What kind of person you marry, you will have what kind of second half of your life.
Girls are very cautious about marriage, most of them will pay attention to each other's character and family situation, put aside the spirit and talk about materials, it is easy to make themselves regret.
There is a female college student, her concept of marriage and love is different from others, when she goes on a blind date, she asks to marry the second generation of the rich, and also puts forward three requirements for her mother-in-law, so that the man is also surprised, can she really fulfill her wishes?
The non-rich second generation does not marry, what is missing is independent values
The girl, Zhu Lanjun, is a sophomore who signed up for a blind date.
When the red lady asked her requirements, she said: "I want to marry the second generation of rich people worth more than 50 million yuan, do not demolish households, do not want the combination of urban and rural areas, and the rich generation of entrepreneurs is not OK, that is, the kind of people with a very thick family foundation, such as Huo Qigang, who Guo Jingjing married." ”
This request also frightened the red lady, and she had seen someone who dared to make a request, but it was the first time she had seen it.
She was afraid that she had misunderstood, and asked for sure?
Zhu Lanjun explained: "Yes, if I don't marry the second generation of the rich, my good qualities such as appearance, figure, and social etiquette will be ruined, and I don't want my soul to be wronged." ”
Red Lady told her that the blind date show will be broadcast, such remarks may be discussed by everyone, if you do not want your life to be affected, you can change the statement.
The reminder is already obvious, you want to find the mood of the rich second generation can be understood, but such values are biased, if the discussion can really bear?
Zhu Lanjun was dismissive, she said: "Those who talk about it, what can they bring me, they can't give me anything, why should I care?" ”
Well, it is really ignorant and fearless, since Zhu Lanjun wants to marry the second generation of rich people, the red lady found a man with matching conditions, met in a private room in the hotel, who knows, the man has not yet arrived, Zhu Lanjun will eat first, the red lady quickly reminded her not to spit on it, it is best to wait for the man to arrive before eating.
She didn't care to stop the chopsticks, maybe not think so much, after the man came in, she put forward three requirements for the future mother-in-law, namely to distinguish between right and wrong, integrity, and truth-seeking.
This brain hole is also incomprehensible, blind date does not care about the quality of the man? How can you skip the man and ask for your mother-in-law?
Through Zhu Lanjun's nonsensical words, we can see the bias of her values, she bases her happiness on taking, but forgets to demand herself, which is a mistake in itself.
Attachment psychology, no matter who you marry, it is difficult to be happy
In psychology, attachment types are also divided into three types: avoidant attachment, contradictory attachment, and anxious attachment.
Judging from Zhu Lanjun's situation, she belongs to the contradictory attachment, she is eager to be close to the other party, and she is afraid of being rejected, and her heart is full of contradictions, so she will put forward nonsensical demands, and after being rejected by the other party, it can just become an excuse to think that the other party is not worthy of herself.
Zhu Lanjun longs for a comfortable life and does not want to work his own, which is a contradiction in itself.
A person's thinking and vision are related to their own living environment, those who really have good living conditions, the requirements for the daughter-in-law are also very high, you have a general education, and there is no special skill, but also covet pleasure, why does the other party look at you?
Red Niang suggested that Zhu Lanjun could find a man who matched the conditions, and her divine logic came again: "Ordinary family affairs are many, I don't want to deal with their relatives, even the in-laws and mother-in-law don't want to pay attention." ”
It can be seen that her thinking is very paranoid, it is really difficult to step into the giants, the red lady is very enthusiastic, and helped her introduce a "potential" man, the other party is starting a business, the ability is also good.
After the two met, Zhu Lanjun asked about each other's work, he was disappointed, and also made his own unique remarks: "I don't see that you have any potential, you work now, you will continue to work, I don't want to work with you." ”
High is not climbing, low is not, it is said that a woman like Zhu Lanjun, she is ordinary and confident, focusing on herself, this kind of overly self-psychology, but also makes it difficult for her to get close to others.
True happiness is the sense of security that one gives
Someone on the Internet asked: "What kind of feelings will be happy?" ”
Someone else tells their story below.
The woman was born in the countryside, her parents died unexpectedly, and in order to make a living, she came out to work before graduating from college.
When she was working, she met her boss who expressed her love to herself, and she knew that if she agreed, she could get rid of poverty immediately, and even have the opportunity to live a comfortable life.
But she refused, changed a job from scratch, met a like-minded person, the two established a relationship, although they can not afford to buy a house, but after work can eat together at the roadside stall is also happy, because the two have the same values, are hard-working people who are not afraid of hardship.
After 5 years, the two married and had a very small house, but this starting point made them happy, and the two had a common goal for the future, which was exciting to think about.
They changed from a small house to a big house, and they also had their own children, and the family lived a good life, and her experience was that two people can be happy when they are together.
Happiness is actually no standard, some people live in mansions are very sad, some people in the rental house to eat noodles are very happy, the key is the people around you, can you bring yourself a sense of hope.
People's needs are hierarchical, the most basic needs are food and clothing, after solving the food and clothing, what you want is love, and you have a sense of value after love.
Zhu Lanjun's single-minded desire to marry the second generation of the rich also reflects that her needs are still at the material level, if she can't recognize herself, even if she has a lot of money, she will not be happy, because people's desires are endless.
She did not succeed in her blind date twice, did not reflect on herself, but attributed the reason for the failure to the red lady, thinking that the red lady was good-looking, good at talking, stealing her limelight, and it was also hilarious.
If she can't recognize herself, even if she is brought to the circle of the rich, she will not be able to find the love that suits her.
To be truly happy, you need to explore inward, establish your own sense of value, and then attract people of the same frequency to come around, and when the two have a loving connection, they will have needs to meet.
In this life, we are all looking for love and chasing happiness, but don't get lost, happiness can have money, but having money is not necessarily happy, learn to be self-reliant, in order to get closer to happiness.