As a parent, I always hope that my child can have a skill outside of learning, so that in the future, in addition to academic performance, children can have other places to be proud of, either for the cultivation of interest, or for the fun of children's extracurricular life. There are always many parents who enroll their children in many art interest classes, such as basketball, football, guitar and piano. Girls are like swimming and dancing, painting music. Always a lot of heart in terms of interest cultivation.
But sometimes the sky is not what people want, many children learn well, and some even study for a long time, and they have not yet become leaders, nor are they not learning well, but they give up and no longer insist. This makes some parents very uncomfortable, the money of the interest class has spent a lot of money, not to mention, the interest cultivated by hard work does not continue, and then learn new? It costs money again, and you have to learn from the basics, and what you learned before can't be used, why?
The first question is to consider whether the child himself likes this interest, because many parents believe that the younger the child's age, the greater the space for progress, so when the child cannot make self-choice, he will report to them what he thinks is a good interest class, and he does not know whether this is what the child likes. Due to curiosity at the beginning of school, coupled with the fact that his likes and dislikes are not very clear at a young age, the children in this period are still a well-behaved baby who concentrates on learning their strengths in the eyes of parents. And when the child grows up, the contact with more things, has its own judgment of its own preferences and interests, at this time, if the parents choose the interest class is not what they like, they will choose to give up, even if the obedient child, even if he does not choose to give up learning, but also because of the loss of interest, in the specialty learning has become flat, lost self-motivation. The so-called sharpening knife does not mistakenly chop wood, for the child's interest cultivation can not be premature, even if you want to let the child contact early, it is best to choose the interest class to let the child contact a class or two, from which the child chooses the most interested to learn.
The second is that children have doubts about their "talents", you know, people are more popular than dead, some people are born sensitive to some things, the same in terms of interest, just like in school, even if they are hard-working children, academic performance is also high and low, in the interest class is the same, children will meet people who are faster than their own learning, when their grades are low and others' grades improve, they will inevitably be hit, thus giving birth to the idea of giving up. At this time, we need to be the support and guidance behind the parents, more encouragement, in order to build the child's self-confidence, praise the child more, the child's high cheer when the game. But be careful not to set too high goals for children, unreachable peaks will make children have the confidence that they cannot climb, of course, this is also applicable to learning.
Finally, give your children more opportunities to show. Many children will be confused when learning their strengths, they do not understand what they are learning for, because their age does not understand what is called "a skill", they will only see in front of them, see that what they are learning has nowhere to play, and do not want to continue the idea. This requires us as parents to create more opportunities for children to show, if it is music singing, let the children perform in front of the elders; if it is painting and calligraphy, let the children decorate their homes; if it is a sports specialty, often give the child some competitions to let him get the award. When children's strengths are fully demonstrated, then they will have a greater interest in the cultivation of interest and have a way forward.
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