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Recently, I like to brush up on the Internet to promote traditional culture, watch the villagers, clans worship the ancestors of the scene, feel that this kind of not forgetting the ancestors, not forgetting the original, keeping the etiquette of the inheritance is very rare, look at it also to cultivate themselves. However, this spirit is good, and some netizens' comments are more foul-smelling, like old antiques from thousands of years ago.
For example, in a video, the girl as the eldest daughter instead of the father to worship the ancestors, there are netizens in the comments said: "The great rebellion, not the class, since ancient times, there has been no woman to worship the ancestors." "It seems that women are inferior, but in this society where men and women are equal, men and women are the same, they are the descendants of their ancestors, and girls worship their ancestors.
Like a friend of mine, my parents are more enlightened. Whenever the ancestors are worshipped during the New Year's Festival, the father of a friend will let his daughter be the first to worship. Sometimes friends are embarrassed, thinking that they are female dolls, and the ancestors will make people laugh, so they push their brothers forward, and the father says: "The boss should be the first to worship, whether male or female, you are all descendants of my Song clan." This sentence of the father made the daughter very moved, and also won the praise of the crowd. This is the tutoring, this is the pattern, this is the etiquette inheritance worthy of the ancestors. Because the eldest daughter is older than the son, she should be valued, and cannot be looked down on because of her gender, and later bullied by her brother.
Parents educate their children, inherit the tradition is precious, and it is gratifying to abandon the dross
In fact, when parents educate their children, it is very valuable to pass on some traditional culture to their children, after all, many of the things that have been handed down for thousands of years by the ancestors are the crystallization of wisdom. Like some open-minded ideas, some teachings that make us respect the old and love the young, and some ingenious craftsmanship, etc., it is indeed worth learning and inheriting. But some crap ideas, we don't have to continue to pass on. In particular, the idea of son preference should have been abandoned long ago.
Since ancient times, men have been inferior to women, but now that women's consciousness has risen, women also have to earn money to support their families, which is a real "half of the sky". Therefore, parents should no longer pass on this idea of male superiority and female inferiority to their children, especially in such things as ancestor worship, and daughters can also "take their hands", because daughters are as good as sons.
Families have children, and parents should treat their children equally so as not to affect brotherhood
For my friend's father above, "the boss should be the first to worship, whether male or female, you are all descendants of my Song clan", this is not only a manifestation of the father's non-preference for sons, but also a defense of the daughter's dignity as a sister to be respected by her brother. Just imagine, if the father did not let the sister worship the first, and also said that "there has been no daughter worship since ancient times", then the younger brother will also feel that the sister is inferior to him, and the sister as a girl is not worthy of worshiping the ancestors. Then, in daily life, he will not know how to respect his sister, and even ridicule and ridicule his sister, in the long run, the brother-in-law relationship between the sisters and brothers will inevitably deteriorate.
Therefore, in families with sons and daughters, parents should treat their children equally, treat things as they are, and do not treat two children differently because of gender relations, so that the two children will be estranged. Let the boss appropriately let the second brother, but also let the second brother know how to respect the "authority" of the boss as an older brother or sister.
Today's topic: Netizens, what do you think of the father's practice of letting his daughter worship his ancestors for the first time?
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