Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
We first meet the needs of children for their parents' dependence before we can cultivate their independent character.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
We first meet the needs of children for their parents' dependence before we can cultivate their independent character.
To help children manage their emotions, there are the following points to refer to:
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
We first meet the needs of children for their parents' dependence before we can cultivate their independent character.
To help children manage their emotions, there are the following points to refer to:
Empathy, recognition of the child's emotions;
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
We first meet the needs of children for their parents' dependence before we can cultivate their independent character.
To help children manage their emotions, there are the following points to refer to:
Empathy, recognition of the child's emotions;
Draw boundaries and hold children accountable for their actions;
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
We first meet the needs of children for their parents' dependence before we can cultivate their independent character.
To help children manage their emotions, there are the following points to refer to:
Empathy, recognition of the child's emotions;
Draw boundaries and hold children accountable for their actions;
Guide correctly and teach children how to manage their emotions.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
We first meet the needs of children for their parents' dependence before we can cultivate their independent character.
To help children manage their emotions, there are the following points to refer to:
Empathy, recognition of the child's emotions;
Draw boundaries and hold children accountable for their actions;
Guide correctly and teach children how to manage their emotions.
When a child is sad, angry, or scared, it is also the time when he needs his parents the most.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
We first meet the needs of children for their parents' dependence before we can cultivate their independent character.
To help children manage their emotions, there are the following points to refer to:
Empathy, recognition of the child's emotions;
Draw boundaries and hold children accountable for their actions;
Guide correctly and teach children how to manage their emotions.
When a child is sad, angry, or scared, it is also the time when he needs his parents the most.
When we identify with our children's emotions, we are also teaching them how to comfort themselves, and this ability will benefit them for a lifetime.
Children lose their temper and do not control their emotions well, most of which are parents who do not know how to guide.
As the saying goes, "blocking" is not as good as "slacking", unconditionally accepting children, and correctly guiding the release of children's emotions is the only way to ease their emotions.
Do your baby have these times when emotions are out of control:
Seeing that a certain toy was not bought, he sat on the ground and cried;
Holding an iPad to watch cartoons, saying a few words to make trouble when building blocks;
When encountering difficulties, they directly threw the parts on the ground at school and were robbed of toys by classmates;
Will be mad or even hit people;
When a child's emotions are out of control, is there really nothing that can be done?
Why is my child emotionally out of control?
The English word for emotion is Emotion, and one explanation is Emotion = Energy in Motion, that is, emotions are flowing energy.
To manage emotions, it is not to suppress them, but to give them an outlet and let it flow.
Children's understanding and expression of emotions are still in the stage of ignorance.
They shout, throw things, lose their temper, and express their emotions with direct actions.
And the emotion itself, in fact, is important.
If you compare it to an emotional thermometer, the higher the temperature, the higher the level, and the more intense the emotion.
Different emotional levels, as well as different body language signals.
0-60 degrees, which is a mild mood swing, such as impatience, not speaking well, etc.;
60-90 degrees, belongs to the moderate mood, has a more obvious anger, will shout, throw things, slamming doors, provoking parents, etc.;
90-100 degrees is an extreme emotional outburst, often accompanied by screaming and crying in the child's exhaustion, cursing with vicious words, and even the behavior of punching and kicking.
If we can be one step earlier than bad temper, detect the child's emotional temperature in time, and actively intervene before reaching the outbreak zone, then, many times, we may be able to avoid the child's emotions and develop to the point of being uncontrollable.
How should parents face their children's tantrums?
One of the most vivid theories in "Positive Discipline", the "palm brain", clearly and simply demonstrates how the brain loses its mind when emotions come.
Our brains, like a fist, the thumb is the most terrifying emotional monster, and the other four fingers are the "brain lids."
When we are calm, the thumb is placed in the palm of the hand and clenched into a fist, the "brain lid" is closed, and the emotional monster is locked inside.
And when we lose our temper and clash with people, the emotional switch is touched, and the four fingers open to open the "brain lid", and the emotional monster instantly goes up.
Many times we think that by expressing understanding and identification with our children's emotions, they will be able to calm down. But it's not enough to identify with emotions.
Wait for the child's mood to ease, guide him to adjust his cognition, and look at the things that cause him trouble from another perspective.
