later, and many of the things they should have done independently still need to rely on others, let alone help others to do what they can.
What is the main reason? It is that there are fewer links for children to try and make mistakes independently, and the improvement of children's abilities comes from independent attempts and mistakes.
2. Learning and eating is actually a truth
Taking the child eating as an example, when the child is very young, he must be fed and fed. But when children grow up and can eat on their own, they are often used to being fed and will not eat if they are not fed. Not only did they not eat, but they also cried and made trouble, and even beat up what they ate.
At this time, the family has two levels and the children have one pass. Only after these three levels have passed, the child can eat well and independently, and does not need to be fed.
The first level: before the child tries, parents should not be distressed that the child will be hungry in the short term
From birth, children eat and drink passively, and only need to open their mouths. Then the child must be waiting to be fed before trying to eat on his own.
If the rice is brought to the child's side, but no one feeds it, the child will definitely not take the initiative to eat. Not only will you not take the initiative to eat, but you may also cry: before this point in time, you can eat delicious food with your mouth open, why not this time? No, I'm going to cry! Protest! I don't eat anything!
At this time, whether it is the elderly at home, or parents, many will be soft-hearted, afraid that the child will be hungry and affect the physical development. However, this worry is actually completely superfluous, because today's children are often taken care of too well, each meal has a lot of nutrition, with reasonable, colorful and fragrant food, hungry one or two meals really do not matter.
The second level: children should realize that they can only eat on their own and have more choices.
In fact, compared with the two levels of parents, this level of children is very easy to pass.
Maybe as long as a few minutes, as long as the family insists on not feeding the child, the child may understand for himself that if he wants to eat delicious food now, he can only rely on his own hands and will try to eat on his own. (Instead of the family telling the child how to eat by himself)
In addition, eating by yourself has another advantage, and you have a certain degree of choice by yourself: you can eat more dishes you like, and you can eat less dishes that you don't like so much.
The third level: Parents should not be afraid to clean up the unbearable battlefield.
Children begin to try to eat on their own, whether they are good at hand or with tableware, they are bound to eat on the table, the ground is everywhere, and it is also possible to eat slowly. The child himself feels that it does not matter, but the parents will feel that it will waste too much to cause the child to not eat enough, or leak everywhere, and it will take more time and energy to clean up, and it is more tiring than feeding.
Some parents, in order to be afraid of trouble, either blame their children for not being serious about how to eat, or feel that their children cannot eat by themselves, and they return to the feeding mode.
In fact, at this time, parents must have a firm attitude and continue to let their children eat by themselves every day, and the children will definitely leak less and less, eat more and more, and eat faster and faster.
3. How can children learn actively?
In fact, children take the initiative to learn and eat on their own, and the difficulties that need to be overcome are exactly the same as eating by themselves.
The first level: before the child takes the initiative to learn, parents should not think that the child can not take the initiative to learn.
This problem is the problem of parents' awareness that I have repeatedly emphasized in many previous articles. Many parents complain that their children do not have self-motivation, are unwilling to think independently, and take the initiative to learn, but in fact, the root of the problem lies in the parents.
Many parents subconsciously believe that the main purpose of teachers, whether in the classroom or outside the classroom, is to teach children knowledge; on the other hand, the most important way for children to obtain knowledge is the classroom and the teacher.
Parents will feel that if the child can learn on his own, what else does the teacher need to do? The teacher has not fully understood it after the class, can it be understood without talking?
Here, I am not denying the importance of the teacher, nor the importance of the teacher imparting knowledge in the classroom. If the teacher is good at guiding children to think and encouraging children to think, it will definitely make children think independently and their ability to learn independently will be enhanced.
After class, children can also freely explore content related to the content of the class but more difficult and interesting than the content of the class according to the knowledge and methods learned in the class.
However, when parents tutor their children one-on-one after class, if they still follow the methods that parents tell and children listen to, it is really a big mistake.
The mistake of parents is that they will take it for granted that as long as the knowledge that has been taught will be the child, the child who has not talked about the knowledge will not be able to, so that the child's independent thinking and independent learning opportunities will be obliterated, and the child's self-drive will not be exercised.
The second level: the child must realize that he must think about the problem and solve the problem on his own, and it is interesting and fulfilling to do so.
The second level is also exactly the same as the child's own meal: first of all, parents need to clearly tell the child before letting the child think about the problem by himself, there is no teacher in this part, and there is no parent to tell you, you must think by yourself to solve the problem.
This can make children who are accustomed to being "fed" knowledge points and methods by teachers and parents realize that no one can help me now, and I have to think for myself. At this time, parents do not tell their children about the method, but they must encourage and support their children, and they must be able to come up with it themselves.
At this time, the child will gradually overcome the difficulties, begin to think independently, and slowly find that he thinks independently and does the right topic, which is very interesting and has a sense of accomplishment. At this time, parents should not be stingy to give praise!
The third level: parents should not be afraid of the increase in short-term wrong questions and performance fluctuations caused by their children's active learning
This level returns to the issue of parental awareness. In fact, parents know that even if they do not focus on the habits and growth of their children's life, the purpose of learning in the preschool and primary school stages is to lay the foundation for the learning of children in the middle school stage, and more bluntly, to achieve good results in the middle school entrance examination and the college entrance examination.
So, in the primary school stage, is the score of each exam important, or is it more important to cultivate children's good learning habits, especially the awareness and ability to think independently and actively learn? In fact, parents also know that it must be the latter.
Whether it is in-class examinations or extracurricular tests, and listening to lectures in class, parents talk again after class, and then repeat the brush questions, children who have just begun to learn on their own, whether in the usual practice or in the exam, may be more wrong questions. At this time, parents must adhere to the correct path and encourage their children at the same time.
Parents must let their children realize that the wrong question is not terrible, find the problem to solve the problem, and encourage the child to analyze the reason for each wrong problem, if they can not solve it, and then discuss with the teacher or parents.
Short-term error questions increase and grade fluctuations are not terrible, as long as the long-term insistence on independent thinking, in the long run, children will definitely get better and better, and with the increase of age, the difficulty of the question increases, the advantage will be greater and greater. However, in this process, it is inseparable from the persistence and encouragement of parents.
4. As long as parents guide well, they are not afraid that children will not take the initiative
Today's article, as well as many of my previous articles and weChat groups, is the same as the point conveyed by everyone: whether it is preschool or primary school, mathematical learning is essential. However, in mathematical learning, parents must not blindly pursue the content of learning, the difficulty is not high, and they cannot blindly compare with other children regardless of the actual situation of their children.
As long as parents insist on using the correct method to encourage and guide their children to think independently, take the initiative to learn, and fall in love with mathematics, rather than blindly instilling, repeated practice, and pursue full scores, their children will certainly be able to learn mathematics well, and they will be able to get better in science subjects in middle school.
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