After the opening of the second child, there have been many elderly women across the country, although many experts have called for the risk of advanced birth, and the majority of mothers should be cautious, but they cannot stop the hearts of mothers who want children. Many mothers are not prepared, the idea is to have a second child, and the result of no plan makes the life of many mothers miserable.
But Aunt Liu is not a reckless mother, she has been thinking about having a second child since her child went to college. Aunt Liu's plan is like this, Dawa went to college, and her future life basically did not have to take care of herself, and she also had more time, so when Aunt Liu was 49 years old, the family ushered in a second child.
Aunt Liu likes to take her little baby for a walk in the community garden, on this day, Aunt Liu met a middle-aged man who came for a walk with a child like herself, dressed fashionably and spiritually. When the two people communicated, they found that the other was 49 years old, and the other person said: "Oh, I am about to retire, and my grandson came out to play, how old is your grandson this year?" ”
Aunt Liu felt a little embarrassed and said, "This is my son, just one year old." The other party also felt that his misunderstanding made Aunt Liu uncomfortable, and he hurriedly found an excuse and slipped away.
Aunt Liu went home to look at her state and dress, a little depressed, did she look so unspiritual, not like her own child's mother?
Although the age difference is not large, there is still a difference between being a 49-year-old mother and a 49-year-old grandmother, not only in identity, but also in life.
1. There is a gap in bringing children
When bringing a baby, the 49-year-old mother usually carries the baby alone, and the 49-year-old grandmother has her own daughter-in-law to help, that is, the 49-year-old mother has to spend more energy on her children in life, while the 49-year-old grandmother does not. If your mother wants to find someone to help, no one may be able to help. Generally speaking, the 49-year-old mother is more than seventy years old and has no energy to help, and the children have just entered the society, and they cannot be distracted from taking care of this little brother and sister.
2. Money distribution
Mothers have to worry about the future of their children, children have problems in learning Parents also have to worry, it is possible to wait until they are old, there is no way to work to raise children, children can not support themselves, then the distribution of money at this time will be a problem.
As a grandmother, you don't have to worry about this aspect, but if you are a mother, if the boss is not satisfied when distributing money, then there is likely to be a serious family conflict.
What preparations should a 49-year-old mother have?
1. Arrange the time reasonably
Many mothers say that because they are taking care of their children day and night, they are sleep-deprived, and they look like they are older teenagers, and their haggard bodies make their mental outlook very bad. At this time, elderly mothers should rest more, let their husbands take care of their children more, and give themselves a little time to rest.
2. Have money reserves
Enough money is the foundation of raising a child, and making a calculation before having a child and seeing how much it will probably cost is a start. After calculating, you should see how much you can pay, add, subtract and subtract to prepare a similar amount of money to prepare.
3. Good attitude
The mother must have a good attitude to meet the child, and the child's birth will join the family in a loving environment. The mother is ready so that after giving birth, there will be no anxiety and bad emotions, and the anxious mother will raise an anxious baby, and parents should pay attention to this.
epilogue:
After the opening of the second child, this kind of embarrassing parents of different generations of the same age are not uncommon, and mothers sacrifice a lot for their children, but they also have to think more about themselves, rest more, and raise children with a good mood, so that children can become healthier and healthier.