For example: "You feel angry that your toy was accidentally broken by a classmate."
But you can't get the toy back to its original state when you hit someone. Let's think together to see if there is a better way, okay? ″
A number of 9 communication cases have developed children with high emotional intelligence
When the child loses his temper, the parents' words and deeds directly affect the child. The following different communication and processing methods are worth thinking about for all parents, let's take a look at it together.
1. When the child throws a tantrum and throws something
× "Don't throw things around anymore!" ”
√ "You throw these toys, I'd think you don't like playing with them anymore." Is something going on? ”
When the child loses his temper, the more the parents say what I don't want to do.
It's better to talk to them from a different perspective and tell them, "What are you doing, this behavior can't express what you want to say." ″
2. When a child gets angry and hits someone
× "You hit someone again!" ″
√ "It's normal for you to be angry, you're angry, but it's not right to hit someone." ″
Let's be clear: emotions are not wrong, what is wrong is the way they are expressed.
Hitting people and kicking people is not allowed to hurt others and hurt themselves, and taking out other things is not the best way to solve anger.
3. When a child does something wrong and needs to be punished
× "Enough, you stand over there, you can't come out without my permission." ″
√ "We can find a place to calm down." ″
This kind of timing punishment will only escalate the child's anger again.
For children, knowing what they have done wrong is more important than meaningless punishment.
4. When the child is working against the parents
× "Brush my teeth/eat/sleep now!" ″
√ "Do you want to brush the bunny first, or do you want to brush yourself first?" ″
For children, tantrums are one of the ways they want to take the initiative, when they want to
5. When your child can't listen to you
× "Tell you so many times, have you listened to it?" ″
√"I said it again, and then you whispered it in my ear so I knew if you had listened. ″
Speaking at a different volume, the child will remember the thing because it is very fun. Repeating it again can also have a consolidating effect.
The louder they yell at them, the less likely they are to listen.
6. When the child has no intention of learning
× "Don't lose your mind and concentrate. ″
√ "This is hard isn't it?" Let's rest for 17 minutes and come back. ″
Depending on the study, playing the piano, or practicing, you can use this method to find your attention.
7. When a child cries in public
× "You're so ashamed." ″
√ "Let's find a place where no one is and solve this problem." ″
In this case, if you double down on the reprimand, things may go even worse.
Taking them away and finding a suitable place to solve the problem will not only avoid further deterioration of the matter, but also have a better ending.
8. When the child makes a fuss for no reason
× "You're making a fuss for no reason." ″
√ "You're having a hard time right now, let's face it together." ″
Psychologist John Goldman shares a story in his book Raising Children with High Emotional Intelligence:
The 3-year-old daughter, because her mother was taking care of entertaining guests who suddenly visited, did not have time to play by herself, so she angrily scribbled on the sofa.
When she found out and asked her what was wrong, she took the paintbrush and said, "I don't know. ″
Goldman was angry, and he told his daughter that he was angry and disappointed because she had chosen to lie.
Instead of understanding the child as usual, he cleaned up the marks on the couch together and told her about the importance of telling the truth.
Finally, I discussed today's emotions and behaviors with my daughter.
John Goldman argues:
"If the child has a strong emotional connection with the parent, when the parent is sad, disappointed or angry, the child's heart will be so bad that they are willing to be a well-behaved child." ″
9. When the child cries when he has an emotional breakdown
× "I count 321, you give me a stop!" ″
√ "If green represents calm, yellow represents frustration, and red represents anger." I am now walking from the yellow room to the red room. What about you? Which room are you in now, and how do we get back to the green room? ″
When we are angry, the body reacts with stress, making us feel insecure.
In addition to accompanying their children, parents also need to give a visual image of emotions, so that uncertain and abstract emotions become concrete, which can more effectively help children manage emotions.
We first meet the needs of children for their parents' dependence before we can cultivate their independent character.
To help children manage their emotions, there are the following points to refer to:
Empathy, recognition of the child's emotions;
Draw boundaries and hold children accountable for their actions;
Guide correctly and teach children how to manage their emotions.
When a child is sad, angry, or scared, it is also the time when he needs his parents the most.
When we identify with our children's emotions, we are also teaching them how to comfort themselves, and this ability will benefit them for a lifetime.
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